Sister thinks she’s lesbian

All you should do is love your sister. I am appalled at the low number of posts that included that advice. Love your sister as you always have. The fate of her soul is not up to you. Leave that to her and God. He will decide her fate. You are only asked to love.

Love speaks truth, love confronts, love edifies, love teaches, love exhorts. Love is not just sitting back and thinking "I love this person" silently within yourself. Yes, there are times for these various actions and approaches, but "love" is not inaction.

The OP is interesting because it doesn't contain any very strong evidence that the sister considers herself lesbian. Rather, the evidence seems to be that she accepts homosexual relationships as positive and is interested in them. It's quite possible, and maybe even common, for non-gay people to be like that. Not all authors of stories about gays are themselves gay (just as not all authors of murder mysteries are murderers or detectives).

SeekingGloryOnThisJourney said:

Over the last year or two I have been watching my sister fall into the lie of homosexuality.
It started with an comic featuring two males in the dating life.
i wasn’t too concerned about it. But then...she told a friend she had a “crush” on a girl, because she simply found her pretty. (I know who this crush was, she is very pretty.)
The friend told me, and I was surprised. I didn’t tell my sister because she doesn’t know I know.
Then she started watching shows with strong LGBT+ motives. Even cartoons such as the rebooted She-Ra and The Owl House. Keep in mind she’s quite old for that.
Then she started writing weird stories about lgbt characters.
Before all this she didn’t support it.
I don’t know what to do. What can I do? She’s her in person and she doesn’t know I know all this.
Advice?

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The only answer I can give you is probably a really big "duh" answer. But, it's the only answer I can give. She needs Jesus. Only Jesus can help her with her sins and especially sins like this.

I also struggle with sins similar to this. No not homosexuality, I always knew from a very young age that I was completely 100% heterosexual but another sexual sin. I struggled with it for a REALLY long time.

I don't really want to share this particular struggle for the entire world to see because I probably will never be brave enough to openly share it in public due to the severity of it but if you're interested in the things I had to go through and what it is you can PM me and I think I can share it privately with someone in a PM.

But anyway, after Jesus found me most of my problems went away and slowly year after year that passes God begins to heal me more and more. I still have the same attractions as I had before but, they're not as strong or bad as they used to be. I'm able to control myself now and I'm able to control my urges.

If your sister would just find Jesus, her "want" for women would probably never go away. But, she would be able to control her emotions and her sexuality and either live Celibate or find a God given husband. All you can do to give her Jesus though is pray for her. Pray for her and don't stop, and get all of CF to pray for her too. That's all I can say, I'm sorry it wasn't very much help. I just wanted you to know that your sister isn't the only human with sinful sexual desires. We are born that way and we cannot control them (Born into that sin. Not necessarily born gay Or born whatever).

Isilwen said:

I wish I had some advice for you, but I do not. My fourteen-year-old daughter who doesn't live with me let me know this past year that she is gay.

So all I am doing is loving her for who she is and not coming down on her. To me, doing so will bot have good consequences. It is also her choice to be gay if she chooses. I am all about her making her own choices, even if they aren't what I would choose for her or myself. She is also 1200 miles away and I have no real say. I learned that from her older siblings.

So, i have no advice to share, beyond pray.

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Homosexuality is not a choice.

Danigt22 said:

I used to be bisexual before coming to the lord. It mostly comes in what I value, I used to put selfpleasure above morality and purity. I abandoned what was right, and gave my back to God. You need to persuade her into giving the lord a chance, without her accepting the lord Jesus Christ she will never change her mind.

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One's sexuality cannot change. You were always bisexual and will continue to be. You just chose to unhealthily repress your sexuality.

Celticroots said:

Homosexuality is not a choice.

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It is still her choice, that is what I meant. I am not going to force her one way or the other.

Make more sense?

I always like to think of the inverse question. What is it my sister could say to make me give up my heterosexual proclivities?

Could be a tough sell.

Does this website support the statement that homosexuality is not a choice?

NerdGirl123 said:

Does this website support the statement that homosexuality is not a choice?

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I believe the rule is we're not supposed to promote homosexuality.

If it is a choice or not is beside the point that distracts from the issue at hand. One isn’t born Christian, they choose to be one, yet they are still entitled to basic rights and fair treatment. If she’s gay by choice or birth or gay-curious or gay-accepting doesn’t matter because it doesn’t dictate how she should be treated.

Celticroots said:

One's sexuality cannot change. You were always bisexual and will continue to be. You just chose to unhealthily repress your sexuality.

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There goes the libleft thinking for me. I used to be inappropriate content addict, im not longer one. My lack of control doesnt define who I am. And neither you do.

