Think God may be trying to tell me something but---

Macchiato said:

But i love him and he loves me too. He shows me he just has a few bad habits but i feel i can help him change them.

But im going to pray abt everything. In the meantime what do you think.

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Let's put it this way.
You like drive at high speed through town, jumping stop lights etc. Do you think the courts will go easy on you because you claim to be a law abiding citizen!

The Bible is crystal clear, no sex before marriage.

Try engaging your brain and thinking about this guy.

Is he capable of loving you in the sacrificial way a Christian man has to?
To be blunt, he is dealing with his bad habits.

Is he capable of leading you spiritually, to help you grow as a Christian?

Is he an example of Christ likeness?

If the answer is no why are you seeing him.

Macchiato said:

I think youre right i think i will pray and fast. Its hard bc i love him he makes me feel seen. I feel i have no one. My family ignores me and i dont have any friends. It'll be hard going back to nothing and being invisible again.

Id love to marry him but cant for a few reasons one being i know were unequally yoked.

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If you are unevenly yoked then you don't belong together, you guys will never see eye to eye, there will come a point where your trying to move closer to the Lord and he will not like it. You can only go so far with and unevenly yoked relationship.

Why Being Unequally Yoked Is More Dangerous Than You Think

Macchiato said:

When i say unequally yoked i mean this-- i dont smoke or drink. He does. Im introverted hes extroverted. Still he pretty sweet and take my feelings into consideration. But i know hes not who i should be with spiritually. Spiritually I know he can't lead me but I could help him though but like one person said im messing up my testimony by being with him the way I am.

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You can be with him even though he drinks, but you cannot live with him or have sex before marriage.
Can he drink without getting drunk?, and does he respect that you don't drink? But if he cannot lead than that is a problem! Most Christians chose to not drink and some say you can as long as you don't get drunk. But lets face it who can really drink without getting drunk in the world we live in today. I was never an alcoholic but when i drank i always had to get drunk. So i gave up drinking all together. Pray to God about the situation.

Macchiato said:

I dreamt my brother who's a minister was talking to me and said that God said that, " I don't fight back and that the devil will mop the floor with me." Then i felt something chasing me and i was teying to hide.

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When I look at this, it fits with your situation. You have not been attempting to fight off the sin in your life, rather you have submitted to it. The sad thing is if you don't fight back at the sin, you will end up in a situation where domestic life will take over, and you will have allowed satan into even that.

I know the relationship may feel comforting, and exciting now, but all relationships end up just living the domestic life. You want to have God involved in that part of your life, not the devil. God makes the domestic life fulfilling, satan will just put you through the wringer.

Also, you will not be able to change your partner, while you are living in sin. The power to change a life comes with obedience to God.

Macchiato said:

So in currently still with my bf after alot of making up and breaking up. Im deciding to stay and was going to do the move in thing .. But after we were together yesterday night i came home and slept.

I dreamt my brother who's a minister was talking to me and said that God said that, " I don't fight back and that the devil will mop the floor with me." Then i felt something chasing me and i was teying to hide.

When i woke up i felt chills... Anywho, i know God probably doesn't like the live in thing and sexual sin but i find it so hard to let go bc he really opened up to me abt not wanting to be hurt and im helping him with his bad habits..one being drinking.

I just feel like if can influence him in a positive way why cant i be with him? I really feel strongly in the dream its a warning and i need to let my bf go. I know i. Gods eyes were probably unequally yoked

But i love him and he loves me too. He shows me he just has a few bad habits but i feel i can help him change them.

But im going to pray abt everything. In the meantime what do you think.

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I agree with the dream.

If he's not going to sober up without you in the house, why would he sober up with you in the house? In both cases, he knows he needs to sober up. He's the father of your child, right? If so, either way he knows he needs to sober up for his kid. So he's either going to straighten himself out, or not, whether you live with him, or not. The difference is that if you live with him, you're going to sin sexually again, and he has more access to you and your child on both his good days and on his bad days. Which means that he would be more comfortable in his bad situation, which gives him less incentive to change. So he has no greater chance of improvement while there is greater risk to you and your child.

Since you're frustrated at home, it seems that you just want this, but that doesn't make moving in with him a good decision. It is not right for right now. He can still come to saving faith and clean up his life and get to the point where he would be a good husband, but that's probably years away. Jumping the gun on that will be bad for you, and bad for your child.