Think God may be trying to tell me something but---

Albion said:

God has communicated to Man through dreams, but that's extraordinarily rare. The dreams that the rest of us have had are not personal messages from God. Your guilty conscience, or just your thoughts about the matter of moving in with the bf and other issues concerning the two of you, caused your brain to continue that thinking while you were sleeping.

As for the bigger question, you don't need to move in with him in order to "be" with him enough to develop your relationship and influence him spiritually. In fact, doing that would lessen the effectiveness of your witness.

Also, there doesn't seem to be any reason to interpret your dream--if that is even a good idea--as meaning that you need to break it off with him.

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Brian Mcnamee said:

Hello the boy must fight the dragon before he gets the princess. His dragons are huge and if he does not deal with them and you end up stuck with him you will pay the price. Also love has self control and wants to do the right thing. So a balanced life that brings blessing is to love the LORD 1st and foremost
which would make it obvious no sex with this man until he makes his vows and puts a ring on your finger. This move would be and should be after a time of courtship where he has proven himself to you .
He needs to have clear lines drawn up and then prove himself a faithful good man who will make a good
husband and father. If he fails it is on him and not you. By being strong you are basically saying am I worth it to you and by standing for your faith he will have to deal with that too. If he fails you will have eliminated someone you have strong feeling for but would have ended up in a disaster. If you break up keep your new rules with whoever approaches you and start praying for wisdom and that you would live as a virtuous women from now on and God will raise you up as a more desirable woman to a better class of men.

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aiki said:

Well, for one who is a disciple of Christ, there is no "moving in thing" with someone with whom one is romantically involved but to whom one is not married. Sexual relations with one to whom you're not married is called fornication (or adultery, in many cases), and it is forbidden by God. It is good, then, that you did not remain overnight at your boyfriend's place.



The Christian isn't ever told to fight the devil. They are told to resist (or oppose) him (James 4:7; 1 Peter 5:8-9) but not to charge at him, beating him back with shouts of spiritual challenge and proclamations of victory. How does the Christian resist the devil? The apostle Peter gives a hint: by being firm in the faith (vs. 9) The apostle Paul is even more instructive:

Ephesians 6:10-18 (NASB)
10 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of His might.
11 Put on the full armor of God, so that you will be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil.

How do you "put on the full armor of God"? By being saved; by being a born-again believer in Christ. When you are such a person, you are clothed in Christ and all that he is - salvation, truth, righteousness, faith, etc. - and thus in the "armor of God."

How do we "stand firm"? By trusting what God has said and refusing to be moved from it. Standing means that no matter what one feels or experiences, God's word is true, His promises are rock-solid, and His good and loving character has not changed. "Standing" means to refuse doubt and fear, to deny temptation by God's power, to be unmoved from what God has declared about you as His child.

12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places.
13 Therefore, take up the full armor of God, so that you will be able to resist in the evil day, and having done everything, to stand firm.

Here's that word "resist" again and it is associated with faith, just as it was in the verse from 1 Peter 5. Standing and trusting in God and His truth go together like milk and cookies, or a hand in a glove. We resist the devil by standing by faith in God and His word.

14 Stand firm therefore, HAVING GIRDED YOUR LOINS WITH TRUTH, and HAVING PUT ON THE BREASTPLATE OF RIGHTEOUSNESS,
15 and having shod YOUR FEET WITH THE PREPARATION OF THE GOSPEL OF PEACE;
16 in addition to all, taking up the shield of faith with which you will be able to extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one.
17 And take THE HELMET OF SALVATION, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.
18 With all prayer and petition pray at all times in the Spirit, and with this in view, be on the alert with all perseverance and petition for all the saints,

Prayer is a piece of the resistance strategy of God for His children that you absolutely can't do without. But not just any old prayer. Prayer in the Spirit, which is prayer that is under the Spirit's control, prayer that arises from a life yielded to God's will and way all the time. (Romans 6:13-22; Romans 12:1; Romans 8:14; James 4:7; 1 Peter 5:6; Micah 6:8)



That's God's job, not yours. If you really want to help your bf, you'll direct him to God and the life of freedom in Christ for which God made your bf. When you engage in sexual sin with your bf you actually drive him from God, you ruin your testimony for God to your bf, and you totally halt your own walk with God.

Psalm 66:18 (NASB)
18 If I regard wickedness in my heart, The Lord will not hear;

Isaiah 59:2 (NASB)
2 But your iniquities have made a separation between you and your God, And your sins have hidden His face from you so that He does not hear.

