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Narcisisstic Smear Campaign - One Year On Need Advice

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Hey guys I need advice.

One year ago, is I was on the receiving end of a narcisisstic smear campaign last year by two "christian" actresses, making up all manner of false accusations and trying to destroy my career, relationships and friendships. It was really bad, two narcissists teamed up and I learned all about flying monkeys, and just how much damage a narcissist can do to their victim.

I had saved all the proof that would exonerate me on both of them and prove I was innocent and showed what they were doing behind the scenes. One was sexually immoral (she told a friend of mine she was all for sex before marriage) and I saw her signed up to a facebook online sex hookup group. I later caught her in a blatant lie and confronted her over her lies. A few weeks ago I decided to let go and finally delete the evidence (or at least part of it, which is the most important part and I'm now regretting I didn't hold onto it, although there may be another copy on my hard drives) and forgive and leave the person in God's hands.

Now I find out that she has connected herself to a film ministry close to work and I may run into her again. I am scared she is going to again try and destroy me. I've been wrestling with what to do, as I just started at my new job at a Christian film place, and if I speak up that can worry my employer and trigger another narcissistic campaign from the NPD person, but if I remain silent this person has proven they have no issues with trying to destroy me just so she can advance her career. Today I mentioned it to one of my supervisors but I now don't feel safe having shared what happened last year.

All I know to do is be like David when Saul was throwing spears at him, to just duck and weave and not throw any back. But what am I to do otherwise? I'm concerned that this woman who said she would do nudity in film and all, is in a position to really bring down a new ministry and she's seeming to pull the wool over their eyes in my opinion. She used me to fund a mission trip at one point, but even though she had it fully funded she claimed it wasn't and asked me to pay the difference, she then used the extra money from me to fly to see her family before the trip.

I feel like I've done all I can just to make my supervisor aware that there has been someone seeking to destroy me, but to be like Jesus was when falsely accused and hold my tongue and let God be my defender.

I don't want to see her destroyed, I hope and pray God convicts her over what she has done in the past and gets things right with God. The thought of her turning up at work though makes me feel sick and the threat of further lies and false accusations really worries me.
 
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To hide lies brings us secrets which burn in our hearts while the wicked feast. Yet the truth tells us that to expose the darkness to the light brings an end to the darkness.

So bring this darkness to Jesus in your prayer life and let His loving truth guide you how best defend yourself against the lies. Teaching you to love them to death.

Peace.
 
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If these people are narcists it is best to find some way to move on to some other job, ministry etc. Just take the reputation hit and move on. That is the simplest, most affective solution. The less attention you pay them the better. Let them move on to more exciting opportunities, aka feeding on other people for narcistic supply.
 
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If these people are narcists it is best to find some way to move on to some other job, ministry etc. Just take the reputation hit and move on. That is the simplest, most affective solution. The less attention you pay them the better. Let them move on to more exciting opportunities, aka feeding on other people for narcistic supply.

Unfortunately the Christin world is small, the film world is small, the Christian Film World is miniscule. I can't move on to somewhere else, I've waited 30 years for God to place me in this position. It's time for me to take a stand, I cannot be bullied into having to go back to Australia where there is very little film work and at that I'd have to be working with non-Christians and while working on major movies and tv shows down there I've literally had large bags of marijuana thrown right past my face. I'm where God wants me, there were so many miracles for Him to open the door after 30 years of faithfully serving Him, being broken and humbled and equipped. No matter where I go these two actresses will be a threat until God does something.

I'd love to say more about my situation but it would place me at risk from the narcissists by disclosing too much information.
 
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Well unfortunately the entertainment world is loaded with NPD.

I have watched many videos from this lady who made her private practice dealing with Hollywood folks, and is probably the biggest expert on it. Your probably going to have to learn how to go Grey Rock, if you want to stay in the business.

 
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Yeah that's what I'm doing right now. I was afraid to speak up at work but felt it was important to give a heads up in case something did happen so they can be aware of what might happen. Thanks for that video link.

My concern is my call and career being destroyed or even seeing the one tv ministry being brought down. I want to run to the heads and say hey be careful, but that could be flipped into an accusation against me. NPD is so bad, like in the movie wargames the only way to win is not to play.

I think the worst part for me right now is seeing the person pull the wool over the eyes of good people, and appearing to succeed, but then I get worried about that being a narcissistic response from me, so I give it to God for Him to hopefully deal with.
 
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In all honesty I think you should pray and seek God about your career and be open to other opportunities in the general industry.

1) There is the general abusive environment that you always have to manage etc. And that may even be worse in that industry, where parties and other social gatherings etc. are part of business etc.



2) I also believe that when God closes one door he opens another.....



3) I have seen some of my friends get caught up in the "monkey trap". There is a story that I believe is an urban legend of a tribe of natives that hunt monkeys, by boring a hole in a coconut (just large enough for a monkey hand to fit) and putting a fruit inside. The monkey is so greedy or stubborn that when he grabs the fruit he cannot let go of the fruit and will allow humans to capture him. That sort of thing I think is just a fable but it does there are plenty of people who do other things like gambling addicts, who can't turn away because of what they have invested and are convinced that next slot machine jackpot is around the corner. Their lots of people in business who have the same problem. They can't walk away from something they have spent years working at. But there often are plenty of reasons to do so... even in the Bible there are some cases of this. Isaac in Genesis is the best example of someone who have to move around a bit before he got settled (The Canaanites kept harassing' him over the wells he dug).



