Returning to God for the 100th time--

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Broke up with bf, still dealing with crappy family, still have deep resentment for God.

Not sure how to start over with God bc i dont have faith he will help me just do what he wants despite how I feel.
1. We are instantly *started over* with God when we return to him. There is no apprenticeship involved or testing period.

2. We will never be incapable of doing what is right and what he wants. We may not pull it off perfectly or consistently, but we are able or else he would not have called us to it.

Take a breath, pray for His help, but do not despair.
 
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Broke up with bf, still dealing with crappy family, still have deep resentment for God.

Not sure how to start over with God bc i dont have faith he will help me just do what he wants despite how I feel.

I highly recommend this sermon! Watched it many times, and given it out many times. Probably the best thing I've read or heard on the topic.

 
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Broke up with bf, still dealing with crappy family, still have deep resentment for God.

Not sure how to start over with God bc i dont have faith he will help me just do what he wants despite how I feel.
Kind of tough to love Him when you resent Him. He knows your heart. One thing for sure, any resentment in your heart is due to your own actions that causes your repeated separation. Examine yourself first before you completely turn away from Him forever.
 
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Not sure how to start over with God bc i dont have faith he will help me just do what he wants despite how I feel.

Dear one,
Would you consider unthoughtfulness as the source of your afflictions and sufferings !

Isn’t it unthoughtfulness that break relationship apart ? or put one’s relationship with others at a distance or cold or put a dividing wall !

How do unthoughtfulness hurt others ?
Isn’t it when those close to you or those whom you are called to love are being unthoughtful toward you and hurt you.

Why it hurts? Why it pains ?
It is because those close to you or whom you love or whom you called to love insist on their own righteousness.

Many people are blind in their own self righteousness that they don’t realize they hurt others whom they are supposed to be careful in love; They don’t know what they are saying or doing !

How do we resolve this ? Do we blame on God ? Then all troubles are fixed ! No, it is the other way around. We need the Lord’s help to deliver us out of our distress.

Who would be so willing to take our burden daily as our God ?
This is what we have heard:
Blessed be the Lord, who daily bears us up; God is our salvation. Selah -Psalms 68:19

What do the Lord bear up ? Yes, it is our afflictions, sufferings and sins.

For this is what we have heard:
Consider my affliction and my trouble, and forgive all my sins. -Psalms 25:18

Are we sure about that ? This is what we have heard what Jesus have said in His own words:

Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. -Matthew 11:29

Why do the Lord ask us to take His yoke ? Because He has been saying to us that He is willing to bear our suffering together!

Are we sure that his yoke means that He is willing to suffer with us ? Likewise we have heard:

and if children, then heirs'heirs of God and fellow heirs with Christ, provided we suffer with Him in order that we may also be glorified with Him. -Romans 8:17

Yes, likewise, we are told to consider our afflictions and our sufferings by apostle
Peter:

For what credit is it if, when you sin and are beaten for it, you endure? But if when you do good and suffer for it you endure, this is a gracious thing in the sight of God. -1 Peter 2:20

So dear one, consider your afflictions and sufferings with your bf and family. Are you suffering for what is wrong or for what is right ? Even if you suffer for what is wrong, like every one else, we need to repent, and come to the Lord’s grace. But if you have suffer for what is right or righteousness’ sake, then you have suffered for Christ’s sake; God looks on you with favor.

So dear one, why you hate God so much ? Don’t you perceive His love? That He is willing to suffer with you and help you ! Why are you hating God the One who is so thoughtful to you ?

Aren’t you looking for peace of heart in your relationship ? Why hate God who can bring peace and healing in our relationship ?

Yes, those whom you love may have hurt you for being unthoughtful ? Then is it healing in relationship, when those whom you love turn and start being thoughtful to you.

What is thoughtful?
Being thoughtful is not to put our rightness or other’s rightness first but just want to be thoughtful toward others because of we owe much love whom the Lord calls us to love.

