Those I know of who struggle over this, don't think in terms of mortal vs venial sins. Like I said, the Bible says thoughts alone are on the level of adultery and murder etc. So all sin is death (Romans 6:23). Not just some kinds of sin, but all sin no matter how minor. So, no, it's not about "how much sin can I get away with?", because sin is appalling. It's "How can I or anyone possibly be good enough to merit salvation?".
Well, God didn’t create anyone to sin. And the real problem or injustice with fallen man is his separation from his creator. And the reason Jesus came was to
reconcile us with our creator, with whom all things are possible. So...aren’t we limiting God by asking how can I be “good enough”? Maybe it’s because He
wants us good enough? Or does He want us
bad? Sometimes I think some Christians almost
pride themselves in being -and admitting to being- bad. ”Look at me God, what an awful sinner I am”. “Look at me God, what an awful sinner I am.” “Look at me God, what an awful (and humble) sinner I am.”
Until God might finally say, “Ok, enough! That was good, now let’s move on from there please! I’m trying to get you
better than that. Contrition with repentance is step
one, people
. And, incidentally, while I’d prefer perfection here,
good enough is way better to Me than you sitting on your rears and staying where you were, like that wicked and lazy servant burying his talents and all. I want
something out of you after all we’ve done
for you. And I’ll help you get there BTW.” That’s awfully good news.
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This is the message we have heard from Him and declare to you: God is light; in Him there is no darkness at all. If we claim to have fellowship with Him and yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live out the truth. But if we walk in the light, as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin.
If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. If we claim we have not sinned, we make Him out to be a liar and His word is not in us.” 1 John 1:5-10
“But you know that He appeared so that He might take away our sins. And in Him is no sin.” 1 John 3:5
So God, being infinitely merciful, can certainly overlook less grievous sins for now, and while even a white lie is a gross anomaly in His creation, it’s certainly a far cut better than the torture and murder of a child. So, I’d ask, if instead sin is now sort of “ok”, with sin no longer of any concern with God, is there then
no degree or amount of sin that’s not
too much? Certainly there’ll be no sinners in heaven. So
something changes somewhere along the line.
And I’m only saying that the change, towards righteousness, must begin
here. To Virginia I’d say, “Yes Virginia, sorry, but we expect you to get on board here. You’re still obligated to actually be righteous, to
love, really, if I may cut to the chase here. So sorry, I know that’s a burden. It’s really not a heavy one though, since I shoulder 99% of the weight. I just really want you to carry a
little bit at least, because I want you to be like Me, to want what I want, to love as I do. And to know my happiness. I’ll give you the strength. If you follow Me.”