"They" get it wrong every time?

LovebirdsFlying said:

Well, it's been a while since I've posted one of these threads. Communication has improved a lot, we've both found ways to help it flow, and there hasn't been as much need to ask for help with it.

But....

Now, before anyone points out that the obvious solution is to make the trip myself next time, this usually only happens when I'm too sick to go anywhere, as is the case today. My voice is almost completely gone. If I had made the trip myself, they couldn't have even heard me. Besides, we all know that if I'm not well, I should stay home.

So when I'm sick, my husband usually will go out for some comfort food (usually chicken) rather than one of us cook and clean. Everyone who knows me knows that when it comes to chicken, I like the thighs. If I alone were buying chicken, just for myself, it would be thighs only. Well, there's a local drive through around here that has yet to get an order right. We've asked for all dark, and he's come home with a bucket full of breasts and wings because apparently the crew thought "dark" meant "well done." Neither one of us likes breasts and wings. Tonight, instead of saying "all dark," we specified "legs and thighs" because hubby likes both. When he came home, what was in the bucket? You guessed it. All legs. No thighs whatsoever.

Hubby's usual response when he discovers he didn't get what he ordered is to fume, "Well, those (grumble-grumble)s. I told them what you wanted, and they got it wrong again! I just won't go there anymore." But I don't want him to stop going there. They have the best tasting chicken. I merely want him, as I've advised him at least the last three times this has happened, to check the order BEFORE he leaves the restaurant and drives all the way home with it.

Tonight we both made it plain that we are annoyed with the crew of the restaurant more than with each other, but he knows I'm also annoyed with him because once again he didn't check before leaving. So in return he's also annoyed with me for being annoyed with him.

I told him I was only asking this to get his viewpoint and give him equal time. From his end, why the resistance to the idea of checking the order while he's still at the restaurant instead of waiting until he's home to discover they messed up again? He didn't want to answer that.

So, for any of you who might be in his position and understand things from his angle, I'm asking you, please. What would be *your* reason for resisting the idea? Because I'm all set to think it's an ego thing, and he simply doesn't want to do it because I suggested it. Could there be any other reason?

Thank you.

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NerdGirl123 said:

It should only take about ten seconds to quickly peek in the bag/bucket, and see if the order is correct. Cars behind can wait without anyone dying in that timeframe

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LovebirdsFlying said:

I forgot to mention that he called them and told them what happened, and then went back for the thighs. It's not far from here, and they didn't charge him for it, but he was a bit put off about having to make two trips.

On the part of the restaurant, I don't see why they keep getting our orders wrong. But they do, and that's WHY the orders need to be checked before leaving there. Am I the one being unreasonable? I don't think so. You go to a restaurant and make your order, they should fill it as you ordered it. Now, if it were near closing time, and they were out of thighs, but then I insisted it must be thighs, *that* would be unreasonable.

One more little tidbit: When he called and spoke to them, explaining what happened, they gave him a confirmation number. He went to pick up the thighs, told them the confirmation number, stressed again that it should be THIGHS, and then drove to the second window. Where the guy filling the order looked out at him and said, "You wanted all drumsticks, right?" Well, that time he did make sure he didn't leave there without thighs.

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LovebirdsFlying said:

Well, it's been a while since I've posted one of these threads. Communication has improved a lot, we've both found ways to help it flow, and there hasn't been as much need to ask for help with it.

But....

Now, before anyone points out that the obvious solution is to make the trip myself next time, this usually only happens when I'm too sick to go anywhere, as is the case today. My voice is almost completely gone. If I had made the trip myself, they couldn't have even heard me. Besides, we all know that if I'm not well, I should stay home.

So when I'm sick, my husband usually will go out for some comfort food (usually chicken) rather than one of us cook and clean. Everyone who knows me knows that when it comes to chicken, I like the thighs. If I alone were buying chicken, just for myself, it would be thighs only. Well, there's a local drive through around here that has yet to get an order right. We've asked for all dark, and he's come home with a bucket full of breasts and wings because apparently the crew thought "dark" meant "well done." Neither one of us likes breasts and wings. Tonight, instead of saying "all dark," we specified "legs and thighs" because hubby likes both. When he came home, what was in the bucket? You guessed it. All legs. No thighs whatsoever.

Hubby's usual response when he discovers he didn't get what he ordered is to fume, "Well, those (grumble-grumble)s. I told them what you wanted, and they got it wrong again! I just won't go there anymore." But I don't want him to stop going there. They have the best tasting chicken. I merely want him, as I've advised him at least the last three times this has happened, to check the order BEFORE he leaves the restaurant and drives all the way home with it.

Tonight we both made it plain that we are annoyed with the crew of the restaurant more than with each other, but he knows I'm also annoyed with him because once again he didn't check before leaving. So in return he's also annoyed with me for being annoyed with him.

I told him I was only asking this to get his viewpoint and give him equal time. From his end, why the resistance to the idea of checking the order while he's still at the restaurant instead of waiting until he's home to discover they messed up again? He didn't want to answer that.

So, for any of you who might be in his position and understand things from his angle, I'm asking you, please. What would be *your* reason for resisting the idea? Because I'm all set to think it's an ego thing, and he simply doesn't want to do it because I suggested it. Could there be any other reason?

Thank you.

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