Being thoughtful is to be careful in words or deeds with those whom the Lord calls us to love.

Being thoughtful is because we want to build a lasting memory of love, affection and care with those whom the Lord calls us to love.

When we are filled with God’s thoughtfulness of His love, we gain the strength to forgive those who wrong us including those whom the Lord calls us to love. Yes, we gain the Lord’s strength to love whom we find it impossible to love.

Let us love God not hate Him; for God who gives us strength to us, His people and He is also the One who bless us with His peace.

Dear one, don’t be disheartened. Trust the Lord our Shepherd who can carry us through difficult times.

May you put hope in God’s word.
Be reconciled to God.
 
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Not sure how to start over with God bc i dont have faith he will help me just do what he wants despite how I feel.

Hello Macchiato,
I am very sad with you about your losing your bf. How hard it must feel to lose that sense of support. Families can be a trial. Living too close can set one up for boundary violations. Especially in a dysfunctional family system. Macchiato, every thought, every emotion and hurt, are the things Jesus wants to hear from you about, because He cares for you.
He is the Rock, the reality of faith. Begin with Jesus. It sounds like you are enduring a very vexing situation. I pray for you, Macchiato.

He also brought me up out of a horrible pit, Out of the miry clay, And set my feet upon a rock, And established my steps. (Psalm 40:2)
Remember Jesus the Lord of Heaven and Earth sees you, he cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7
 
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Why would you have resentment for God because members of your family are not close to Him? God isn't the source of their rejection and their behaviors, they are. God calls them to come close to Him and to be healed. If they refuse to do so, that's their fault, not God's. Likewise yourself. Why would the sins of other people cause you to turn away from God? He is calling you to Himself. The closer you come to Him, the better you will be able to deal with problems caused by other humans, and the more peaceful you will be in dealing with such problems.
 
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i dont have faith he will help me

Im trying not to be bitter.

Don't try it in just your own strength. Take help of the one who you 'resent and have no faith'! Crazy I know. But, that's the only way we can fight/win that bitterness within us.

This is coming from a person (me) who has just finished suffering a week long depression, bitterness and resentfulness towards God and sulking throughout the week about how I "think" he betrayed me when I needed Him the most. It's like you are angry with God and you hate that feeling.

Battling bitterness is hard, I know. Remember God says in Revelation 3:21 - "To him who overcomes ...." and the promised reward in that verse is worth the fight!

After all the bitterness, If you find yourself with that little urge/longing to go back to HIM, consider it as no random feeling, It's HIM calling you back. He wants you back as much as you do. Don't let any lie stop you from going back.
 
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Broke up with bf, still dealing with crappy family, still have deep resentment for God.

Not sure how to start over with God bc I dont have faith he will help me just do what he wants despite how I feel.
I am sorry to hear what you're going through. However, can you help me understand where God promises you would have good, healthy relationships with significant others and family? It sounds like you are resenting God for not giving you what you want rather than not living up to His obligations. I suggest you start from the beginning and ask God to teach you the Gospel again and your identity in Christ.
 
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Completely deny yourself and give it your all to the Lord! Love Him with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your strength and with all your mind. Seek first HIS kingdom above all things!
 
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Hi Macchiato, I prayed for you at 4 am today. Come home to the heavenly Daddy, He desires your return. It is safer to be in the arms of the heavenly Father than out in the world outside....One trait of those who endure to the end is that they are unoffended....Forgiveness is one of the greatest test of a Christian.
 
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What are you praying for? Help? Someone to understand? Someone to listen? Then tell someone. In addition to praying, actually tell someone. You need a real human being to walk beside you, and if you don't speak up, I guarantee nothing will happen.

This idea that God sometimes answers yes, sometimes no, sometimes maybe is nonsense. If you don't do something,nothing happens, and the religious ones will tell you God answered no, or has a different plan. I fell for this and was disillusioned.

