We are talking about three distinctions, our born again spirit, and our flesh bodies and our souls(mind, will and emotions).
The fruit of the spirit are about our spirit. Therefore the ultimate goal is to walk in love, yet this is almost
impossible in our world. Love is the greatest and we must start with self-control. Self-control of the body. If we are self-controlled then we will be gentile and towards love we go. The connection from a perfect born again spirit, to a soul and body which is in enmity against God. But the Holy Spirit leads us. How does this work? We ask questions and the Holy Spirit teaches us the answers.