Christian loneliness

PurpleThistles · Oct 9, 2020

Hi all,

I’ve been a Christian for about two years now, I still feel ‘new’ as such because only in the past couple of months have I realised I was calling myself a Christian, but not putting in much effort into getting to know Jesus, reading the Word and so forth.

I have grown in faith since I began purposely filling my day with Jesus and making progress in reading the Bible. However as my faith has grown, so has my loneliness. I am the only christian in my family. The church in my little village is very small and sadly marked for closure. I have no Christian friends.

As I make new discoveries with scripture and new questions come along, I really miss not having anyone to share with, to grow in faith with. I listen to Christian podcasts and sometimes become envious when they talk about their Christian community, friends and family. Not in a malicious way, I’m so pleased others do have this, I just feel sad that I don’t.

We will have new neighbours moving in very soon, a rare event in this sleepy little village and I have been praying and praying that they may be Christians.

I have not long applied for an access course in Christian Theology but again because of where I live, it has to be distance learning.

Has anyone been in this position? What changed if anything? What can I do?

thecolorsblend · Oct 9, 2020

Pavel Mosko · Oct 9, 2020

thecolorsblend said:
Full disclosure: I'm intensely introverted.

lol well that is almost me. I don't need people, just a few good friends, but not having any contact etc. from being far away from home during the major holidays seems a bit lonely and that was me for a number of years.

I got a few good peeps where I live now.

PurpleThistles said:
What can I do?

Well you could try the Christian End of Meetups. It helps to live near a major city.

But here is a demo of the place I use to live as far as Christian groups of the area
https://www.meetup.com/topics/christiansocial/us/nc/kannapolis/

There are some other areas of meetups that might be little better. Their more Bible study groups for instance and other kinds of Christian groups.

bèlla · Oct 9, 2020

I was in a similar position when I returned to God. My closest friendships were detrimental to my spiritual welfare. They were engaged in behaviors that would compromise my deliverance or cause vexations. I had to relinquish them. For a long time I had few to converse with outside of the Lord and family members. I'm not an introvert. I used the time for fellowship, prayer and service. In short, I took my mind off my circumstances and ministered to others while waiting.

I suggest a tiered approach. You've found CF and there are similar groups for Christians and Christian wives on Facebook. You can search by location too. And there's heaps of online bible studies you could join. Precept is a popular one. I was part of an in-person group in the past. Incourage is another. Proverbs 31 is well-known too.

Look for Christian groups related to hobbies and interests. Interaction will help with the loneliness and open up doors for greater connections. Entrepreneurship was a blessing in disguise. It provided me with numerous opportunities for sharing and meeting interesting people.

Give your concerns to the Lord and ask Him to provide you with godly companions. I wrote a prayer and prayed it for one year. I sought divine connections in every area of life. I realized a couple of months ago He delivered them all. I'd forgotten I prayed.

Yours in His Service,

~Bella

Danigt22 · Oct 9, 2020

Before coming to our Lord Jesus Christ, I was a womanizer. My only friends were women I used, they came and go. I knew my heart was in the wrong place, things in this earth werent enough and I felt bad for my lifestyle of degeneracy. I even dated men. I always knew deep down the bible was telling me the truth. I escaped that reality within my heart.
Reading the book of Isaiah was the book that finally opened my eyes, the word of truth grew on me until I couldnt resist it and I accept it as it was. I accepted our lord Jesus as my savior. At that time, I finally met a girl that I loved. I tried to preach her the truth that I just find within myself but I couldnt. She died last year in an accident. Since then, I dont really know how to make knew friends. Im sorry If I dont have any advice to give, but atleast I want you to know you are not alone. And many other brethren are walking a similar path.

Tolworth John · Oct 10, 2020

PurpleThistles said:
Hi all,

I’ve been a Christian for about two years now, I still feel ‘new’ as such because only in the past couple of months have I realised I was calling myself a Christian, but not putting in much effort into getting to know Jesus, reading the Word and so forth.

I have grown in faith since I began purposely filling my day with Jesus and making progress in reading the Bible. However as my faith has grown, so has my loneliness. I am the only christian in my family. The church in my little village is very small and sadly marked for closure. I have no Christian friends.

As I make new discoveries with scripture and new questions come along, I really miss not having anyone to share with, to grow in faith with. I listen to Christian podcasts and sometimes become envious when they talk about their Christian community, friends and family. Not in a malicious way, I’m so pleased others do have this, I just feel sad that I don’t.

We will have new neighbours moving in very soon, a rare event in this sleepy little village and I have been praying and praying that they may be Christians.

I have not long applied for an access course in Christian Theology but again because of where I live, it has to be distance learning.

Has anyone been in this position? What changed if anything? What can I do?

Are there no Christians in your village or in any of the neighbouring villages?
What of the nearest church?
Check out christianityexplored for churches in your area that are or have been running this course.
In contacting these churches you may find there are neighbours who travel to that church.

Sometimes one has to make the best of what there is, if your nearest church is just a social club, be the enthusiastic ' born again ' Christian and put some life into that club.

Often there is a large church in a town that is looking for opportunities to evangelize an area, contact that church and find out.

longwait · Oct 10, 2020

PurpleThistles said:
Hi all,

I’ve been a Christian for about two years now, I still feel ‘new’ as such because only in the past couple of months have I realised I was calling myself a Christian, but not putting in much effort into getting to know Jesus, reading the Word and so forth.

I have grown in faith since I began purposely filling my day with Jesus and making progress in reading the Bible. However as my faith has grown, so has my loneliness. I am the only christian in my family. The church in my little village is very small and sadly marked for closure. I have no Christian friends.

As I make new discoveries with scripture and new questions come along, I really miss not having anyone to share with, to grow in faith with. I listen to Christian podcasts and sometimes become envious when they talk about their Christian community, friends and family. Not in a malicious way, I’m so pleased others do have this, I just feel sad that I don’t.

We will have new neighbours moving in very soon, a rare event in this sleepy little village and I have been praying and praying that they may be Christians.

I have not long applied for an access course in Christian Theology but again because of where I live, it has to be distance learning.

Has anyone been in this position? What changed if anything? What can I do?

Yes, true christians are a lonely lot. I feel lonely even in my own family.

RebeccaSunshine · Oct 11, 2020

Our new neighbors are Christian and they are really nice.

1watchman · Oct 15, 2020

Yes, we can feel lonely when there are no Christians around for fellowship. Make the Lord Jesus your best Friend, and be walking and talking with Him daily for peace and blessings. He will likely also bring you Godly friends.

believeme · Oct 16, 2020

Even though I am living in city I know that you mean! Corona makes it more difficult...
2 years isn't that long so I hope it is ok to call you a new Christian...Because I think this situation is a good "exercise" for new Christians like me to come closer to god. Take your time to read the bibel und feel God through prayers. And tell god about your wish to meet other Christians. Facebook, meetup should help! I am sure people will come in your life when it is time. Until then you have us

So do not hesitate to contact me if you want to talk

Unqualified · Dec 7, 2020

You won’t be lonely everyday and you can be active at home learning to be a good wife and mom. No harm in learning. You can read and dream and pray and you will be filled. It will pass when you get older and can go to college or a job in London! Learn conversation, not to worry and to love the Lord. Please don’t seek a young man= the wrong road possibly. God loves you be joyful and young and carefree!

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