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I need some advice.
I have this friend and she is making a project. She's making it about religion and someone struggling with feeling judged by it. She had bad experience with religion growing up with people who were very harsh and she felt judged by being different than others and her sexuality.
Everytime i am im listening to a podcast or watching YouTube or anything else and a person says a joking comment or blasphemy about God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. I always stop watching that person forever. Because I feel like would be committing the sin myself by still watching that person. Today i was working in class and i heard her talking with someone else and i didn't hear any part of the sentence, but i heard her saying something about the Holy Spirit. I wasnt sure what she was saying but they were talking in a joking tone so I'm 99% sure she made some sort of joke.
Im not sure if she has commited the unforgivable sin, i feel like she wasnt trying to be malicious and that she didnt realize that joking about that was really bad, worse than making a joke about God or Jesus. I think, but i dont know for sure.
I dont feel like i should stop being friend with her because i feel like it's not up to me to decide what she did was unforgivable and if i was her i wouldnt want my christian friend to cut me off, i would want them to stick around and pray for me. But i dont know if God wants me to keep doing that or of my flesh just wants to stay friends with her because i care about her alot and i dont want to lose her. I wouldn't even know how to stop being friends with her because we are in the same class and see eachother everyday.
I am just scared that ill be committing the unforgivable sin if i stay friends with her, i think that because it would be like supporting what they did.
I really dont know if this is my OCD/ anxiety fear speaking. So please tell me if my fear is reasonable or not.
I dont know what to do
 

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hey, as you said yourself you don´t want to lose her so just tell her that you don´t like it if she makes jokes about religion. Because how would she avoid those topics if she doesn´t know you are uncomfortable with it.
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I need some advice.
I have this friend and she is making a project. She's making it about religion and someone struggling with feeling judged by it. She had bad experience with religion growing up with people who were very harsh and she felt judged by being different than others and her sexuality.
Everytime i am im listening to a podcast or watching YouTube or anything else and a person says a joking comment or blasphemy about God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. I always stop watching that person forever. Because I feel like would be committing the sin myself by still watching that person. Today i was working in class and i heard her talking with someone else and i didn't hear any part of the sentence, but i heard her saying something about the Holy Spirit. I wasnt sure what she was saying but they were talking in a joking tone so I'm 99% sure she made some sort of joke.
Im not sure if she has commited the unforgivable sin, i feel like she wasnt trying to be malicious and that she didnt realize that joking about that was really bad, worse than making a joke about God or Jesus. I think, but i dont know for sure.
I dont feel like i should stop being friend with her because i feel like it's not up to me to decide what she did was unforgivable and if i was her i wouldnt want my christian friend to cut me off, i would want them to stick around and pray for me. But i dont know if God wants me to keep doing that or of my flesh just wants to stay friends with her because i care about her alot and i dont want to lose her. I wouldn't even know how to stop being friends with her because we are in the same class and see eachother everyday.
I am just scared that ill be committing the unforgivable sin if i stay friends with her, i think that because it would be like supporting what they did.
I really dont know if this is my OCD/ anxiety fear speaking. So please tell me if my fear is reasonable or not.
I dont know what to do
You won't be committing the unforgivable sin. Let's get that out of the way. Your motives are fine and your honesty commendable. I suggest that you commit this issue to God, "casting all your care on Him, because He cares for you." Also, ask God to terminate the friendship if He knows that it is not doing you any good. It's amazing how God can change things if you ask Him. Some people who were a problem in my area moved to a different city, for example. You need to see your friend as God sees them. Your friend is someone that Jesus died to save. Who knows, you may be used to lead her to Jesus.
 
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I need some advice.
I have this friend and she is making a project. She's making it about religion and someone struggling with feeling judged by it. She had bad experience with religion growing up with people who were very harsh and she felt judged by being different than others and her sexuality.
Everytime i am im listening to a podcast or watching YouTube or anything else and a person says a joking comment or blasphemy about God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. I always stop watching that person forever. Because I feel like would be committing the sin myself by still watching that person. Today i was working in class and i heard her talking with someone else and i didn't hear any part of the sentence, but i heard her saying something about the Holy Spirit. I wasnt sure what she was saying but they were talking in a joking tone so I'm 99% sure she made some sort of joke.
Im not sure if she has commited the unforgivable sin, i feel like she wasnt trying to be malicious and that she didnt realize that joking about that was really bad, worse than making a joke about God or Jesus. I think, but i dont know for sure.
I dont feel like i should stop being friend with her because i feel like it's not up to me to decide what she did was unforgivable and if i was her i wouldnt want my christian friend to cut me off, i would want them to stick around and pray for me. But i dont know if God wants me to keep doing that or of my flesh just wants to stay friends with her because i care about her alot and i dont want to lose her. I wouldn't even know how to stop being friends with her because we are in the same class and see eachother everyday.
I am just scared that ill be committing the unforgivable sin if i stay friends with her, i think that because it would be like supporting what they did.
I really dont know if this is my OCD/ anxiety fear speaking. So please tell me if my fear is reasonable or not.
I dont know what to do