Do something, okay?
 
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Once, after being too afraid, I finally asked The Lord ‘why did you allow ‘that’ to happen?’
The answer I got floored me,
‘to show you how easily you can be deceived’.
Pick yourself up, get back to God, and test EVERY spirit. Try reading Jesus’ warnings about what happens to believers who allow themselves to be deceived...Then don’t allow it to happen again my love :)
Numbers 6:24-26

And why would a loving God play with you this way?

Testing people seems very unChristlike. I know I would dislike someone who tested me for sport. It isn't okay. Imagine if I had someone come up to you and say something crappy about me to see your response, or judge your loyalty? Could you see how you might believe the other if they came across convincing or even cried for this "test"? You may fail because you believe people don't lie for sport. Now imagine I called you afterwards and blamed you for believing the lie. Called you a disloyal person. I'm betting you'd be infuriated. You don't test your friends. You honour them.

Lastly, being a Christian doesn't insulate you from toxic relationships and we shouldn't be spreading that lie. If it did, conversion rates would be 100%. Remember, Jesus himself had Judas. Think about it.
 
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Not sure how to start over with God bc i dont have faith he will help me just do what he wants despite how I feel.
Oh how special, be to be young, beautiful, foot loose and free.
 
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Broke up with bf, still dealing with crappy family, still have deep resentment for God.

Not sure how to start over with God bc i dont have faith he will help me just do what he wants despite how I feel.
How do you treat God? Is he some distant relative that you never call? Or is he thathigh Father incredible friend that you share your deepest secrets with?

I have had a wonderful relationship with God for 45 years. God is the most high Father that wants a very close and personal relationship with. He wants to hear everything, good and bad. He wants you to rely on him for every breath.

Take time to think about God when you are alone at night. It's okay if you don't know how, just think.

God hears.
 
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What are you praying for? Help? Someone to understand? Someone to listen? Then tell someone. In addition to praying, actually tell someone. You need a real human being to walk beside you, and if you don't speak up, I guarantee nothing will happen.

This idea that God sometimes answers yes, sometimes no, sometimes maybe is nonsense. If you don't do something,nothing happens, and the religious ones will tell you God answered no, or has a different plan. I fell for this and was disillusioned.

Do something, okay?
Can u explain this a bit more? I believe in practical help i just dont have people that i can go to to confide in. I just dont.
 
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Why would you have resentment for God because members of your family are not close to Him? God isn't the source of their rejection and their behaviors, they are. God calls them to come close to Him and to be healed. If they refuse to do so, that's their fault, not God's. Likewise yourself. Why would the sins of other people cause you to turn away from God? He is calling you to Himself. The closer you come to Him, the better you will be able to deal with problems caused by other humans, and the more peaceful you will be in dealing with such problems.
Its not just that but I need help too and I feel like Im not getting that help I need despite doing my part and everything possible. Juat seems like he's just laughing at me while I struggle or purposely blocking me. Its beyond annoying and makes me want to givw up on God bc other people tell of how he helped them and idk i just feel he doesnt want to help mw or likes me or something.

Don't try it in just your own strength. Take help of the one who you 'resent and have no faith'! Crazy I know. But, that's the only way we can fight/win that bitterness within us.

This is coming from a person (me) who has just finished suffering a week long depression, bitterness and resentfulness towards God and sulking throughout the week about how I "think" he betrayed me when I needed Him the most. It's like you are angry with God and you hate that feeling.

Battling bitterness is hard, I know. Remember God says in Revelation 3:21 - "To him who overcomes ...." and the promised reward in that verse is worth the fight!

After all the bitterness, If you find yourself with that little urge/longing to go back to HIM, consider it as no random feeling, It's HIM calling you back. He wants you back as much as you do. Don't let any lie stop you from going back.

Right. Just have to get past the resentment. Honestly feel God doesnt like me much.
I cant shake this feeling.
 
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