4) The Christian Ghetto and the book "Finding Common Ground".

A) One area I have been concerned with the last number of years is (the figurative) "The Christian Ghetto". Rather than trying to influence culture directly, we make Christian music, etc. into a niche sub culture that has its dedicated audience. Their are a lot drawbacks to this sort of thing creativity and artistic achievement being the biggest one (Christian products tend to sell because of the loyalty of the audience more than because of quality etc.). I was going to link a video from this Christian media Blogger on the music industry, but I think You-tube got him on their strict copy right strike policy so will quote him talking about Christian TV and movies.



B) The other side of this coin is to see that going into the secular industries and trying to represent the Christian world view etc. is a legitimate ministry in itself. In fact in many ways it is needed now more than ever. There was a great book I read on the general subject below.

https://www.amazon.com/Finding-Common-Ground-Communicate-Christian/dp/0802440967
 
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I've waited 30 years for God to place me in this position.
What God is committed to, He will succeed.

I give it to God for Him to hopefully deal with.
Pray and learn how He blesses you to handle this.

when God closes one door he opens another.....
amen

And Jesus says if we are really for Him, rejoice when people speak all manner of evil against us. It will turn out to be in His strategy.
 
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Hey guys I need advice.

One year ago, is I was on the receiving end of a narcisisstic smear campaign last year by two "christian" actresses, making up all manner of false accusations and trying to destroy my career, relationships and friendships. It was really bad, two narcissists teamed up and I learned all about flying monkeys, and just how much damage a narcissist can do to their victim.

I had saved all the proof that would exonerate me on both of them and prove I was innocent and showed what they were doing behind the scenes. One was sexually immoral (she told a friend of mine she was all for sex before marriage) and I saw her signed up to a facebook online sex hookup group. I later caught her in a blatant lie and confronted her over her lies. A few weeks ago I decided to let go and finally delete the evidence (or at least part of it, which is the most important part and I'm now regretting I didn't hold onto it, although there may be another copy on my hard drives) and forgive and leave the person in God's hands.

Now I find out that she has connected herself to a film ministry close to work and I may run into her again. I am scared she is going to again try and destroy me. I've been wrestling with what to do, as I just started at my new job at a Christian film place, and if I speak up that can worry my employer and trigger another narcissistic campaign from the NPD person, but if I remain silent this person has proven they have no issues with trying to destroy me just so she can advance her career. Today I mentioned it to one of my supervisors but I now don't feel safe having shared what happened last year.

All I know to do is be like David when Saul was throwing spears at him, to just duck and weave and not throw any back. But what am I to do otherwise? I'm concerned that this woman who said she would do nudity in film and all, is in a position to really bring down a new ministry and she's seeming to pull the wool over their eyes in my opinion. She used me to fund a mission trip at one point, but even though she had it fully funded she claimed it wasn't and asked me to pay the difference, she then used the extra money from me to fly to see her family before the trip.

I feel like I've done all I can just to make my supervisor aware that there has been someone seeking to destroy me, but to be like Jesus was when falsely accused and hold my tongue and let God be my defender.

I don't want to see her destroyed, I hope and pray God convicts her over what she has done in the past and gets things right with God. The thought of her turning up at work though makes me feel sick and the threat of further lies and false accusations really worries me.
Meditate Psalm 37. Pray that the Lord shepherd you. Trust the Lord to lead you aright.
 
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If God placed you in this position, and you are truly blameless, and these two women are randomly just trying to cause trouble for you for absolutely NO reason...

...then sit tight and trust God. If He put you there, He'll watch out for you against two catty chicks.

If, however, there is any source or foundation for their dislike of you and campaign against you, you need to deal with that ASAP, before anything else.
 
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I'm sorry you're experiencing harassment. I don't work in Hollywood but I'm pursuing a call to a related industry. Your post is a little surprising given the climate. I would expect someone called to Hollywood to possess certain spiritual gifts and immense warfare experience. The demonic elements are deep. I feel it when I pray for them. Whether you're dealing with a Christian company doesn't matter. The environment is profoundly evil.

Satan has his people everywhere. Including Christian companies. Prayer and fasting are a must. As is a network of prayer warriors laboring on your behalf continuously. You're going to experience opposition. It will probably be a constant. The goal is to break you or make you transgress your witness.

You've stepped into his territory. This is the lion's den. He won't welcome you with open arms. He unleashes an assault. Your first response is prayer. Establish a weekly fast routine and build a team of intercessors. The weapons of your warfare aren't carnal. The battle is waged on the spiritual plane. So suit up.

Fashion, Hollywood, and music are battlegrounds. They have the greatest influence on culture. The demonic activity is fierce. It never lets up.

Treat it like an attack and address it spiritually and allow the Lord to manifest the answer in His timing. Pray against the spirit of pride, hate, and mind binding spirits.

Yours in His Service,

~bella
 
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