We are call not to be part of this world. It will be better for you, to have a safe distance with your friend. Over time things can get heated, and you will continue to struggle with anxiety and ocd when she is around. Avoid people who hate God, and put self pleasure above good and healthy moral values.
Blasphemy of the holy ghost is when you attribute it with it with Baal, knowing full well it is Gods work.
 
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Im not sure if she has commited the unforgivable sin, i feel like she wasnt trying to be malicious and that she didnt realize that joking about that was really bad, worse than making a joke about God or Jesus. I think, but i dont know for sure.

From what I can tell the only unforgiveable sin is being unreprentant, or self righteous like some of the Pharisees who were spiritually blind etc. to believe that Jesus was an agent of Satan.

I dont know what to do

I don't think there is any simple cut and dried solution.

1) In general, I think you should keep relationships with unbelievers for many reasons. You may be the only Christian person in her life to witness to her etc.


2) But you cannot let people drag you down. You have to look after your own well being as well. Friends can be a bad influence, especially with people who are vulnerable. And of course, some people are stubborn and unrepentant, and their are many bible passages that speak about "casting pearls to swine", engaging with a argumentive person is like "grabbing a mad dog by the ears", "dusting the dust off your feet" etc.


Anyway only you know where your at, as far as your emotional state and what you can handle at any one time. And that can vary day by day. Somedays maybe it is better to not engage with your friend, while others when you feel better and have more time, might be OK etc.
 
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I think you my be going a little overboard by not listening to or shunning those who are basically non Christian, however I do get it.
It can very upsetting to hear bad things about Christian beliefs. And as far as those on pod cast, maybe, maybe not a bad idea to shut them out, all depending on if they are doing you some good or not

You may want to try being a bit passive, but at the same time, by your silence, expressions, or what not, let them know in no uncertain terms, that you do not like what they are doing. If it gets bad, walk away, of it gets real bad, then stay away.

That way it may leave the door open for opportunity for you to talk to them and someting good may come of it.
 
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You won't be committing the unforgivable sin. Let's get that out of the way. Your motives are fine and your honesty commendable. I suggest that you commit this issue to God, "casting all your care on Him, because He cares for you." Also, ask God to terminate the friendship if He knows that it is not doing you any good. It's amazing how God can change things if you ask Him. Some people who were a problem in my area moved to a different city, for example. You need to see your friend as God sees them. Your friend is someone that Jesus died to save. Who knows, you may be used to lead her to Jesus.
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You won't be committing the unforgivable sin. Let's get that out of the way. Your motives are fine and your honesty commendable. I suggest that you commit this issue to God, "casting all your care on Him, because He cares for you." Also, ask God to terminate the friendship if He knows that it is not doing you any good. It's amazing how God can change things if you ask Him. Some people who were a problem in my area moved to a different city, for example. You need to see your friend as God sees them. Your friend is someone that Jesus died to save. Who knows, you may be used to lead her to Jesus.

thank you for your reply, your words help me a lot.

I realize that there is no scripture that says you commit the unforgiveable sin if you stay friends with someone who said something like that but I can't get rid of that thought in the back of my head telling me I will commit it if I don’t cut her off. And I am upset that I do not know when its OCD talking or if God is trying to get me to know something. Because I don’t know if that worrying feeling is the same feeling I get when I feel like I didn’t do a compulsion or routine right or felt like I touched something that was dirty, or if its actually God convicting me. I keep being scared that if I ignore that feeling that it might be over for me if I ignore the wrong thing and that I’m beyond forgiveness. I have no idea how to deal with that, I keep thinking “what if”. Like I know its probably my OCD talking but I don’t want to risk it.

I ask God to let me know what to do but I’m scared that he is already letting me know and that I’m ignoring it. I hate living like this, all I do is feel paranoid and worried, I wish I was more in tune with what God wanted of me.
 
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I think you my be going a little overboard by not listening to or shunning those who are basically non Christian, however I do get it.
It can very upsetting to hear bad things about Christian beliefs. And as far as those on pod cast, maybe, maybe not a bad idea to shut them out, all depending on if they are doing you some good or not

You may want to try being a bit passive, but at the same time, by your silence, expressions, or what not, let them know in no uncertain terms, that you do not like what they are doing. If it gets bad, walk away, of it gets real bad, then stay away.

