I think that's rather common. I remember visiting an uncle of mine (the same man who came to tell me my own father had died, but who died himself a few months later), and he said he could see "Grandma" "over there". He was sort of pointing towards the far side of the hospital ward.
At the time I wasn't a Christian and I thought he was hallucinating from the painkillers they'd given him, plus the effects of the cancer. But there was an eerie sense in the room.
I think angels come to take us when we did if we're going to heaven or purgatory. But if we're going to hell, I think demons turn up. They are, after all, fallen angels.
I claim to have the peculiar experience of my own father turning up in the bedroom of the unit I was living in on the night he died himself, despite not knowing where I was living. I didn't want him to know.
I still remember he looked a bit surprised himself as he started to materialise near the door. I assume he'd either asked, or been told, to apologise to me for the years of cruelty he'd inflicted, which is what his opening words were about. No sooner had he asked or been told than he found himself in my room, despite not knowing where I was. He died a good ten miles away. I didn't find out for another four days in the normal fashion as his body wasn't found for four days, and the above mentioned uncle turned up.
The end of the episode was when he gave this absolutely blood curdling scream, and then just vanished. It was obvious that something was coming for him.
So I don't have any illusions whatsoever that the "particular judgment" takes place immediately after death. In fact if I'd had the presence of mind to note the time, I think I could have given a very accurate time of death.
We had quite a conversation and I still remember most of it 42 years later as at January just gone.
The spiritual world is quite different to ours. They've only got to think about something, or be given their marching orders, and it happens immediately. Everything we do takes time - it's not that way for spiritual beings.
I'm not the only one by the way. An elderly lady I met via my last job told me something similar happened to her. Her husband had a brain embolism, and he only was being kept alive by machines. He was dying.
The hospital staff had already told her they were going to turn off the machines the next day, and if he couldn't breath, he'd die.
But that night something "white" sat on the end of the bed. She said she was freaking out, and wondered what the hell was going on! But then it spoke and she immediately knew the voice. It was her husband and he'd come to apologise for the way he'd treated her.
Interestingly, their eldest daughter had the very same experience. Apparently he'd been very abusive to her as well, far more so than the other children.
So he was sent to apologise to both of them. Obviously he'd died that night before they got around to turning off the machines.
I don't know how the episode ended, and I don't think it was as dramatic as my experience with my father screaming his spiritual head off about six feet away and then disappearing into eternity. But it was still similar.
Our personal judgement takes place immediately after death. No question.
PS - Our of sheer curiosity I checked the distance from the unit where my father died to where I was living at the time. Both buildings still exist as far as I know.
According to Google Maps, it would have taken about 21 minutes and 17.5km by road, via what we call the M7 (tunnel) and the Airport Link (also via a tunnel), neither of which existed back then, so it would have been further and taken longer in those days. It was probably about 16kms in a straight line or thereabouts, which is close to 10 miles.
He found himself in my room immediately but he didn't know where I lived, as I'd made of point of not telling him. I loathed him. And amongst the things he said was "Son, you have to forgive me! ... If you don't you'll destroy yourself!"
