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Hi, I have posted a thread on a similar topic about 5 months ago. However, I am honestly still confused. This issue which I am facing has to do with the Bible verses 2 Corinthians 6:14-18 (NKJV):
I have often read online that Christians are not supposed to have close friendships with non-Christians. But what exactly is a close friendship? And how does it differ from a quality or meaningful friendship?
It is important to note that I have psychiatrist-diagnosed Religious OCD/Scrupulosity (please pray for me). OCD so often targets that which is valuable and meaningful to me and tries to take them away from me in any possible way. This issue has been giving me a really bad anxiety today, though I am not certain whether or not this issue comes from OCD. When I brought this issue up with my Christian psychiatrist in the past, he told me that it is alright as long as I am not negatively influenced by those relationships. I would love to know what other Christians say though. Thanks a lot!
"Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God. As God has said:
'I will dwell in them
And walk among them.
I will be their God,
And they shall be My people.'
Therefore
'Come out from among them
And be separate, says the Lord.
Do not touch what is unclean,
And I will receive you.'
'I will be a Father to you,
And you shall be My sons and daughters,
Says the Lord Almighty.'"
Over the past 8 months, I have developed meaningful relationships with two of my friends. They are non-Christians, one is a Catholic by name only and the other is a Taoist (which I suppose is by name only as well). I managed to form these relationships as we used to work closely together in a team. It was in a nonprofit I co-founded, which strived to provide supplemental education to the street children of Jakarta. They may be the only non-Christian friends in my life who are not superficial. We are able to be honest to each other. We talk a lot about mental health issues, our own personalities and habits, school, and also life in general. Often times, we joke around in a non-sinful manner. I already consider them as my own little brother and sister (though not in the sense of a brother and sister in the Lord, for obvious reasons), and they likewise consider me as their brother; I love them and care for them so much. And they know well that I am a Christian who takes his faith seriously. However, I am also aware of the influences non-Christian friends can have on a Christian. And I do not want to, in any way, compromise my obedience to Christ for their sake (or their acceptance). I also do not go to them for advice as I know that their advice will mostly not be based on Scripture; I provide them with advice instead. That is where I draw the line. As a result, I recently was able to share the gospel with one of them. I gained her trust which allowed her to ask me some deep questions about life, and through that I shared the gospel with her. She seemed to have been thinking about what I said to her. I am also in a healthy church, and I do have a Christian mentor from my church (although the relationship is more of a supporting each other/keeping each other accountable/praying for one another relationship rather than a teacher-disciple relationship). Do my relationships with my two non-Christian friends violate 2 Corinthians 6:14-18?'I will dwell in them
And walk among them.
I will be their God,
And they shall be My people.'
Therefore
'Come out from among them
And be separate, says the Lord.
Do not touch what is unclean,
And I will receive you.'
'I will be a Father to you,
And you shall be My sons and daughters,
Says the Lord Almighty.'"
I have often read online that Christians are not supposed to have close friendships with non-Christians. But what exactly is a close friendship? And how does it differ from a quality or meaningful friendship?
It is important to note that I have psychiatrist-diagnosed Religious OCD/Scrupulosity (please pray for me). OCD so often targets that which is valuable and meaningful to me and tries to take them away from me in any possible way. This issue has been giving me a really bad anxiety today, though I am not certain whether or not this issue comes from OCD. When I brought this issue up with my Christian psychiatrist in the past, he told me that it is alright as long as I am not negatively influenced by those relationships. I would love to know what other Christians say though. Thanks a lot!