That way it may leave the door open for opportunity for you to talk to them and someting good may come of it.

It’s not even as much the fact that they are unbelievers that bother me, that doesn’t matter to me at all, everyone used to be a unbeliever at some point. I agree with people who say we shouldn’t exclude ourselves because how can Christians cast light in the world and how can God work through us if we are not everywhere. If anything it was a Christian friend that helped me a lot because he was so open with me and showed me kindness and Gods love when I was a unbeliever

Its also pretty hard for me to find Christian friends because here in the Netherlands most people aren’t Christian, especially my age, I’ve only met like 2-3 Christian people my age.

My problem is that I have this fear that I am committing a unforgivable sin if I hear people say a blasphemous things and don’t completely cut them out.

Which was difficult, I’ve cut out some things in my life, like music, podcast, movies etc, any media that was quite important to me because of a thing they said or did.

But I don’t know what to do now it’s a friend who probably said a blasphemous thing, I know there isn’t scripture saying you’ll commit the unforgivable sin if you stay friends with someone who said something like my friend did but I still feel fear and worry. I don’t know if God in convicting me or of my OCD is talking. I never do, but im scared of writing it off as just my OCD fear just in case it isn’t.
It feels like its similar to staying friends with someone who has said really terrible things about someone in your life who you care for. would that not be betraying that person you care for?

I always think "what if", what if this worrying feeling I have is my final warning
 
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My problem is that I have this fear that I am committing a unforgivable sin if I hear people say a blasphemous things and don’t completely cut them out

Nowhere in the bible does it claim that will happen, but again, ido understand it's hard to listen too and if it got bad enough, as I also mentioned, i might stay away too.


But I don’t know what to do now it’s a friend who probably said a blasphemous thing,

You said "probably" so at the very least, I would wait till you are certian.
 
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am just scared that ill be committing the unforgivable sin if i stay friends with her, i think that because it would be like supporting what they did.
I really dont know if this is my OCD/ anxiety fear speaking. So please tell me if my fear is reasonable or not.
I dont know what to do

May I ask what you hope to do for a living, and where you will live?

In most jobs one works with non Christians who swear, curse and blaspheme. One can ask them to stop, but it is so ingrained that they struggle to do so and often rather than make the effort to, do the opposite.

Unless you are never going out, never interacting with people you are going to hear unpleasant words.

Over time many people learn to moderate there language around you.
Untill then keep a short account with God and pray for opportunities to talk about Jesus to them.
 
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I need some advice.
I have this friend and she is making a project. She's making it about religion and someone struggling with feeling judged by it. She had bad experience with religion growing up with people who were very harsh and she felt judged by being different than others and her sexuality.
Everytime i am im listening to a podcast or watching YouTube or anything else and a person says a joking comment or blasphemy about God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. I always stop watching that person forever. Because I feel like would be committing the sin myself by still watching that person. Today i was working in class and i heard her talking with someone else and i didn't hear any part of the sentence, but i heard her saying something about the Holy Spirit. I wasnt sure what she was saying but they were talking in a joking tone so I'm 99% sure she made some sort of joke.
Im not sure if she has commited the unforgivable sin, i feel like she wasnt trying to be malicious and that she didnt realize that joking about that was really bad, worse than making a joke about God or Jesus. I think, but i dont know for sure.
I dont feel like i should stop being friend with her because i feel like it's not up to me to decide what she did was unforgivable and if i was her i wouldnt want my christian friend to cut me off, i would want them to stick around and pray for me. But i dont know if God wants me to keep doing that or of my flesh just wants to stay friends with her because i care about her alot and i dont want to lose her. I wouldn't even know how to stop being friends with her because we are in the same class and see eachother everyday.
I am just scared that ill be committing the unforgivable sin if i stay friends with her, i think that because it would be like supporting what they did.
I really dont know if this is my OCD/ anxiety fear speaking. So please tell me if my fear is reasonable or not.
I dont know what to do
As a fellow OCD sufferer, I think I can pick out some of the obsessive thinking in this. First of all, the sin of blasphemy cannot simply "rub off" on you. That sounds very similar to contamination fears that many of us with OCD have. Secondly, the worry and rumination are red flags of OCD. It sounds like you're already using your common sense in this situation, but your OCD is getting in the way. So, the real question is....how can you work to treat this obsession as OCD? ;)

it sounds like you are using your common sense
 
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