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MehGuy said:

In some ways I did not either until I was older. Yet I knew when I was young that women were treated like children into adult hood and men had to take on a more parental role. I didn't really have much of a concept of biology and especially evolution back then.

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I don't think I noticed the same. But I've observed my response to certain male stimuli which makes me feel girlish and child-like. I don't get that from every one. But in certain connections it's evident.

We never confronted them either, but as a man in a mostly female household the differences about how I was treated compared to my sisters were hard not to notice and think about.

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I used to steal away with my dad and grandfather. I loved tools and putting things together and painting. What we call DIY today. The women didn't know what I was doing. They assumed I was spending time with them. But I wanted to work! I do the same things today.

Yeah sometimes I wish I took the time to learn an instrument. An electric guitar would have been nice. Never too late I guess.

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I tried different things! Flute, piano, clarinet, alto clarinet (swapped for clarinet), and instruments we made in school. I never played the recorder. I played around with the violin when my daughter took lessons. I christened it the screech box when she resumed it in high school! I'm going to return to the piano. I may pick up the harp. But the violin is appealing too.

I doubt your reading skills are rusty, especially with the amount of books you consume. Lol.

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Heck no, I read fast. But I was speaking of music. I don't read notes frequently enough to stay on top of it.

Something that just takes practice. A lot of art is just knowing how to structure things. The average person is more capable than they imagine.

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I'll learn in school. The programs I'm attending will teach us. I've refined my eye over the years. I know the look, shape and aesthetic that appeals to me. I use it here to some degree. But that isn't commercial.

I like symmetry in facial features and the female form. An exaggerated waist is good. Do the same with the hips? Nah. You look like you're spilling out your clothes. I prefer an hourglass. The rectangle is next.

That's something I might need to work on. I do take more of the philosophy that looking and acting stupid is part of the learning experience. I want to take chances, even if I end up making a fool of myself.

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It wasn't a question of looking stupid. There are topics I've never delved into. A former acquaintance enjoyed reading clinical journals on psychosexuality. That wasn't my shtick. But I perused them to get a sense of his perspective.

MehGuy said:

I have no one to blame but myself. Although I feel like I kinda messed up with the anatomy thing.. still it's so hard following what he's trying to say. So I deserve some slack.. lol.

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You were very patient and understanding. I would have bailed long ago.

LaBèlla said:

I don't think I noticed the same. But I've observed my response to certain male stimuli which makes me feel girlish and child-like. I don't get that from every one. But in certain connections it's evident.

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Did you grow up with mostly women?

I used to steal away with my dad and grandfather. I loved tools and putting things together and painting. What we call DIY today. The women didn't know what I was doing. They assumed I was spending time with them. But I wanted to work! I do the same things today.

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That's cool. I do not really remember my sisters being into such things. My youngest played basketball for a year. I do remember disappointing my father by not being into sports. The idea of sports never really clicked with me.

I tried different things! Flute, piano, clarinet, alto clarinet (swapped for clarinet), and instruments we made in school. I never played the recorder. I played around with the violin when my daughter took lessons. I christened it the screech box when she resumed it in high school! I'm going to return to the piano. I may pick up the harp. But the violin is appealing too.

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That's cool. My family had a piano for a time. I remember playing those cheap recorders we got from school, I was always terrible with them. Wind instruments are probably not my thing.. I cannot even whistle.. lol.

Heck no, I read fast. But I was speaking of music. I don't read notes frequently enough to stay on top of it.

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Oh. I cannot read them at all. Lol. Although a lot of musicians who are famous cannot either they just play.

I'll learn in school. The programs I'm attending will teach us. I've refined my eye over the years. I know the look, shape and aesthetic that appeals to me. I use it here to some degree. But that isn't commercial.

I like symmetry in facial features and the female form. An exaggerated waist is good. Do the same with the hips? Nah. You look like you're spilling out your clothes. I prefer an hourglass. The rectangle is next.

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Yeah I'm fascinated with shapes and the female and male form too.

It wasn't a question of looking stupid. There are topics I've never delved into. A former acquaintance enjoyed reading clinical journals on psychosexuality. That wasn't my shtick. But I perused them to get a sense of his perspective.

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Ah, I've been into that for a while. At this point though, not so much. I just thought a hands on approach would yield more out there ideas. I used to be against learning from others and reading books but discovering things just by talking with others. It does have it's limitations though.

MehGuy said:

Did you grow up with mostly women?

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There are more women but it felt balanced for some reason. The men knew themselves and were confident.

That's cool. I do not really remember my sisters being into such things. My youngest played basketball for a year. I do remember disappointing my father by not being into sports. The idea of sports never really clicked with me.

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Seeing men work with their hands mesmerized me. Especially when they were building or creating something. I’m the quintessential girl who gets stars in her eyes and coos. I had such positive examples of masculinity that I’m easily smitten.

That's cool. My family had a piano for a time. I remember playing those cheap recorders we got from school, I was always terrible with them. Wind instruments are probably not my thing.. I cannot even whistle.. lol.

