Heartbroken

Jh24 said:

Hi all
I'm in terrible pain, my girlfriend keep leading me on and thinking we will get married, then its like she changes her mind and I just feel so broken hearted. She says she doesn't know if she can accept my faults and shortcoming and accept me for who I am. We've known each other almost 9 months now and I just feel like my heart is in so much pain

What do i do?

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I don't want to ignore your post. It seems to me the wisest answer is to break it off, no matter how painful. She sounds like someone who needs to mature before she is ready to be a godly wife. If so marriage to her would cause you long term pain. But only you can make that decision and carry it out, asking for God's strength to do it. Remember that is only my opinion and you really need to consult God, asking for his wisdom.

As for the pain, it is part of life. Jesus told us we will have suffering in this life.
1 Peter 5:10, Romans 5:3-4, 2 Corinthians 4:17.

I'm sorry you're hurting. You've raised some important issues in your post and I'll address them all.

my girlfriend keep leading me on and thinking we will get married, then its like she changes her mind

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Uncertainty is a part of life. But doublemindedness can wreak havoc on your heart. The absence of stability takes a toll after awhile and you're on a constant roller coaster. Do you want a lifetime of up and down? She may not change. Consider that.

She says she doesn't know if she can accept my faults and shortcoming and accept me for who I am.

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This is the smoking gun. If she can't accept you as you are, there's no guarantee she'll remain by your side. She may leave later on. Do you want to build a marriage on a shaky foundation? Her agreement would be predicated on changes. What if it didn't happen? Don't sell yourself short. Find someone who loves you as is who's willing to help you improve.

We've known each other almost 9 months now and I just feel like my heart is in so much pain.

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You haven't known her very long. The disappointment is unpleasant but you may be saving yourself from a lot of heartache in the long run. It doesn't appear she's prepared to marry you. Don't waste your life on a maybe. Find someone who's gung-ho about spending their life with you. It's the only one you have.

Yours in His Service,

~Bella