I need advice from some Christians.

Pursue charges. God values justice. You will find justice helps with your healing.

Maybe nothing will come of it, but...it's important for you to do what you can.
Not doing so is disrespecting yourself.

It's also important to get your report against him on record. It may help later if he does anything similar in the future - or it may help you if he has a history of this...

Justice does not contradict forgiveness. Forgiving this person releases you from the trauma and evil of what happened to you. God requires forgiveness for a reason: He knows how much it helps us.

Praying for you...

Was it in the context of a relationship?

Hello paige,
welcome to CF.

I hope you'll enjoy your stay here.

paige328 said:

No, I met this man once before. He was a friends roommate and this happened the second time meeting.

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Welcome to the forum - how is your partner feeling about it?

paige328 said:

He thinks that I should press charges

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I would press charges - who will be next?

paige328 said:

He thinks that I should press charges

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Can you get a couple of mature believers to pray with you during the process...

paige328 said:

About a year ago I was raped. If I choose to press charges I should do so soon because my rape kit will be thrown away after a year. Is it wrong to press charges? My family thinks that I should, but I'm honestly very scared nothing will come from it. I signed up for this website to learn different points of views from other Christians. I looked through the Bible and I can't find a good answer. The man is not a Christian. Should I try to forgive and let God deal with it? or should I press charges and let God work through the court system? Thank you for your feedback.

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It's not wrong at all to press charges. If it's successful and he goes to prison, perhaps you'll have prevented him from doing that to another woman. It's doing what you can to make the community safer.

Forgive him, but do everything you can to cooperate with authorities to put him behind bars for as long as possible. Some people can still forgive even though they are doing that. And if you can't, why would you be able to if you refused to press charges?

paige328 said:

Should I try to forgive and let God deal with it? or should I press charges and let God work through the court system? Thank you for your feedback.

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i think you should certainly forgive him. Pray for his salvation. Pray that sin in him will die and new life in Christ might sprout in his heart instead. For your own sanity please forgive this man so the evil he has done be undone in your heart and you can walk away free from any more bad life because of this.

However this does not mean that therefore you should not press charges. Not to get back at him or not forgiving him, but how many more women will follow if this man walks free after having done this horrible thing to you? This man has a real problem if he raped you after meeting you only twice. For the sake of others, he must be stopped from continuing along this path, before other women are hurt by him.

Peace.

I think its hard to say without enough information about the one who did it and how it happened. Was it some one time burst he regrets the whole time? Or is he like "so what" and continues his careless life? Was it just his fault? Or were you all drunk and partying and he just got wrong impression what you agree to do? Also the word rape itself can have very vague meaning these days. These are not questions for you to answer here on forum, just to think about.

I would take into consideration several things:
a) you were harmed, so you should get something from it (will the result give you some satisfaction or is the process not worth the result?)
b) the opinion of your man (being your head and everything, if you are in a serious relationship leading to marriage, you should take what he says seriously) and/or opinion of your father
c) the man who did it, how it happened, who he is today, is he still dangerous around other girls, does he have a family etc. - if the justice will make things better or worse considered in a broader context

Why did you wait a year ?
If you dated a guy and you enter the same room as he does when you both are alone and there is bed in that room there is no rape in my eyes , more like you waited a long time and then decided to take somewhat revange on him after you made up your mind.

People who get really raped call police within week.

NomNomPizza said:

Why did you wait a year ?
If you dated a guy and you enter the same room as he does when you both are alone and there is bed in that room there is no rape in my eyes , more like you waited a long time and then decided to take somewhat revange on him after you made up your mind.

People who get really raped call police within week.

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I agree she should probably define what she means by the term "rape".

When I hear what some American women consider to be a rape, my jaw is dropping.

But she said she met him just twice, so they were not in a relationship. And I suppose we are talking about the classic meaning of the word and that she was really a victim.

myst33 said:

I agree she should probably define what she means by the term "rape".

When I hear what some American women consider to be a rape, my jaw is dropping.

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Ye man once I read about girlfriend and boyfriend made sex-tape and put it on internet then she sued him because she said that this was not faking rape but was actuall rape ( after they broke up ofc ).

paige328 said:

About a year ago I was raped. If I choose to press charges I should do so soon because my rape kit will be thrown away after a year. Is it wrong to press charges? My family thinks that I should, but I'm honestly very scared nothing will come from it. I signed up for this website to learn different points of views from other Christians. I looked through the Bible and I can't find a good answer. The man is not a Christian. Should I try to forgive and let God deal with it? or should I press charges and let God work through the court system? Thank you for your feedback.

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I am sorry. With sin comes consequences and restitution. Forgiveness will come when it is behind you and he has paid the price for a horrific act. He needs to be identified as a sexual predator , incarcerated and recieve counseling.
I will pray you have the strength to do the right thing. God bless you.