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I wasn’t allowed to whistle or jump in puddles but I liked both! They had good intentions. *lol My parents emphasized excellence over tradition. I wasn’t told to marry and have a family and stay at home.

Oh. I cannot read them at all. Lol. Although a lot of musicians who are famous cannot either they just play.

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I read faster when I sing. I like being played to. Especially guitar or bass. I may swoon a time or ten.

Yeah I'm fascinated with shapes and the female and male form too.

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What do you like?

I was born in an age of creative giants in the modern era in various mediums. People you’ll never see again. I have a deep respect for greatness.

LaBèlla said:

I used to play with them too. It was fascinating to hear myself on replay. You don't realize how you sound. People are always surprised when they hear my voice. I don't know what they expect. Maybe a Midwestern accent?

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Mine will definitely sound odd, given that this was before my voice had broken. Accent wise, the London tones will be harsh at this time as were still in that hovel of a flat in London.

Since heading down to the coast, my accent has gradually softened over the years - except for when I'm tired and I slip straight back into Danny Dyer mode.

Cockney means that I can't be bothered to sound posh today.

@MehGuy *dragging you back to a safe space...laughing hard r/t.

LaBèlla said:

@MehGuy *dragging you back to a safe space...laughing hard r/t.

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Those things used to scare me as a child. What kinda safe space is this? Lol.

MehGuy said:

Those things used to scare me as a child. What kinda safe space is this? Lol.

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I could summon the alternative. *lol

LaBèlla said:

There are more women but it felt balanced for some reason. The men knew themselves and were confident.

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The only male role model I had was my father. Even most of my extended family were women too.

Seeing men work with their hands mesmerized me. Especially when they were building or creating something. I’m the quintessential girl who gets stars in her eyes and coos. I had such positive examples of masculinity that I’m easily smitten.

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Yeah I've heard women like that. Cannot say a woman working with her hands has the same effect on me, lol. Maybe if she's fixing a truck or something.. lol. Glad you had positive examples of masculinity.

I wasn’t allowed to whistle or jump in puddles but I liked both! They had good intentions. *lol My parents emphasized excellence over tradition. I wasn’t told to marry and have a family and stay at home.

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Wow, that sounds strict. My child hood was half spent messing around in dirt, lol.

I read faster when I sing. I like being played to. Especially guitar or bass. I may swoon a time or ten.

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That's interesting. How hard is it to learn to read music?

What do you like?

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Well roundish looks better on women, with angular sharp points looking better on men.

I was born in an age of creative giants in the modern era in various mediums. People you’ll never see again. I have a deep respect for greatness.

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I had some of that too. Sadly music stopped evolving around 1995. Films not much later. The only real progression I saw was in video games and that largely only has to do with increased technology.

LaBèlla said:

I could summon the alternative. *lol

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What Big Bird? That horrendous freak of nature? Lol.

ReesePiece23 said:

Mine will definitely sound odd, given that this was before my voice had broken. Accent wise, the London tones will be harsh at this time as were still in that hovel of a flat in London.

Since heading down to the coast, my accent has gradually softened over the years - except for when I'm tired and I slip straight back into Danny Dyer mode.

Cockney means that I can't be bothered to sound posh today.

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You’ve got to do it! I’d love to hear you. I’ll do it too.

MehGuy said:

What Big Bird? That horrendous freak of nature? Lol.

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No.. someone here instead. Since you don’t want to hangout with me.

LaBèlla said:

No.. someone here instead. Since you don’t want to hangout with me.

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Oh lol. I'd like to hang out with you, just get rid of those elephant things first, lol.

MehGuy said:

Oh lol. I'd like to hang out with you, just get rid of those elephant things first, lol.

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I love Snuffy! You’re getting B & E instead. Stop hating on my self-expression!

LaBèlla said:

I love Snuffy! You’re getting B & E instead. Stop hating on my self-expression!

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Snuffy? Something that ugly doesn't deserve a name.

As far as Bert and Ernie, I've heard.. some.. rumors.. about their relationship. > _ >

MehGuy said:

Snuffy? Something that ugly doesn't deserve a name.

As far as Bert and Ernie, I've heard.. some.. rumors.. about their relationship. > _ >

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He was beautiful. What’s wrong with you!

They’re based on The Odd Couple. Felix (Bert) and Oscar (Ernie).

@MehGuy No recording for you! *tosses tomatoes

LaBèlla said:

He was beautiful. What’s wrong with you!

They’re based on The Odd Couple. Felix (Bert) and Oscar (Ernie).

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I don't know what "The Odd Couple" is. Lol.

LaBèlla said:

@MehGuy No recording for you! *tosses tomatoes

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Aww. You can cover some Depeche Mode songs.

MehGuy said:

I don't know what "The Odd Couple" is. Lol.

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Popular sitcom in the seventies.

Aww. You can cover some Depeche Mode songs.

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*sniffles

LaBèlla said:

Popular sitcom in the seventies.

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Were.. they.. uh.. bented?

*sniffles

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It'd go great with your new thread, lol.