Am I Immature?

Faith712 · Feb 23, 2021

Hi everyone! I hope you guys are having a good day!

Thank you to everyone who reads this. Thank you to everyone who replies to this.

I am 30 years old and I don't want to be immature for my age. Growing up people always told me I was mature for my age and so I hope that's still the case.

I live in my own apartment. I pay all of my bills and am never late and pay them in full. I pay for all of my other expenses like laundry, things to clean the apartment, clothes, and other needs other than bills. I budget every month and follow my budget according to Dave Ramsey.

I do have health problems. I am schizoaffective, epileptic, and obese. I am always tired and I seizure almost every day, sometimes multiple times a day. Because of this my family does almost all of my apartment chores except the garbage and laundry. My family do not want me to hurt myself seizuring and with the voices.

Because I don't do all of my chores and I sometimes make bad decisions I am concerned that I am immature for my age. I hate I can't do chores when I seizure. I hate my illnesses affect my mind to the point where I don't always make good choices. I make good big choices it's just some small choices I suck at.

For example, my phone rang in the beauty salon while the cosmetologist was putting chemicals in my hair and I got up in the middle of it to answer the phone. Later I told my mom and she corrected me. She said just let it ring and don't do that with him on your hair. That's common sense, why can't I think like that?

What is wrong with me? Why can't I make adult choices? Is wisdom maturity and should I look to Kung Solomon? Am I immature?

Pavel Mosko · Feb 23, 2021

I actually kind of hate that label. Sometimes it is appropriate for someone who is acting really childish but so many of the times it is given out arbitrarily, because of one problem when the person doesn't really know much about the person's life as a whole.

Pavel Mosko · Feb 23, 2021

Faith712 said:
I do have health problems. I am schizoaffective, epileptic, and obese. I am always tired and I seizure almost every day, sometimes multiple times a day. Because of this my family does almost all of my apartment chores except the garbage and laundry. My family do not want me to hurt myself seizuring and with the voices.

Don't be so hard on yourself those are serious problems.

Pavel Mosko · Feb 23, 2021

Faith712 said:
Because I don't do all of my chores and I sometimes make bad decisions I am concerned that I am immature for my age. I hate I can't do chores when I seizure. I hate my illnesses affect my mind to the point where I don't always make good choices. I make good big choices it's just some small choices I suck at.

For example, my phone rang in the beauty salon while the cosmetologist was putting chemicals in my hair and I got up in the middle of it to answer the phone. Later I told my mom and she corrected me. She said just let it ring and don't do that with him on your hair. That's common sense, why can't I think like that?

What is wrong with me? Why can't I make adult choices? Is wisdom maturity and should I look to Kung Solomon? Am I immature?

Unless the person is someone that is close to you a friend, relative. Or an authority figure you have to pay attention to like a boss, teacher, policeman, pastor etc. Then don't worry what people think, you got enough stuff to deal with.

Focus on self help that will ease your stress and helps with problem solving. I love the advice of some stuff on You-tube from various philosophers. Check out on You-tube. I would check out this video on You-tube (not site complaint but great advice).

10 Stoic Teachings Of Marcus Aurelius We Desperately Need Today (Practical Stoicism)

Friedrich Rubinstein · Feb 23, 2021

I would dare to say that none of us makes the right choices all the time, for divers reasons: sometimes we don't know it better, sometimes we don't think our actions through, and in your case some serious illnesses you cannot control take over your mind.
Illnesses should be faced as what they are: illnesses. It doesn't mean that you are immature in any way.

Instead of feeling bad for needing help you might try to be (more/only) thankful that there are people in your life who are capable and willing to help you. Many people with similar problems are left alone and have to deal with it on their own. In the end it's God's mercy only that you got a caring family.

Sabertooth · Feb 23, 2021

Whenever I question my maturity,
I just have my GI Joes & Barbies vote on it...!

(So far, they don't see a problem.)

(Don't ask teddy bears; they're unreliable.)

Jeshu · Feb 23, 2021

You know i got schizo-effective disorder as well and have learned that taking good care of myself is very important. To love God, self and neighbour as self is what helped me most.

