Urgent help

As long as it isn't physical abuse it is best you listen to both of them from a distance because either they need to work things out or part ways and you can't do much about either because if they were to bow to pressure from you the minute you move out on your own the fights will escalate to its finality.
Prayer is best and listen but don't lecture or give your opinion unless asked first.

Can you distance yourself from their fighting? Like go in the bedroom and cover your head or go outside? If you can't comfortably tell them how upsetting their fighting is then try to keep it out of you spirit as best you can. Your mother should know how upset you are about it. perhaps that will somehow keep them from doing it in front of you. Keep praying for them.
God bless you and hold on to God.

Do you know a pastor who can intervene?

Jaedan said:

My father is a good man, however, recently, he has been arguing with my mother, and I find it really traumatizing.

He always tells me and her that he is a Christian man and has authority.

He keeps calling my mother names, saying that she has the devil in her and that she is so stupid. he keeps telling him that she should go and find a new husband, etc etc

I don't know what to do and they keep yelling at each other

What should I do? I really need help right now. I don't really know how to deal with this.

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Dear Jaedan,

Go to your prayer closet. Seek God for help. Pray on behalf of both your father and mother. Seek God’s mercy on what they have said and done that are not according to His will. You can use psalm 130 for reference.

Seek the Lord’s wisdom on how you should approach your father and mother separately and together. Pray that God will bring them reconciliation and peace.

Be thoughtful with both of your parents and try to appease them with your love for them.

Remember love covers a multitude of sin. Only Love can cast all fears.

Jaedan said:

My father is a good man, however, recently, he has been arguing with my mother, and I find it really traumatizing.

He always tells me and her that he is a Christian man and has authority.

He keeps calling my mother names, saying that she has the devil in her and that she is so stupid. he keeps telling him that she should go and find a new husband, etc etc

I don't know what to do and they keep yelling at each other

What should I do? I really need help right now. I don't really know how to deal with this.

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Maybe your father has someone else behind the scenes.

Jaedan said:

My father is a good man, however, recently, he has been arguing with my mother, and I find it really traumatizing.

He always tells me and her that he is a Christian man and has authority.

He keeps calling my mother names, saying that she has the devil in her and that she is so stupid. he keeps telling him that she should go and find a new husband, etc etc

I don't know what to do and they keep yelling at each other

What should I do? I really need help right now. I don't really know how to deal with this.

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Well, this helps explain why you have the issues you do with God. Yikes!

A Christian man is given responsibility, not just authority. And wielding that authority properly is itself a terrible responsibility that no husband and father should ever take lightly! God looks very darkly upon - and will deal severely with - the man who is one of His own but who does not love his wife and children as God loves them.

Your mother must - and is - making choices that keep her with her husband and under his abuse. She is an adult and is responsible for what she chooses. Clearly, your mother is willing to put up with your father's wretched behaviour. And so long as she is, well, you'll just have to endure her choice to do so.

Of course, if your dad takes to physical violence, call the cops.

It's really impossible to advise you without a good understanding of the dynamics of your family. But, I can say this: If what you say your Dad is saying and doing is true, he is not acting at all in the manner of a man who really knows Christ. No man who knows and loves God would carry on with his wife as you describe.

Are there times when you can bring up something that concerns you? When our sons were teens, any of us could call a family meeting with no phones, tv, friends, etc Of course, a lot could be said in one statement from you about how their interactions cause you a lot of stress. Maybe a gentle reminder that it's difficult to study afterwards.

Seems like your dad's view of himself has been damaged, challenged, or threatened recently With covid, many are experiencing more stress than before. Think husband led marriages are good.
Eph 5:33 says for husbands to love your wives as Christ loved the church and
wives respect your husbands. The application of this one verse would help a lot of marriages.

Praying, too.

Hey, Jaedan... that sounds like a really stressful situation. It's so mature of you to realize that you need support! A lot of people wouldn't recognize that, but you did. I'm in Canada, but I do have counseling connections in the States... Teen Line is a really good place to connect with when you need support from other teens or from adults who can give you some good tips for dealing with stuff like this. You can call, text, or e-mail, and there's a message board you can look through to see if someone else is dealing with the same sort of stress. It's completely confidential. I'd really encourage you to get in touch with them here: TEEN LINE | Teens Helping Teens - Connect, talk, get help! (teenlineonline.org)
Hang in there!