Struggling to be normal

Salvadore said:

I have had depression since I was small. My mother is mentally ill. I grew up to be not very nice. I acted out quite a bit. I am trying very hard now to please God. I take care of my mother. She is 94. She continues to tell me how I brought shame on the family. My sister does not help with my mother. My brother lives 4 hours away. I am just venting. I am very tired of this life. I feel that I cannot please God. How can a mother be so hateful to her child? She has always done more for my brother and sister. Now, they have left her for me to care for. OK. That's it. I will probably go to hell when I die. I don't feel well today.

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Don't ever give up. God really loves you and we please Him by accepting His Son Jesus Christ as our Lord and Saviour. God bless you

Salvadore said:

I have had depression since I was small. My mother is mentally ill. I grew up to be not very nice. I acted out quite a bit. I am trying very hard now to please God. I take care of my mother. She is 94. She continues to tell me how I brought shame on the family. My sister does not help with my mother. My brother lives 4 hours away. I am just venting. I am very tired of this life. I feel that I cannot please God. How can a mother be so hateful to her child? She has always done more for my brother and sister. Now, they have left her for me to care for. OK. That's it. I will probably go to hell when I die. I don't feel well today.

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Getting the short end of the stick in life will probably give you a good edge on eternity if anything I would think, especially since you have submitted to that. Our lots in life being pre-determined would involve many factors but most likely we’re all just born with a piece of the puzzle, or a part of the 12 somehow. (tribes, disciples, zodiac, etc)
Remembering to smell the flowers helps to see the sunshine.

Salvadore said:

I have had depression since I was small. My mother is mentally ill. I grew up to be not very nice. I acted out quite a bit. I am trying very hard now to please God. I take care of my mother. She is 94. She continues to tell me how I brought shame on the family. My sister does not help with my mother. My brother lives 4 hours away. I am just venting. I am very tired of this life. I feel that I cannot please God. How can a mother be so hateful to her child? She has always done more for my brother and sister. Now, they have left her for me to care for. OK. That's it. I will probably go to hell when I die. I don't feel well today.

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Trust me when I say this: God is pleased that you are caring for her in spite of how she treated you, and in spite of your current feelings. That is love. You know she needs something good, i.e. care at 94 years of age, you aren't doing it to acquire some good for yourself, but simply because it's good. That, my friend, is sacrifice. And it looks a lot like the love God gave when God was here. What you are engaged in is self-giving love. You are doing something you would rather not do, but because you intuitively know it's good, you're doing it. Be at peace. It won't last forever.

Sorry you're going through this.

Just continue to deny yourself and seek first God's kingdom and His righteousness.

Preacher preaching on three desires that can bind us....

1. Attention
2. Acceptance
3. Appreciation

Maybe it is God's will for us to be unique and different from everyone else!

Please consider that you are and have been learning to do good to those who don't love you. These are essential lessons.

If i was you i put my faith in God's love, and let His truth rebuild you. i know what it is like to be always on the bottom of it, yet Jesus taught me the best life lessons down there.

God loves you. And God loves it even more that you do good to those who do bad to you. So place your faith in His love and let Him teach more and more what it is like to be a child of His.

What you sow you shall harvest. So sowing love, faith, kindness, long suffering, endurance, joy, thankfulness and goodwill will harvest you eternal bliss, while loveless thoughts and feelings bring you your misery.

Bring all bad life living inside to Jesus and let Him replace it with His good life.

Call upon His name even now. He loves to support and help you.



An invitation to The Chosen.

God's Love will not take or will
you to conform to rules or demand
which imprison, enslave, burn or kill you.

God's Love will not pervert what's Good
The Lord loves truthfully Wise and Good.
True Love was, is and always will be Good!

In God's Love you are free to be right!
In His love everything is good proper and kind.
He loves all who love good and true to rule!

His Love is caring, providing, and sharing.
His Love always enjoys and protects good life.
His love rules even when bad life has being in us!

Hear Jesus call - 'Come join up with us all!
Leave whatever ties you down and be free
loving good life with all God's own to be.'

To the rest in your heart God's asks
how long will you tarry in the darkness?
Please leave such bad existence within.

For life must not, no never should, or would, or could,
be forceful, rude, prideful, arrogant, selfish, lustful
or otherwise be untrue to God's loving truth.

Neither should life be hurting or ill,
hungry, oppressed, despised, hated
or otherwise have existence in wrong.

Please hand your Bad Life over to Jesus
Humbly ask for His Good Life back in return
and go love God, self and neighbour with Joy.

The Church knows that Jesus is coming soon
All bad life will be our shameful past then,
so please leave your bad life while you can!

Love

Salvadore said:

I have had depression since I was small. My mother is mentally ill. I grew up to be not very nice. I acted out quite a bit. I am trying very hard now to please God. I take care of my mother. She is 94. She continues to tell me how I brought shame on the family. My sister does not help with my mother. My brother lives 4 hours away. I am just venting. I am very tired of this life. I feel that I cannot please God. How can a mother be so hateful to her child? She has always done more for my brother and sister. Now, they have left her for me to care for. OK. That's it. I will probably go to hell when I die. I don't feel well today.

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I hear you bro'. With few exceptions you are retelling my story. Hang in there, it gets better.

Salvadore said:

I have had depression since I was small. My mother is mentally ill. I grew up to be not very nice. I acted out quite a bit. I am trying very hard now to please God. I take care of my mother. She is 94. She continues to tell me how I brought shame on the family. My sister does not help with my mother. My brother lives 4 hours away. I am just venting. I am very tired of this life. I feel that I cannot please God. How can a mother be so hateful to her child? She has always done more for my brother and sister. Now, they have left her for me to care for. OK. That's it. I will probably go to hell when I die. I don't feel well today.

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Just to clarify, are you currently employed or are you a full time carer for your mother?
Do your brother and sister contribute financially for your mother's care?

Enquire of local nursing home what it would cost for your mother to be a resident.
If it is anything like the UK full nursing care cost thousands per week.

Point out to your brother and sister that you are saving them a fortune, but are not abl to earn a living wage yourself.

Ask them to either fund their mother's care in a nursing home or to fund her care via you.

Be sure to know what homes in your area, your brothers and your sisters area and what you need to pay the rent, fuel bills both your food and medical costs plus a small wage for your self.

How tough are you? Able to drop Mum outside there house with a suitcase and go find a job elsewhere? You may have to threaten that if they won't pay for you to care for her.



As for her remembering how you were, that is all she can remember. Just ignore it.

Salvation, has nothing to do with good works and everything to do with trust in Jesus.

Salvadore said:

She has always been this way and has refused medication. My sister lives 2 minutes from her and does not offer to help. Mom hasn't been able to drive for several years. Sometimes she just gets to me. I

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She is not going to change. You have to let it wash over you paying it no attention, not even listening to it.
That and talking to your sister about taking turns to be the taxi service for her.

If unwilling to do this to get ' danger money ' because the task is so unpleasant.