Sister thinks she’s lesbian

coffee4u said:

Is your sister a Christian? Has she given her life to Christ?

There are two paths we can take, that of self-gratification of what feels good to us at the moment or the path of God which in this case is purity and morality. We make choices every day and yes there is always a choice. When people say they have no choice what they really mean is they have no self-control but instead take the path of what they want.
She is choosing to watch LGBT motives, choosing to write weird stories, choosing each of these things. She herself needs to want to live her life for Jesus, no one can force her, this is her free will. The best you can do is pray for her and if she is a Christian try and show her that Gods way is purity because the person sexual immorality hurts is the person committing the sin.

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I totally agree with you its lack of self control.

SeekingGloryOnThisJourney said:

Over the last year or two I have been watching my sister fall into the lie of homosexuality.
It started with an comic featuring two males in the dating life.
i wasn’t too concerned about it. But then...she told a friend she had a “crush” on a girl, because she simply found her pretty. (I know who this crush was, she is very pretty.)
The friend told me, and I was surprised. I didn’t tell my sister because she doesn’t know I know.
Then she started watching shows with strong LGBT+ motives. Even cartoons such as the rebooted She-Ra and The Owl House. Keep in mind she’s quite old for that.
Then she started writing weird stories about lgbt characters.
Before all this she didn’t support it.
I don’t know what to do. What can I do? She’s her in person and she doesn’t know I know all this.
Advice?

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. I’m going to suggest that you read up on human sexuality from a real science perspective. If she’s really gay you’re not going to be able to change her as that happens during fetal development. Unless she confides in you I wouldn’t bring it up.

my late father had a very limited misogynistic idea of what women were like and would continually accuse me of being a lesbian because I
1 wore jeans all the time ( they were in style) 2 had a best friend
3 liked being physically active (I liked to dance and dancers get muscles)
I was a sensitive teen and he upset me considerably simply because I wasn’t gay and he imposed restrictions on me that affected me socially and emotionally . I had some sympathy for gay people because what my father did was extremely emotionally abusive and I know that they go through similar and sometimes even worse experiences. Being attacked over your sexuality is no joke especially while going through puberty . Leave your sister alone . Pray for her privately if you want to. If she is gay then I hope you’ll just accept her the way she is

SeekingGloryOnThisJourney said:

Over the last year or two I have been watching my sister fall into the lie of homosexuality.
It started with an comic featuring two males in the dating life.
i wasn’t too concerned about it. But then...she told a friend she had a “crush” on a girl, because she simply found her pretty. (I know who this crush was, she is very pretty.)
The friend told me, and I was surprised. I didn’t tell my sister because she doesn’t know I know.
Then she started watching shows with strong LGBT+ motives. Even cartoons such as the rebooted She-Ra and The Owl House. Keep in mind she’s quite old for that.
Then she started writing weird stories about lgbt characters.
Before all this she didn’t support it.
I don’t know what to do. What can I do? She’s her in person and she doesn’t know I know all this.
Advice?

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what can you do ? Pray on her behalf ! The Lord’s ear is open to the cry of the righteous.
Seek the Lord’s mercy over your life before you start praying and pouring your heart to the Lord about your sister.

Pray this :
Lord Jesus Christ,
I pray on behalf of my sister,....
The blood of the lamb of God redeem her from wickedness and set her completely free in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen

Pray again and again when you are grieving over her behavior and mindset, or whenever you are concerned because you love your sister. Believe that you receive what you pray. Don’t worry when you pray because you have lifted your burdens to the Lord. Trust the Lord that He bears this burden with you. Remember that you are not alone; Remember that the Lord will give this grace of repentance to your sister.

Another thing, you can do for your sister; fast on her behalf ! Why ? It is written in Isaiah 58:6 ; the fasting that is according to the Lord, can loose bonds of wickedness.

while you fast you can pray, too. Tell the Lord your concerns about your sister to be set free from this bonds of wickedness of homosexuality.

