- Feb 21, 2021
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- Country
- United Kingdom
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- Christian
- Marital Status
- Married
Hi,
I hope someone can help. I have stupidly got my wife and I into a very regrettable situation.
We married over ten years ago, neither of us having had much sexual experience anywhere. I did, and still do, love my wife a lot. We have a lot in common. She is great in many ways. One problem though, was that I was never satisfied at all about the size of her breasts, but I thought, 'That's a RIDICULOUS reason not to marry- how shallow'. So I told myself that the more Godly thing would be to marry her, and because I got 'excited' easily anyway, sex shouldn't be a problem to deliver at any time.
Years passed, and I thought things were ok, because we did have sex (although rarely, due to various reasons). However, unknown at first to me, my wife sensed that I didn't have an overwhelming need for sex with her. I didn't think it was 'essential', as I still found her attractive, but it has proven to be very hurtful for my wife. We just had a conversation where I explained that I do enjoy her breasts when we are actually having sex together, but she asked me directly whether her breast size was sufficient for me, and I had to say no (and she knew anyway). She feels completely tricked and trapped. I certainly never meant to 'trap' or 'trick' her, but I cannot blame her for how she feels at all. She says she should have married one of her previous partners / friends who displayed a lot more desire for her. We have young children, an expensive mortgage, and only I am employed. She is still young and on the one hand would like to move on, as she feels the last ~10yrs has been stolen from her, but on the other hand doesn't know what to do Biblically. (Btw I do not watch inappropriate content and only got my first computer at 26, so it's just a preference I always had in there.
Hope you can help
I hope someone can help. I have stupidly got my wife and I into a very regrettable situation.
We married over ten years ago, neither of us having had much sexual experience anywhere. I did, and still do, love my wife a lot. We have a lot in common. She is great in many ways. One problem though, was that I was never satisfied at all about the size of her breasts, but I thought, 'That's a RIDICULOUS reason not to marry- how shallow'. So I told myself that the more Godly thing would be to marry her, and because I got 'excited' easily anyway, sex shouldn't be a problem to deliver at any time.
Years passed, and I thought things were ok, because we did have sex (although rarely, due to various reasons). However, unknown at first to me, my wife sensed that I didn't have an overwhelming need for sex with her. I didn't think it was 'essential', as I still found her attractive, but it has proven to be very hurtful for my wife. We just had a conversation where I explained that I do enjoy her breasts when we are actually having sex together, but she asked me directly whether her breast size was sufficient for me, and I had to say no (and she knew anyway). She feels completely tricked and trapped. I certainly never meant to 'trap' or 'trick' her, but I cannot blame her for how she feels at all. She says she should have married one of her previous partners / friends who displayed a lot more desire for her. We have young children, an expensive mortgage, and only I am employed. She is still young and on the one hand would like to move on, as she feels the last ~10yrs has been stolen from her, but on the other hand doesn't know what to do Biblically. (Btw I do not watch inappropriate content and only got my first computer at 26, so it's just a preference I always had in there.
Hope you can help