Would you recommend using a dating site?

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Yes, my own character with its ways can be the dictator of who I am capable of connecting with.

The common thread in my connections is giving, helpfulness, and support. We don't place demands on one another. We aren't entitled or overbearing. There are no takers in the bunch. We don't expect appeasement or validation. We're mutually invested in betterment.

I think I have seen how a person can become a serial divorcer > using the same methods, not getting real character correction, therefore getting the same result, over and over . . . while blaming someone else and maybe blaming mistakes in judgement, but never making sure with God.

There are some who can't handle the truth in love unless it mirrors the story they've told themselves. They won't accept personal responsibility for bad choices or behavior. It's always the other person's fault. There's a trail of failed connections and deep hurts which attest to the problem. They surround themselves with supporters who validate the lie and the descent is swift.

I know someone like this. You can't address it without accusations, a meltdown, and victimhood. Its like watching a movie on repeat. You know how it ends. You're the bad guy if your words don't mirror the ones they hear from others. They never get the results they're looking for. It evades them every time.

Dictating what interests someone has to have is not submitting to what our Father desires > love does not have us marrying someone so we can use a person for what we want and what we even can dictate. We can claim we don't want to have a dictator over us; but this can be so we are the dictator . . . right?

I like to share where I am with God and where He's leading me early in my engagements. I disclose my calling in small bits. Listening intently to their response and body language. I'm sifting to discover if their answers align with His will or would send me in the wrong direction. Over time I discern their motives and what they're really after. No one tells you their agenda upfront. You have to sniff it out. Not every one is working with God. Many want to occupy His place.

But here is what can happen > you can use the Net or a church or prayer or a pick-up bar while you are about yourself, and get connected with someone else who is about himself or herself. And then both of you can be shocked at how you managed to marry such a foolish person.

I like to know how people react when I say no or don't give them their way. I like to see their response when our opinions differ. I like to know how they handle disappointment and setbacks. I like to know how they handle their anger. Do they walk it off or erupt? Because that's a window into their character. That's the person I'm living with. I have to experience the imperfect part of him to make a wise decision. I can't base my opinion on the pleasant parts alone. I need to see all of him.

But if you gave your word to Jesus . . . keep your word; now you are in a perfect situation to discover how to love another impossible person. It is possible with God.

I look at the bones. Who he is beneath the layers and keep it in the forefront of my thoughts. So the imperfections won't create mountains out of molehills. Seeing the bigger picture is a must. As is choosing your battles.

Or . . . you can share and pray with mature couples and widows and widowers who have lived for Christ and learned how to submit to God and obey how He has us loving. And feed on their example, and grow in Jesus, then discover who He has you connected with. And then help one another to keep discovering how to love, and this in order to feed how God has you loving any and all people, not just certain favorites you want to use for what you want!!

I shared some insight about my singleness the other day with the Gentleman. He knows my calling. I explained that "I am not above the whole. I'm an integral part of the structure. I must understand the role and its limitations. Deference is its banner." I acknowledged the qualities I valued and ended with these words, "to consider someone outside those parameters is unthinkable. I don't have the liberty of appeasing my heart at the expense of the mission. It must yield in subjection to the aim without complaint."

If the attributes I'm looking for point to Him (and what He desires of me) I won't go astray. I'm referencing weaknesses and areas where gifting and talent are absent. My companion's contribution makes us stronger. I want to provide the same for him to aid him in accomplishing his purpose.

I want a service-driven union. The God-centered mission is the heart of the bond. Because flesh gets tired. It will have you packing your bags. But my commitment to God is larger. That's where surrender dwells.

Marriage, then, in Jesus, is a research laboratory where we can make breakthrough discoveries in how to love another person in a close relationship. And then we can use this for relating with all our other Jesus family people, while offering this to even enemies, in case God has them join us.