Just continue to trust in the power of the Lord’s love will be free your sister from the snares of the wicked.

I would suggest that you earnestly pray for her and yourself asking God to also bring real Born Again Christians across her path. Be her sister. Spend real time with her but be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to wrath. If and when she feels safe with you, she will talk with you about what she's dealing with. Hopefully when this happens you will have fortified and steadied yourself in prayer, ready to respond to her with God's truth, wisdom, and compassion always leaving the door open for when she wants to share again.

Whatever you do, don't erase her humanity by politicizing her and throwing Scriptures at her. I don't know your situation but you may be the only real representative of Christ that she has. God loves her and He knows how to reach her. You can love her without compromising your faith. A conversation doesn't have to turn into a wrestling match, debate, or sermon. Be available but be wise as a serpent and harmless as a dove....

ovis90 said:

It sound good that you love and accept her, but Gods word is saying that this people will not go to Heaven doesn't that worry you? As much God is loving, but he has rules which shouldn't be broken.

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She is not a Christian. None of my children are that are 1200 miles away. Their mom isn't either. I want a Christian when in was with their mom, not were we married. She didn't want to be married, but out relationship lasted ten years.

I cannot make her choices for her, nor will I force her info a choice. That only breeds resentment, especially from a fourteen year old. I have much experience in regards to that from two of her older siblings who I tried to parent from 1200 miles away. One didn't speak to me for baby year and a half. The other I still have issues with to this day. One is 21 and the other going on 20.

I cannot work about whether they go to Heaven. It is their choice to accept Jesus, and they know my thoughts on this subject already. I also as I said believe in choices. People get to make their own choices in life. I am not here to force them into the choice I would want them to make. That includes my own children.

It is my job to continue to love my children, even if I don't agree with their choices.

God can set her free from same sex attraction. He did me.

SeekingGloryOnThisJourney said:

Nope. Ironically, I was.
But she never knew.

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Perhaps you don't know the things that have happened to her too. Many times an LGBT identity stems from a feeling of being misplaced or alienated and this is why people who have been abused can end up there. The LGBT community is very good at embracing differences and people feel less misplaced and more like they fit in. This forms a strong bond and creates a confirmation bias where they always knew something was wrong and now they found the place where they feel accepted.... so... they must to LGBT. The LGBT community have very dominate LGBT identities so much so that if you take that part away they don't know who they are. Showing people a way out involves letting them feel accepted and forming bonds and identities outside of this community and that your greater than the sum of an LGBT vacuum. But it's a complex process that doesn't happen overnight.

SeekingGloryOnThisJourney said:

Over the last year or two I have been watching my sister fall into the lie of homosexuality.
It started with an comic featuring two males in the dating life.
i wasn’t too concerned about it. But then...she told a friend she had a “crush” on a girl, because she simply found her pretty. (I know who this crush was, she is very pretty.)
The friend told me, and I was surprised. I didn’t tell my sister because she doesn’t know I know.
Then she started watching shows with strong LGBT+ motives. Even cartoons such as the rebooted She-Ra and The Owl House. Keep in mind she’s quite old for that.
Then she started writing weird stories about lgbt characters.
Before all this she didn’t support it.
I don’t know what to do. What can I do? She’s her in person and she doesn’t know I know all this.
Advice?

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All you can do is share the gospel with your sister. If she comes to true faith in Jesus Christ she will be compelled to confront the homosexual sin that may be in her life. Otherwise you cannot control your sister's sin. You can control your response to it and you can control the access she has to your children.

SeekingGloryOnThisJourney said:

Over the last year or two I have been watching my sister fall into the lie of homosexuality.
It started with an comic featuring two males in the dating life.
i wasn’t too concerned about it. But then...she told a friend she had a “crush” on a girl, because she simply found her pretty. (I know who this crush was, she is very pretty.)
The friend told me, and I was surprised. I didn’t tell my sister because she doesn’t know I know.
Then she started watching shows with strong LGBT+ motives. Even cartoons such as the rebooted She-Ra and The Owl House. Keep in mind she’s quite old for that.
Then she started writing weird stories about lgbt characters.
Before all this she didn’t support it.
I don’t know what to do. What can I do? She’s her in person and she doesn’t know I know all this.
Advice?

