The question of dressing appropriately is one that I have struggled with understanding. I do believe that, as our Lord taught us, the issue is primarily in the eye of the beholder. However, there are several factors that a sister should take into account. Seeking to provocatively present oneself to someone other than their spouse would obviously be problematic. However, I don't think any of us would advocate for a head to toe veiling.
Within those two extremes we all, men and women have to make our choices. As a sister in Christ to a brother, I try not to make anybodies job harder. Plus, I have young adult stepsons. If I had a daughter to explain it to, I would say that it is a man's responsibility to control their thoughts, but since we can't guarantee that he would, I'd prefer she cover up to a reasonable degree. That degree is dependent on situation, beachwear, school, work, athletics, etc, requiring different parameters but not entirely so.
As far as advice for men goes, I don't know exactly what to say. I've never really struggled in that department, thank God, but I know some do. There is also the consideration that some brothers may not be entirely on the "straight" and narrow, as it were, whether they practice or not, so men may want to not give any more temptation than necessary.