Hello @SeekingGloryOnThisJourney

I would like to make my contribution by telling my own experience.

Quick note on my background:
I had a very strong Christian upbringing
I never went to an all-girls school
I went to church every Wednesday & Sunday
No, I wasn’t sheltered/overprotected

From my pre-teen years, I had started to develop unhealthy attractions for girls, which continued into my adolescent years. The 3 counts of encounters I had where with women from Uni who had been bold enough to approach me.

Until my final year in Uni, when my relationship with God became important, I NEVER gave my sexuality a second thought. At this time, I had now acknowledged to myself that on all levels, bisexuality was wrong. I started to become more aware.

This consciousness was made possible by the deliberate effort of a friend to re-introduce me to God: and this had nothing to do with my “secret“ lifestyle. This time, I felt my whole being receptive towards this new change. Surprising (or maybe not), because being an ardent church-goer should have some day done the magic- maybe.

The lessons from my experience are;
• It took a personal encounter for an impact to be made. **Reach out to your sister, or perhaps, you could have someone else do it, if it is uncomfortable
• My sudden acceptance of the wrongness of my sexuality was weird. It was a miracle. Felt like Apostle Paul’s story. **You could also just keep praying that your sister encounters God.

ANerd said:

Hello @SeekingGloryOnThisJourney

I would like to make my contribution by telling my own experience.

Quick note on my background:
I had a very strong Christian upbringing
I never went to an all-girls school
I went to church every Wednesday & Sunday
No, I wasn’t sheltered/overprotected

From my pre-teen years, I had started to develop unhealthy attractions for girls, which continued into my adolescent years. The 3 counts of encounters I had where with women from Uni who had been bold enough to approach me.

Until my final year in Uni, when my relationship with God became important, I NEVER gave my sexuality a second thought. At this time, I had now acknowledged to myself that on all levels, bisexuality was wrong. I started to become more aware.

This consciousness was made possible by the deliberate effort of a friend to re-introduce me to God: and this had nothing to do with my “secret“ lifestyle. This time, I felt my whole being receptive towards this new change. Surprising (or maybe not), because being an ardent church-goer should have some day done the magic- maybe.

The lessons from my experience are;
• It took a personal encounter for an impact to be made. **Reach out to your sister, or perhaps, you could have someone else do it, if it is uncomfortable
• My sudden acceptance of the wrongness of my sexuality was weird. It was a miracle. Felt like Apostle Paul’s story. **You could also just keep praying that your sister encounters God.

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This is a really powerful testimony!

ANerd said:

Hello @SeekingGloryOnThisJourney

I would like to make my contribution by telling my own experience.

Quick note on my background:
I had a very strong Christian upbringing
I never went to an all-girls school
I went to church every Wednesday & Sunday
No, I wasn’t sheltered/overprotected

From my pre-teen years, I had started to develop unhealthy attractions for girls, which continued into my adolescent years. The 3 counts of encounters I had where with women from Uni who had been bold enough to approach me.

Until my final year in Uni, when my relationship with God became important, I NEVER gave my sexuality a second thought. At this time, I had now acknowledged to myself that on all levels, bisexuality was wrong. I started to become more aware.

This consciousness was made possible by the deliberate effort of a friend to re-introduce me to God: and this had nothing to do with my “secret“ lifestyle. This time, I felt my whole being receptive towards this new change. Surprising (or maybe not), because being an ardent church-goer should have some day done the magic- maybe.

The lessons from my experience are;
• It took a personal encounter for an impact to be made. **Reach out to your sister, or perhaps, you could have someone else do it, if it is uncomfortable
• My sudden acceptance of the wrongness of my sexuality was weird. It was a miracle. Felt like Apostle Paul’s story. **You could also just keep praying that your sister encounters God.

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you do realize that hormonal changes as you go through puberty can make you do that. Even in the 70s they would tell undecided people not to decide they were homosexual or heterosexual until they were at least 25. This is why I advise undecided people to read SCIENTIFIC literature on human sexuality.

Brightmoon said:

you do realize that hormonal changes as you go through puberty can make you do that. Even in the 70s they would tell undecided people not to decide they were homosexual or heterosexual until they were at least 25. This is why I advise undecided people to read SCIENTIFIC literature on human sexuality.

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I hear you on that, @Brightmoon - the effects of puberty on hormones, which I only partially agree with.
It however, does NOT eliminate the christian’s way of life on sexuality. “Science” can’t be the justification for every of our canal indulgences.
Re-scoping this to my own experience, I would tell you for a fact that it was not a reaction to puberty.

NerdGirl123 said:

This is a really powerful testimony!

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Thank you, @NerdGirl123