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What can you do?

Have you tried loving her and treating her as you always have because she is fundamentally the same person she always has been and the only thing that has changed is how you perceive her (which is entirely out of her control and therefore not something she should answer for)?

ovis90 said:

It sound good that you love and accept her, but Gods word is saying that this people will not go to Heaven doesn't that worry you? As much God is loving, but he has rules which shouldn't be broken.

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If might be helpful to share where in the word it states what you say it states.....If you can.

SeekingGloryOnThisJourney said:

Over the last year or two I have been watching my sister fall into the lie of homosexuality.
It started with an comic featuring two males in the dating life.
i wasn’t too concerned about it. But then...she told a friend she had a “crush” on a girl, because she simply found her pretty. (I know who this crush was, she is very pretty.)
The friend told me, and I was surprised. I didn’t tell my sister because she doesn’t know I know.
Then she started watching shows with strong LGBT+ motives. Even cartoons such as the rebooted She-Ra and The Owl House. Keep in mind she’s quite old for that.
Then she started writing weird stories about lgbt characters.
Before all this she didn’t support it.
I don’t know what to do. What can I do? She’s her in person and she doesn’t know I know all this.
Advice?

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Paul preached against homosexuality in Romans 1:26-27 reaffirming Old Testament commandments against homosexuality. Merely telling a person God is against homosexuality might help.

Homosexuality is rejected by a majority of Americans. According to statistics, LGBT youth are more likely to commit suicide.

Celibacy is acceptable. Jesus, John the Baptist and Paul were celibate. Marriage is acceptable, while adultery and fornication are not acceptable. Most of the Apostles were married - 1 Corinthians 9:5.

SeekingGloryOnThisJourney said:

Over the last year or two I have been watching my sister fall into the lie of homosexuality.
It started with an comic featuring two males in the dating life.
i wasn’t too concerned about it. But then...she told a friend she had a “crush” on a girl, because she simply found her pretty. (I know who this crush was, she is very pretty.)
The friend told me, and I was surprised. I didn’t tell my sister because she doesn’t know I know.
Then she started watching shows with strong LGBT+ motives. Even cartoons such as the rebooted She-Ra and The Owl House. Keep in mind she’s quite old for that.
Then she started writing weird stories about lgbt characters.
Before all this she didn’t support it.
I don’t know what to do. What can I do? She’s her in person and she doesn’t know I know all this.
Advice?

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This sounds like your journey of discovering who your sister is. You would need to be inside her mind to know what she has discovered about herself. The overwhelming majority of the world models and rewards Hetrosexualality.

What are the odds you can to more than 95% of the population has not already done? But you can certainly continue to model your view of ideal relationships as you choose.

OP, I still haven't heard you say how old your sister is. In my experience it makes a difference. Someone saying she might be a lesbian at 8 is different than saying it at 13 is different than saying it at 33. Teenagers, for example, often think of such things either for a variety of reason such as trying to figure out who they are, trying on certain things to figure out what fits and what doesn't, trying to shock authority figures - often parents - around them, trying to find or fit into a peer group, or sometimes because that's what they are, etc. As we know, strong dismissive responses to adolescents are likely to be counterproductive and can result in more of the behavior one might like to extinguish. Is your sister an adult, a teenager, or a child?

SeekingGloryOnThisJourney said:

Over the last year or two I have been watching my sister fall into the lie of homosexuality.
It started with an comic featuring two males in the dating life.
i wasn’t too concerned about it. But then...she told a friend she had a “crush” on a girl, because she simply found her pretty. (I know who this crush was, she is very pretty.)
The friend told me, and I was surprised. I didn’t tell my sister because she doesn’t know I know.
Then she started watching shows with strong LGBT+ motives. Even cartoons such as the rebooted She-Ra and The Owl House. Keep in mind she’s quite old for that.
Then she started writing weird stories about lgbt characters.
Before all this she didn’t support it.
I don’t know what to do. What can I do? She’s her in person and she doesn’t know I know all this.
Advice?

