My wife and I have 2 children; a 12 year old and a 10 year old.
My problem is that whenever my wife gets upset, which can be unpredictable and often, she ignores me and the children completely, for weeks.
She locks herself in the room and ignores me completely, and the children most of the time, when we try to talk to her. She does not cook, wash clothes, or do anything at all in the house of for any of us during these times. She goes in and out without saying hello or goodbye. When she’s really bad, she has kicked our dog, and always pushes him away. He has learned to avoid her, when she’s in her mood.
if she chooses to ignore me, that is bad enough but I don’t understand her rejecting our children.
Even when she is not upset, I cannot rely on her to collect the children from school. I feel like she accepts the children rather than wants to be around them. I’m working from home and have meetings most of each day. Yet, in spite of her finishing her work nearby at 2:30 pm, I have to leave work to go out twice each afternoon to collect them from their respective schools, even though she walks past both of their schools on the way home. I often arrive at my sons school, as she’s passing by.
In the mornings, I get the children ready for school, while she remains in bed. Then last minute she gets up and then tells whoever still hasn’t showered, that they have to wait because she can’t be late for her morning job.
She shows no interest in their school work or extra curricular activities; all of which I manage. I cook everyday tidy the house. It’s as though she is not there in our lives.
I don’t know what to do. I can’t sleep. I have so much resentment towards her inside but don’t show anything as I don’t want my children to see what I’m feeling.
if I had the money, I’d buy a second home for us to go to when her behaviour is at its worst. As I said, i can accept her being bad towards me but I don’t understand her attitude towards the children. Example: One day when I was on a work conference call in my home office, while she was watching tv, I received a call to say my son, then 6 years old, was waiting for someone to pick him up. I rushed off to get him. When we came back, she did not apologise or try to comfort him. What mother does that?
it’s almost 5am and I’ve been up since 2am. My wife is asleep in the living room. She has not spoken to us for about 7 days. As usual, I have no idea why.
My problem is that whenever my wife gets upset, which can be unpredictable and often, she ignores me and the children completely, for weeks.
She locks herself in the room and ignores me completely, and the children most of the time, when we try to talk to her. She does not cook, wash clothes, or do anything at all in the house of for any of us during these times. She goes in and out without saying hello or goodbye. When she’s really bad, she has kicked our dog, and always pushes him away. He has learned to avoid her, when she’s in her mood.
if she chooses to ignore me, that is bad enough but I don’t understand her rejecting our children.
Even when she is not upset, I cannot rely on her to collect the children from school. I feel like she accepts the children rather than wants to be around them. I’m working from home and have meetings most of each day. Yet, in spite of her finishing her work nearby at 2:30 pm, I have to leave work to go out twice each afternoon to collect them from their respective schools, even though she walks past both of their schools on the way home. I often arrive at my sons school, as she’s passing by.
In the mornings, I get the children ready for school, while she remains in bed. Then last minute she gets up and then tells whoever still hasn’t showered, that they have to wait because she can’t be late for her morning job.
She shows no interest in their school work or extra curricular activities; all of which I manage. I cook everyday tidy the house. It’s as though she is not there in our lives.
I don’t know what to do. I can’t sleep. I have so much resentment towards her inside but don’t show anything as I don’t want my children to see what I’m feeling.
if I had the money, I’d buy a second home for us to go to when her behaviour is at its worst. As I said, i can accept her being bad towards me but I don’t understand her attitude towards the children. Example: One day when I was on a work conference call in my home office, while she was watching tv, I received a call to say my son, then 6 years old, was waiting for someone to pick him up. I rushed off to get him. When we came back, she did not apologise or try to comfort him. What mother does that?
it’s almost 5am and I’ve been up since 2am. My wife is asleep in the living room. She has not spoken to us for about 7 days. As usual, I have no idea why.
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