How do you discipline your children ?

sitting or standing in the corner, loss of privilages/allowence. no dessert or sweet snacks. extra chores--this one is tricky. paying with own money for something broken by their bad behavior. and i do believe a swat dosen t hurt but yours are outgrowing that. i yell and then they KNOW I m mad

Today at 11:52 AM Didymus said this in Post #2

sitting or standing in the corner, loss of privilages/allowence. no dessert or sweet snacks. extra chores--this one is tricky. paying with own money for something broken by their bad behavior. and i do believe a swat dosen t hurt but yours are outgrowing that. i yell and then they KNOW I m mad

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That's all good, but what if those suggestions don't work?

I'll just move it

Focus on helping them change their heart attitudes rather than merely trying to alter their behavior. A book that really helped me to understand this concept is tedd Tripp's Shephering a Child's Heart. It gave me a whole new perspective on rearing children. I love, love, love that book and recommend it to all parents!!!

If it is a big problem the first thing you have to do is something to get their attention. They have to have respect for you or they won't listen. Remember they owe you respect for raising them, you don't have to earn it in their eyes, you already done it. I believe in tanning one's tail if that is what it takes to get their attention. Some need it some don't, it's a tough call. They never get too old for any type of discipline. If you are having trouble at 7 and 11 you better get a handle on them now before they get older.

do what my mom does, take away stuff that we want(like tv,radio,computer) it works

We have a two year old daughter who is the best thing that has happened to our life. But she is a two year old. We are still trying to get the best method that works for her, but this is where we are now and it is working well:

We try to get her to do something else. Ask her stop what she is doing and point her to something better.

Ask her to help me with something. This one works great! If she won't get changed for bed I will ask her to help Daddy get her changed for bed. She loves to help with anything.

Using a stern voice. When my wife fails to get something across and calls me to come and talk to our daughter she knows that I mean business. There needs to be a difference between your tones of voice. Not yelling, but the tone of your voice.

Holding her. If she is not listening then I will hold her till she gives me her attention. Then try steps 1 thru 3.

Time outs. This works very well and she is good at them. She stands in the corner for a period of time, depending on what she has done. We are lucky in that she won't get out of the corner till we tell her she can.

Spanking. Last resort. Only done once so far, and she hasn't repeated that mistake again.

One thing that I always try to keep in mind when I am disciplining my daughter is that I never do it in the heat of anger. If she has done something to make me angery, she ends up in the corner or sitting on a chair till I gather my thoughts and emotions. My wife and I are different in this. My wife tends to yell where it is rare that I will ever raise my voice. Yelling needs to be used only at the most crutial times when your child is in danger and you need to get their attetion. Yelling outside of that is usually counter productive and also it shows that they can push your buttons. Never discipline out of anger. If you are all red in the face, you take a time out before you deal with them. Discipline out of love not our of anger.

So far my daughter has progressed well. She knows when she is doing something wrong, she knows why she is getting disciplined (usually) and she almost always says sorry afterwards without being asked.

I hope that as she grows that talking with her will be all that is needed. She really is a well behaved kid and I hope she continues that way.

Oh that's easy. I simply stand on my tiptoes, look up into the face of my 6'3" 300lb 20-year-old son and say, "I can still beat you, child."

. . . . . at which point he usually picks me up and laughs hysterically.

LOL

Oh that's easy. I simply stand on my tiptoes, look up into the face of my 6'3" 300lb 20-year-old son and say, "I can still beat you, child."

. . . . . at which point he usually picks me up and laughs hysterically.

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<dies laughing>

I'm still wiping tears lol.