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I'm really not sure if jesus is with me and I strongly believe that he is not everything is going bad in my life I dont get any sleep, none of my prayers are getting answered, I'm not the same person I used to be when things were going good I really feel like I'm not going to heaven and I'm really sad about it I dont know what to do
 

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I'm really not sure if jesus is with me and I strongly believe that he is not everything is going bad in my life I dont get any sleep, none of my prayers are getting answered, I'm not the same person I used to be when things were going good I really feel like I'm not going to heaven and I'm really sad about it I dont know what to do

Hello Serenity. Good to meet you.

First remember you are not alone, God has promised that He will never leave or forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6). You have a family in Christ, we can empathize with you, many of us have been through dreadful times and are here to testify to God's faithfulness.

Some practical advice I would give you, dig deep into the bible. There's so much food for the soul there. Man does not live by bread alone. God Bless You:)
 
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I'm really not sure if jesus is with me and I strongly believe that he is not everything is going bad in my life I dont get any sleep, none of my prayers are getting answered, I'm not the same person I used to be when things were going good I really feel like I'm not going to heaven and I'm really sad about it I dont know what to do

You got company. My prayers don't always get answered either. But in the case of something life threathening, God does answer my prayers. Sometimes good worship music could give you relief. Some christian utube videos are very encouraging. Study the Bible, the sermon on the mount in Matthew 5,6 and 7 are the principles we should live by.
 
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I'm really not sure if jesus is with me and I strongly believe that he is not everything is going bad in my life I dont get any sleep, none of my prayers are getting answered, I'm not the same person I used to be when things were going good I really feel like I'm not going to heaven and I'm really sad about it I dont know what to do

May I ask what it is that you believe makes you a Christian and just what you expect Jesus to do in your life?
 
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I'm really not sure if jesus is with me and I strongly believe that he is not everything is going bad in my life I dont get any sleep, none of my prayers are getting answered, I'm not the same person I used to be when things were going good I really feel like I'm not going to heaven and I'm really sad about it I dont know what to do
Dear SerenityA,
> You do not have to walk in this doubt, God has a better plan for you.
> Have you asked Jesus to come into your heart and cleanse you from all
> sin? Have you asked Him to come into your heart and help you to turn
> from your sin and live for Him? Have you asked Him to help you follow
> Him as your Lord and Savior? Do you know that He says, “He is the Way
> , the Truth and the Life?” You can read in His Word the Bible and He
> will assure you. Have you put God first in your life by letting go of
> what others think and follow His instruction in His Word the Bible. Do
> you know that when you do this you have a voice as His child to come
> before Him in prayer and He promises that He will hear your prayer.
> He will send the Holy Spirit to help you to live the life that God has
> planned for you. God loves you and is waiting for you to make a
> commitment to Him. I am praying for you to find the fullness of all
> God has for you. I am praying that you will know without doubt you are
> His child and He loves you and hears you when you call. God bless you.
> You do not have to walk in this fear and doubt. God has a better plan
> for you.
 
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I'm really not sure if jesus is with me and I strongly believe that he is not everything is going bad in my life I dont get any sleep, none of my prayers are getting answered, I'm not the same person I used to be when things were going good I really feel like I'm not going to heaven and I'm really sad about it I dont know what to do

Everyone may face the same situation like yours. Please don't easily disappoint at your current situation, just looking back, rewind your memory about grace that has been given by God to you.
You will be grateful and it will be good for you.
You will see God answering your prayers in very best way.
I pray for you like many people do, and you have to trust prayers from many believers will give the best thing for subject of the prayers.
 
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Yes, we should not allow the enemy of our souls to deceive us --the workings of Satan, as God shows us. He cannot touch us, but regularly whispers in our mind to discourage, tempt us, etc. and draw us away from obeying and trusting our Creator-God. When we receive God's "...beloved Son": the Lord Jesus, God will come by His Holy Spirit and seal us as a "child of God" forever. It is an eternal blessing and peace to know and walk with our Savior.
 
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Is there anything you're struggling with that you can't get any sleep or proper rest? Because as much as we try to live in Spirit, we are still physical beings with biological functions, and our restlessness, fatigue and overall poor health can negatively affect our thoughts and our emotions.

I know that I myself am prone to desponedent thoughts and distrust towards God and others, and this is frequently exacerbated when I'm tired or just not in the right mood. In such a condition, it is unlikely that I can pray to God with faith and longing, nor will I be sensitive to His answers when he does speak.

You are not alone, Serenity. We all face spiritual ups and downs, but it is important that we anchor our thoughts on Jesus and His promises, rather than let ourselves be tossed around by the fluctuations of our feelings, because the truth remains unchanged regardless of it.

"I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly." (John 10:10)

"And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." (Romans 8:28)

"But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me." (2 Corinthians 9:12)

Try to remind yourself of God's grace and blessings, and give thanks to Him for it even when you don't feel it. Praise and worship music helps a lot. It's also important to have a community who can encourage you, guide you and pray for you in these times of trials, because God doesn't intend for His children to grow on their own (Proverbs 18:1), but rather within a body of fellow believers (1 Corinthians 12:27).
 