He's had me reconcile connections I never wanted to rekindle. Or be the olive branch to restore communication and begin the healing process. Or serve someone who has wronged me irreparably. There are moments when I asked, "why me?" But over time I discovered their actions had no power over me. My heart is free. There's no bitterness lurking beneath the surface. I can pray for them without a problem. Satan doesn't get a foothold in me because of unforgiveness or a wrong I'm carrying that I need to release.

My personal understanding, now, is prayer needs to include actively seeking God for real correction so we can have real connection with Him and others who are for real in Jesus. And pray to make sure with God about how we see each other person. And make sure with God about who we belong with, for marriage and other sharing.

He's demonstrated the difference between things He authors and those I've undertaken on my own. I'm very reluctant about building a bond with anyone He didn't send my way. When He puts it together there's a mutuality and restfulness in the spirit that's hard to ignore. We serve one another genuinely without complaint.

Fleshly bonds vex my spirit. It strains against the pressure and demands. I feel a heaviness that causes repelling and expulsion. Its oppressive and draining. I'm not at peace until its gone. Then calm returns.

Oh, and by the way > first get into trusting God, like this, and I would not even start to consider a person unless I deeply trust the person. I am now rather flabbergasted at how people marry people they don't even trust. And in their relating there are issues people have even with ones they think are their soulmates; yet, they don't trust the person to talk about an intimate concern.

Trust takes time to build and many don't want to wait. Or they believe they trust the person and throw up a wall when problems arise or they're hurt. Letting the person in when they've let you down is trust in action.

~Bella
 
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There are some who can't handle the truth in love unless it mirrors the story they've told themselves. They won't accept personal responsibility for bad choices or behavior. It's always the other person's fault.
There can be accountability chameleons!!

They can say it was their fault, but it is a trick to excuse themselves to get out of a marriage, for one example >

It was my fault; I should have prayed first; I married too soon. And now I am the only one being honest, so I am excused to get out.

But I would now say . . . any of us can be "I" the impossible.

But we can help such a person, by prayer and good example and not going along with being fooled.
 
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I'm sifting to discover if their answers align with His will or would send me in the wrong direction. Over time I discern their motives and what they're really after.
Yes, we can listen to what people say they want, and do not then try to change them. But share what can help them.

Because if we try to negotiate with someone who wants to use us, there are people who can negotiate and tidily cover up things as we show we are on to such things.

And, though, going only by what people say can be judging by appearance . . . when we need to be able to make sure with God.

But I do understand that God can include listening, in the process. But while we might listen to someone's claims, be "swift to hear" God (in James 1:19-20)

And what seems good, to me, is to see if someone is ministering for me to get real correction so I am more with God and loving the way Jesus wants. See if the person can effect me with God's own love so I am more like Jesus, not merely getting isolated with some one person and what that one wants, and/or hoping to get what I want.

Also . . . I would say . . . if I am evaluating someone or if someone is trying to get something going with me, it seems good to stay with a group of Christian people who are growing and helping me.

And do not let someone get me isolated with that person.

If the person really appreciates how I am Christian, the person will likely be very appreciative of discovering the ones who have been so good for me.

But, even then, there are ones who can be chameleons who fit in with groups and seem so great. So . . . it is good to be able to submit to God and make sure with Him, including simply doing what He has us do, because what He guides us to do will fit with all He knows about each person.

But I can get the "you don't trust me" threat. Well, if you consider me to be legitimate, welcome me to trust how God personally guides me, while you do the loving God has you doing. I might be loving others as myself, by supporting you to be good for people I don't reach.

Actually, I do this with my lady friend. I have found out how kind and good and caring she is with people; so now more than ever I do not try to take up her time; but I pray about if and when we share . . . when I offer for her to decide together with me, hopefully, and not merely that I control this >

"submitting to one another in the fear of God." (Ephesians 5:21)
 
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There can be accountability chameleons!!

They can say it was their fault, but it is a trick to excuse themselves to get out of a marriage, for one example >

It was my fault; I should have prayed first; I married too soon. And now I am the only ones being honest, so I am excused to get out.

