29 & Never Dated

DragonFox91 · Jan 7, 2021

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DragonFox91 · Jan 8, 2021

I've been doing a good job praying this week but I feel so lonely. I hope the ministry I'm planning on going to Sunday can at least be a distraction.

DragonFox91 · Jan 8, 2021

this isn't good. I am crying. I feel so alone. I hate this so much. I am so lonely. I'm going to be alone my whole life

ImAllLikeOkWaitWat · Jan 9, 2021

DragonFox91 said:
I'm going to be alone my whole life

You ain't the only one, act accordingly.

DragonFox91 · Jan 9, 2021

I hold my dream cupped in both hands. It's hurting my hands. It's heavy. It pierces my hands. It's sharp. My hands are bloody. I've been holding it a long time. The dream pierces Jesus, hanging him to the cross, but he's okay w/ that. He's bloody now. I'm not holding it anymore. There is a woman too. She has her dream cupped in her hands. It is sharp & pierces her hands too & her hands are bloody. But her dream hangs Jesus to the cross too so she's no longer holding it. He is bloodied by it. Me & the woman are together. Our hands are now clean, it's strengthened them. Our hands take each other & we are united. Jesus stands over me & the woman. Patience.

The other night I prayed & got that. I wasn't expecting the woman part. I don't fully understand tho. I thought the sins of humanity - mine included - pierced Jesus. Maybe the whole thing is just my own nonsense.

DragonFox91 · Jan 9, 2021

I am so lonely

MehGuy · Jan 9, 2021

DragonFox91 said:
I am so lonely

Maybe try practicing some desensitization? Although I'd hope some of it would have occurred naturally by now. Are you as lonely as you have ever been? Or are right now you're just going through a spell?

DragonFox91 · Jan 9, 2021

MehGuy said:
Maybe try practicing some desensitization? Although I'd hope some of it would have occurred naturally by now. Are you as lonely as you have ever been? Or are right now you're just going through a spell?

The past few weeks have been especially hard.

MehGuy · Jan 9, 2021

DragonFox91 said:
The past few weeks have been especially hard.

Yeah, but what's it been like on average throughout the years?

I used to feel somewhat lonely.. now I'm not really capable of caring. A woman at work said I should see a doctor about it.. lol.

DragonFox91 · Jan 9, 2021

MehGuy said:
Yeah, but what's it been like on average throughout the years?

I used to feel somewhat lonely.. now I'm not really capable of caring. A woman at work said I should see a doctor about it.. lol.

Usually it's not loneliness, so much as unfulfillment.

MehGuy · Jan 9, 2021

DragonFox91 said:
Usually it's not loneliness, so much as unfulfillment.

Unfulfilled in what way? Can you be more specific?

DragonFox91 · Jan 9, 2021

MehGuy said:
Unfulfilled in what way? Can you be more specific?

the dating thing. I want a companion like that.

MehGuy · Jan 9, 2021

DragonFox91 said:
the dating thing. I want a companion like that.

Yeah, but emotionally. I guess I'm trying to understand how this differentiates from loneliness.

DragonFox91 · Jan 9, 2021

MehGuy said:
Yeah, but emotionally. I guess I'm trying to understand how this differentiates from loneliness.

That is the emotion. Longing, desire, emptiness, & worse. I'd say more often then not I find distractions, but that's all they are & the negative emotions are under the surface.

MehGuy · Jan 9, 2021

DragonFox91 said:
That is the emotion. Longing, desire, emptiness, & worse. I'd say more often then not I find distractions, but that's all they are & the negative emotions are under the surface.

Well as I said before I think some desensitization would do some good. At your age I think it's a little excessive to be literally crying about being single anyways. Maybe not everyone can do it, but I'd tell yourself it's not a big deal. While relationships can be nice.. most people tend to grow distant from each other and their other half becomes more of a burden than anything. You're not alone, especially in our generation. The couples that find true lasting love is probably incredibly slim.

DragonFox91 · Jan 9, 2021

MehGuy said:
Well as I said before I think some desensitization would do some good. At your age I think it's a little excessive to be literally crying about being single anyways. Maybe not everyone can do it, but I'd tell yourself it's not a big deal. While relationships can be nice.. most people tend to grow distant from each other and their other half becomes more of a burden than anything. You're not alone, especially in our generation. The couples that find true lasting love is probably incredibly slim.

I rarely literally cry about it.

I don't want to desensitize myself to it. If I do, then I won't be preparing myself or trying to improve my situation.

I think the 'younger generation doesn't find love' stuff tossed around is overblown. Couples are just delaying marriage. They're not not doing it. They're still dating too, just dating into their mid-late 20s & not marrying right out of high school. Sometimes they even just have one partner from 18 till when they get married, it's just later they get married. Or couples aren't actually getting married (tho they live like they are married). I think a lot of those not getting married are doing so by their own choice, because they've seen marriage can be hard sometimes, & they don't have the desire to. Society's telling women they don't need a man. So that affects those numbers too. My trouble is I want to. I want to date. I want to get married. I want that companion. I want to try it.

MehGuy · Jan 9, 2021

DragonFox91 said:
I rarely literally cry about it.

I don't want to desensitize myself to it. If I do, then I won't be preparing myself or trying to improve my situation.

You don't have to go over board with the desensitization.. but sometimes it can be good... and might even help you with your problems getting women. Women can easily be turned off by desperation.. right now I have a few women frustrated that I don't want them.. and even angry that I don't care that I'm single.. lol.

I think the 'younger generation doesn't find love' stuff tossed around is overblown. Couples are just delaying marriage. They're not not doing it. They're still dating too, just dating into their mid-late 20s & not marrying right out of high school. Sometimes they even just have one partner from 18 till when they get married, it's just later they get married. Or couples aren't actually getting married (tho they live like they are married). I think a lot of those not getting married are doing so by their own choice, because they've seen marriage can be hard sometimes, & they don't have the desire to. Society's telling women they don't need a man. So that affects those numbers too. My trouble is I want to. I want to date. I want to get married. I want that companion. I want to try it.

I'm not arguing that people are not getting married, just that true love is probably less common. Especially with feminism abound (plenty of women and men feminist in spirit even if they do not personally use the label). I cannot imagine how they can actually feel close to one another or love each other. unless they're totally clueless.. lol.

DragonFox91 · Jan 9, 2021

MehGuy said:
You don't have to go over board with the desensitization.. but sometimes it can be good... and might even help you with your problems getting women. Women can easily be turned off by desperation.. right now I have a few women frustrated that I don't want them.. and even angry that I don't care that I'm single.. lol.

it won't

women are more attracted to other men anyways no matter what i do

MehGuy · Jan 9, 2021

DragonFox91 said:
it won't

women are more attracted to other men anyways no matter what i do

Why are women not attracted to you? What kind of women do you pursue?

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