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Good counsel, Epic! Yes, Satan is ever working to draw us away from communion with our Savior. One needs to keep talking to God, and know we ARE a "child of God" ---IF, of course, we have received the Lord Jesus into our heart; and then are walking and talking with Him (as John 3; John 14; Romans 8; etc.). God has committed ALL things into His "beloved Son", as He says!
 
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I'm really not sure if jesus is with me and I strongly believe that he is not

The Bible says we know we are children of God by the "witness of the Spirit with our spirit" that we are. (Romans 8:16) What is this "witness," though? Is it just a feeling? Something else? Well, the Bible says God's children will experience the work of the Holy Spirit, the Spirit of Christ, every day in their lives:

- The Spirit will convict the Christian person of sin. (John 16:8)
- The Spirit will teach the Christian God's truth. (John 14:26; 1 Corinthians 2:10-16)
- The Spirit will strengthen the Christian in times of temptation and trouble. (Ephesians 3:16; Romans 8:13; Philippians 2:13)
- The Spirit will discipline the Christian when s/he strays into sin. (Hebrews 12:5-11)
- The Spirit works into the Christian the "Fruit of the Spirit," godly characteristics like love, joy, peace, patience, gentleness, self-control, etc. (Galatians 5:22-23)

It's in doing these things in us that the Spirit "bears witness with our spirit" that we are really saved, born-again children of God. So, do you experience this work of the Spirit in your life? Have you ever?

everything is going bad in my life I dont get any sleep, none of my prayers are getting answered, I'm not the same person I used to be when things were going good

In the Old Testament, in the Book of Job, it says, "Man is born to trouble like sparks fly upward." This is just a poetic way of saying, "Sooner or later, trouble comes to us all." In a world cursed by sin, trouble is the consequence. We can't avoid it, no matter what we do. But, wonderfully, God has promised not to leave us alone in the middle of our trouble. If we'll let Him, He'll carry us through the hard times of life.

The thing is, though, He does this only under certain circumstances. His power to bear us up is available, but only when we submit ourselves totally and persistently to Him. You see, God interacts with us only as who He is: God. He is the Center and Ruler of the Universe, its Creator and Sustainer, Lord over all, and He comes into our lives as such. He's not going to be a mere "help," a sort of divine accessory to our living we turn to only when we need Him, but the Center and Ruler of our lives. When He is, when He rules you top-to-bottom, inside-and-out, when you are giving Him constant control of you, then He moves in power in your life, giving you all you need to know and enjoy Him and walk well in the middle of life's storms.

Romans 6:13
13 Do not present your members to sin as instruments for unrighteousness, but present yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life, and your members to God as instruments for righteousness.


Romans 6:22
22 But now that you have been set free from sin and have become slaves of God, the fruit you get leads to sanctification and its end, eternal life.


Romans 8:14
14 For all who are led by the Spirit of God are sons of God.


Romans 12:1
1 I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.


James 4:6-10
6 But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, “God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.”
7 Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
8 Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded.
9 Be wretched and mourn and weep. Let your laughter be turned to mourning and your joy to gloom.
10 Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will exalt you.


Is God the Boss of you? Is He really your Lord all day, every day? Until He is, it will be impossible to really, fully know and enjoy Him and be strengthened and changed for the better by Him.

I really feel like I'm not going to heaven and I'm really sad about it I dont know what to do

Well, does reality rely on your feelings? Is truth dependent upon what you feel? Is a thing only true when you feel it is? If, say, you don't feel that 2+2=4, is it not, then, true? I'm sure you'd say this sort of thinking is silly. But this is kind of what you're doing with God and His truth; you're making your feelings the basis upon which you decide what God has said is true or not. If God says in the Bible that you're a born-again child of God by trusting in Christ as your Saviour and Lord, and you trust in Christ as the Bible says, are you saved only if you feel you are? Or, are you saved because the Bible says so?

My Mom used to quote this to me a lot when I was kid:

"Feelings come, and feelings go,
And feelings are deceiving.
My warrant is the word of God,
Nought else is worth believing."

If there is one thing that is true of feelings, it is that they come and go, shifting with circumstance like clouds in the sky, blown about by the wind. Don't, then, anchor your thinking to your feelings. They'll quickly have you in knots, doubting and wondering all sorts of crazy things about God, His truth, yourself and other people. What God says is true, no matter what your feelings might be. Trust God, trust His word. Make these things the foundation of your thinking and living.

Psalm 119:97-105
97 Oh how I love your law! It is my meditation all the day.
98 Your commandment makes me wiser than my enemies, for it is ever with me.
99 I have more understanding than all my teachers, for your testimonies are my meditation.
100 I understand more than the aged, for I keep your precepts.
101 I hold back my feet from every evil way, in order to keep your word.
102 I do not turn aside from your rules, for you have taught me.
103 How sweet are your words to my taste, sweeter than honey to my mouth!
104 Through your precepts I get understanding; therefore I hate every false way.
105 Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.


Proverbs 3:5-8
5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.
6 In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.
7 Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD, and turn away from evil.
8 It will be healing to your flesh and refreshment to your bones.
 
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