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1. Pray for her. Pray, pray, pray. God can do far more in your sister's mind and heart than any person could.
2. Talk to her if you feel so led. Be gentle and respectful, and allow her to speak freely about her feelings. You cannot force her mind to change, but hopefully she would at least be open to hearing your point of view and thoughts as well.
3. Be there for her, and remain a solid, loving, truthful, godly presence in her life. She'll need that more than ever, to counter all the ungodly influences that are apparently coming into her life right now.

There are an awful lot of lost young adults right now in our society. Hollywood, TV, and the media are incredibly toxic, and it's not wise to give anyone - even ourselves as adults - too much open access to what's currently out there as "entertainment". Most of it is not innocent or wholesome anymore. And what goes in, must come out. The more the LGBT propaganda floods a mind, the more it's going to influence the thoughts and feelings that are produced by that mind. Young people who aren't sure of who they are are easily swayed by these influences, and there's a LOT of pressure right now on kids to accept and embrace the LGBT+ world, and start questioning everything about themselves.

SeekingGloryOnThisJourney said:

Nope. Ironically, I was.
But she never knew.

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Is it at all possible then, that she was, too, and YOU never knew about it?

SeekingGloryOnThisJourney said:

She’s told her friend that she “thinks she’s a lesbian”. (Which was quite a while ago- and she’s only listened/watched more and more LGBT content since then.)

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I had a friend who loudly and proudly "came out" as a lesbian in her 30's. But now she's in her 40's and happily married to a man. I've had other friends who went through similar "phases". I think it's a sad product of our current culture that is in an all-out war against straight people, traditional gender roles, and the nuclear family. There's a constant invitation - even a pressure - for everyone to question who they are and what they are.

SeekingGloryOnThisJourney said:

Thank you. I don’t think she’s thought this before, when we were kids she had many crushes on many different boys.
I’ll definitely be keeping an eye on her.

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I think it's really sweet, how much you care for your sister. I wish I had a sister who cared for me in that way

RaymondG said:

If might be helpful to share where in the word it states what you say it states.....If you can.

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1 Corinthians 6:9-11 Don’t you realize that those who do wrong will not inherit the Kingdom of God? Don’t fool yourselves. Those who indulge in sexual sin, or who worship idols, or commit adultery, or are male prostitutes, or practice homosexuality, or are thieves, or greedy people, or drunkards, or are abusive, or cheat people—none of these will inherit the Kingdom of God. Some of you were once like that. But you were cleansed; you were made holy; you were made right with God by calling on the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.

NerdGirl123 said:

1 Corinthians 6:9-11 Don’t you realize that those who do wrong will not inherit the Kingdom of God? Don’t fool yourselves. Those who indulge in sexual sin, or who worship idols, or commit adultery, or are male prostitutes, or practice homosexuality, or are thieves, or greedy people, or drunkards, or are abusive, or cheat people—none of these will inherit the Kingdom of God. Some of you were once like that. But you were cleansed; you were made holy; you were made right with God by calling on the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.

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Interesting. Which translation is this?

RaymondG said:

Interesting. Which translation is this?

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AMP, CSB, CEB, CJB, CEV, DLNT, ERV, EHV, ESV, EXB, GW, GNT, HCSB, ICB, ISV, JUB, LEB, TLB, MEV, NOG, NASB, NET, NIV, NKJV, NLV, NLT, NTE, OJB, TPT, RGT, RSVCE, TLV, WEB. All of these translations specifically reference homosexuality. Most others translate it as "effeminate" or "sodomites" or "men who sexually sin with men". The meaning is clear. The verse I posted was from the NLT translation.