You are doing really well by the sounds of it. Praise Jesus for your abilities and ask Him to give you ability when you lack. Be gentle and caring it will serve you well.

Be careful with labels you are so much more than your labels.

God loves you as you are and made you for good purpose rejoice in that instead of being so critical on yourself.

Ceallaigh · Feb 23, 2021

Some of have brains that don't work right. That keeps us from being able to do things others can do. Or at least to struggle with doing things, that comes easily to others. So we have that part that doesn't work right. Then we have the part that does work right, which is our intellect. The older we get the more our intellect sees that we are not functioning right.

Think of it this way. If someone is driving a car that has problems, like a bad steering system and bad brakes - is it the driver's fault that the car doesn't operate properly? Just because the car doesn't work right, that doesn't make him a bad driver.

Bob Crowley · Feb 23, 2021

I don't have any of the health issues you have, but I think you're doing pretty well.

You'll make mistakes from time to time, most likely due to the health problems you've got. Rest assured, we all make mistakes, every single one of us.

We've just seen people occupying or close to the most powerful office in the world carrying on like a bunch of spoilt brats, and you're worried you're immature?

I wouldn't say you're immature. I just think that from time to time, you'll make mistakes, most of which are simply due to the various conditions you have.

Kenny'sID · Feb 23, 2021

Many of us have either mental or physical problems that keep us from doing things.

Be happy you have a great family to help you out with something you simply cannot help. There is no shame in being disabled, none whatsoever.

Ceallaigh · Feb 23, 2021

I'm pushing 60 and I still feel immature and an underachiever at times. I have to remind myself that it's not me, it's my neurology.

Sabertooth · Feb 23, 2021

Being gifted AND an Aspie, it is par for the course, but there are benefits, too.
I just rock what I got!

aiki · Feb 24, 2021

Faith712 said:
Hi everyone! I hope you guys are having a good day!

Thank you to everyone who reads this. Thank you to everyone who replies to this.

I am 30 years old and I don't want to be immature for my age. Growing up people always told me I was mature for my age and so I hope that's still the case.

I can guarantee that if you're under God's control, submitted to the will and way of God's Spirit throughout each day, you will not be an "immature" person.

Faith712 said:
I live in my own apartment. I pay all of my bills and am never late and pay them in full. I pay for all of my other expenses like laundry, things to clean the apartment, clothes, and other needs other than bills. I budget every month and follow my budget according to Dave Ramsey.

How does God factor into how you handle your money?

Faith712 said:
I do have health problems. I am schizoaffective, epileptic, and obese. I am always tired and I seizure almost every day, sometimes multiple times a day. Because of this my family does almost all of my apartment chores except the garbage and laundry. My family do not want me to hurt myself seizuring and with the voices.

This sounds like a difficult road to walk. What do you think your life would be like if the Holy Spirit was
in control of you moment-by-moment throughout each day?

Faith712 said:
Because I don't do all of my chores and I sometimes make bad decisions I am concerned that I am immature for my age. I hate I can't do chores when I seizure. I hate my illnesses affect my mind to the point where I don't always make good choices. I make good big choices it's just some small choices I suck at.

And God? How does He come to bear on how you behave?

Faith712 said:
What is wrong with me? Why can't I make adult choices? Is wisdom maturity and should I look to Kung Solomon? Am I immature?

Wisdom is found in God's word, the Bible. It is also given to us from God in the Person of His Spirit. If you desire wisdom, these are the places in which you'll find it.

Faith712 · Feb 24, 2021

aiki said:
I can guarantee that if you're under God's control, submitted to the will and way of God's Spirit throughout each day, you will not be an "immature" person.

How does God factor into how you handle your money?

This sounds like a difficult road to walk. What do you think your life would be like if the Holy Spirit was
in control of you moment-by-moment throughout each day?

And God? How does He come to bear on how you behave?

Wisdom is found in God's word, the Bible. It is also given to us from God in the Person of His Spirit. If you desire wisdom, these are the places in which you'll find it.

These are some deep questions. I'll reflect on them for sure. A lot of it I never thought of. Thank you for asking and helping me.

Thank you guys for replying, thank you so much!

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