1 Peter 3:10-12 (NASB)
10 For, "The one who desires life, to love and see good days, must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit.
11 "He must turn away from evil and do good; he must seek peace and pursue it.
12 "For the eyes of the Lord are toward the righteous, and his ears attend to their prayer, but the face of the Lord is against those who do evil."

While your sin cannot dissolve your salvation it will keep you from really knowing and walking well with God, hardening you toward Him, blinding and deafening you morally and spiritually, searing your conscience, and bringing death of various kinds into your life (and into the life of your bf). It may feel good in the moment to indulge sexually with your bf, but God promises the seeds of our sin always produce a terrible harvest of corruption and death. And that harvest always comes some time after we sow and far more than we sow.

Galatians 6:7-8 (NASB)
7 Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap.
8 For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life.

Romans 6:23 (NASB)
23 For the wages of sin is death...

James 1:14-16 (NASB)
14 But each one is tempted when he is carried away and enticed by his own lust.
15 Then when lust has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and when sin is accomplished, it brings forth death.
16 Do not be deceived, my beloved brethren.

It is because all of these things are true that God hates our sin so much. It isn't just an affront to His holy nature, but damages us severely in ways we often don't fully understand, cutting us off from enjoying our Maker the way we were made to do. God is wanting to protect us from damage and death of sin and so He commands us to forsake sin.



Not probably. You are unequally yoked.



Forgive me for being really blunt but, no, you don't love him. Not really. If you did love him, you would not participate in sexual sin with him and bring him further into separation from God and the death that sin always produces; you wouldn't stand before your bf as a child of God fouled in sin, ruining your testimony for Christ, showing your bf that, for all of your claims to faith in Christ, you don't really take your faith seriously.

In the ways that really matter, that are eternal and spiritual, you can't change your bf. Such change is entirely God's domain, not yours. You are supposed to be living before the world (not just your bf) as a bright, shining light for Christ, not fouling yourself in sexual sin and ruining what God could do through you in your bf's life.

Your bf needs Christ, not you. You are actually in the way, keeping your bf from knowing his Maker by trying to do in his life what only God can do and sinning with your bf at the same time.

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paul1149 said:

I would take the dream as a warning. It confirms in real time the fact that this relationship is taking you out of the moral bounds Scripture has set. You are minimizing the destructive potential of bf's problems and you are willing to cut corners in order to get your way.

Those boundaries have been set up to protect you. They establish a courting process in which the problems are exposed and can be dealt with with minimal pain. I know you're in love, but add to that a broken marriage, single parenthood, financial distress, placing yourself out of the marriage market, etc, and it gets much worse, indeed.

Listen to what Brian wrote in post #3.

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aiki said:

It isn't adultery when neither of you are married, it's fornication. But adultery is also a kind of sexual sin outside the bonds of marriage between people who are married but having sex with someone not their spouse.

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splish- splash said:

Is it not better for you, to be in a relationship with a believer? It sounds like, this one is hard work and unhealthy for you.

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tturt said:

There is a joining spiritually which is for a husband and wife. "What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh." I Cor 6:16

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Glorytothefather2245 said:

Your feelings do not matter, we do not as Christians have the right to override Gods word based on how we feel. We should walk by the spirit and not by the flesh. Your relationship will amount to nothing if you choose to live in sin, God cannot and will not glorify that.

Sowing and reaping is also a law of the spiritual world. It is more than just an agricultural principle. It is an axiom of life that we reap what we sow. Galatians 6:7 says, “Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.” There are natural consequences to our actions. The world operates under the law of cause and effect. There is no way around it: every time we choose an action, we also choose the consequences of that action.

Sister we ought to obey God rather than man, please listen to the voice of the Lord and not how you feel. When you sow and reap you will bite off more than you can chew. I went thru this a few years back. I got into a relationship with a girl who was already married in the last week of November 2017 and then i got saved in February in 2018. But i was learning about how relationships and how it was not right to be with a women who i was not married to. And i chose to move in with her. God saved me from my destruction but i left with a domestic charge on my record cause we ended up not being able to get along. Before i got saved i was into the occult. The kingdom of darkness is real, the devil is real and so is his demons. They will use your sin to their advantage. Loving someone is great but don't let love be used to destroy you, cling to the Lord and pray and fast.

Your dream is telling you that you will reap what you sow. You cannot choose to be ungodly and expect God to bless you living with him, if you cannot wait to live together than you shall marry him if you guys have never been married before. But marriage is a lifelong commitment so you better make sure thats who you want to be with, God does not like divorce and remarriage either.

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