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It seems some people here are very passionate about their beliefs. This in and of itself is not a problem. It becomes a problem when people assert that their position is the only one that makes sense. People do this due to their convictions and convictions are a good thing. However, people often make the assumption that they know the other PoV when they don't actually. This causes people to be prone to debate and strength of force to show their point is the correct one. I would like to challenge this. Perhaps the best way to show you are in the right on things is to say what you believe with temperance and utmost respect for the person you are talking to. I have even heard people say they are "rebuking" bad doctrine. The thing is, we all hold to the same core belief. These things are the things that are non-negotiable. Everything else, however, is fair game for discussion. Do we want to be a people who assert they are right, even condemning certain belief systems in the Christian faith, or do we want to watch out words with temperance, gentleness, and respect? I think people will hear out someone with a calm disposition but will rarely change their tune to someone basically yelling at them in written words telling them their beliefs are "wrong" even sinful.

So next time you see someone with an elevated tone, do not respond in kind, but instead be gentle, knowing there is actually a person on the other end of the argument rather than simply a "sinful wretch" who has their theology poorly figured out.

Be slow to speak, slow to anger.

Proverbs 15:1
 
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It seems some people here are very passionate about their beliefs. This in and of itself is not a problem. It becomes a problem when people assert that their position is the only one that makes sense. People do this due to their convictions and convictions are a good thing. However, people often make the assumption that they know the other PoV when they don't actually. This causes people to be prone to debate and strength of force to show their point is the correct one. I would like to challenge this. Perhaps the best way to show you are in the right on things is to say what you believe with temperance and utmost respect for the person you are talking to. I have even heard people say they are "rebuking" bad doctrine. The thing is, we all hold to the same core belief. These things are the things that are non-negotiable. Everything else, however, is fair game for discussion. Do we want to be a people who assert they are right, even condemning certain belief systems in the Christian faith, or do we want to watch out words with temperance, gentleness, and respect? I think people will hear out someone with a calm disposition but will rarely change their tune to someone basically yelling at them in written words telling them their beliefs are "wrong" even sinful.

So next time you see someone with an elevated tone, do not respond in kind, but instead be gentle, knowing there is actually a person on the other end of the argument rather than simply a "sinful wretch" who has their theology poorly figured out.

Be slow to speak, slow to anger.

Proverbs 15:1
It helps to not have a provocative personality to begin with.

I've found over the years to examine myself also, since you know - when one finger is pointing outwards, three are pointing right back at me.
 
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If someone put their views across to me in a disrespectful and condescending way, then I would simply question whether their sincere belief has made themselves a better person for having it. If it hasn't then I would prefer to listen to someone else.
 
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If someone put their views across to me in a disrespectful and condescending way, then I would simply question whether their sincere belief has made themselves a better person for having it. If it hasn't then I would prefer to listen to someone else.

I agree and I believe there are certain bridges we can build in spite of our differences. Perhaps the person arguing in an aggressive manner can be a person you can try to build a connection with and build a bridge there. After all, Christ doesn't command us to do what is easy, but what is difficult.
 
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