Yeah, I've heard that in the past. Due diligence has its purpose but there's always the unexpected. Things you didn't anticipate and weathering them isn't easy.

But I would now say . . . any of us can be "I" the impossible.

Especially spoiled ladies named Bella. :p

But we can help such a person, by prayer and good example and not going along with being fooled.

I shared this technique with a friend recently.

One of my suggestions was a simply hourly affirmation she'd say aloud. I love my husband. That was the first phase. The second was my husband loves me. The third was I love my husband and he loves me; and we'll get through this.

She balked until I pointed out the transition. From the singular to the pair. Once you begin to see the situation as something you're tackling together you can stop the fingerpointing and blame. You can't work together in opposite corners.

The Holy Spirit gave me something similar years ago for someone who wrong me horribly. I had to pray 1 Corinthians 13 for a specific period. But I had to personalize it. My love for 'the person' is patient and kind, etc. I noticed the problem spots immediately. I'd feel a jerk within. But with constancy it went away until praying those words brought me to tears. Love blossomed from the exercise. I've done it on other occasions. It keeps the heart pliable.

~Bella
 
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I had to pray 1 Corinthians 13 for a specific period. But I had to personalize it. My love for 'the person' is patient and kind, etc. I noticed the problem spots immediately. I'd feel a jerk within. But with constancy it went away until praying those words brought me to tears. Love blossomed from the exercise. I've done it on other occasions. It keeps the heart pliable.
The correction blessing for me has been to wait while God corrects me into His peace, and then see how I am relating with a person who is a problem for me.

Be ready for love.

Be the person's best friend by being an example of how to love.

And trust God to keep me this way, even if the other person is not able to love, and might be nasty and belligerent.

Inside of me, stay with God in His peace.

"And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful." (Colossians 3:15)
 
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Has anyone ever used a dating site?
The site to check into is God's peace >

"And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful." (Colossians 3:15)

God's peace corrects us and tunes us so we are in sharing with God and submissive to God.

And God our Creator makes us creative for how to love any and all people . . . not only a wife. So we need to become loving in God's all-loving love so we can connect with a real lady of Jesus. No location or website or church can make this happen :)

And this peace is God's peace . . . of God who is almighty > so, while we are obeying how God has us praying >

"the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus." (in Philippians 4:6-7)

And this will have you sharing with people you belong with :)

And you will be sharing in the way you need to relate. And this gets us ready so we can love our wives the way God wants . . . in case we ever get married >

"Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them." (Colossians 3:15)

"Do all things without complaining and disputing," (in Philippians 2:13-16)
 
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Because if we try to negotiate with someone who wants to use us, there are people who can negotiate and tidily cover up things as we show we are on to such things.

Gibran mentions the importance of spaces in our togetherness. The pauses allow for moments of reflection and savoring. But when we submerge too swiftly we miss important clues because we haven't had time to ponder before diving in once more.

And what seems good, to me, is to see if someone is ministering for me to get real correction so I am more with God and loving the way Jesus wants. See if the person can effect me with God's own love so I am more like Jesus, not merely getting isolated with some one person and what that one wants, and/or hoping to get what I want.

Yes, I agree. I look for the same. I want to hear his feedback. To be lovingly challenged and encouraged to grow in grace and loveliness. I don't want someone who validates my bad habits. I want us to improve together.

Also . . . I would say . . . if I am evaluating someone or if someone is trying to get something going with me, it seems good to stay with a group of Christian people who are growing and helping me.

My family and friends help a great deal in this area.

Actually, I do this with my lady friend. I have found out how kind and good and caring she is with people; so now more than ever I do not try to take up her time; but I pray about if and when we share . . . when I offer for her to decide together with me, hopefully, and not merely that I control this

It's really important we're using our gifts and talents in service to others. I'm not the lone beneficiary nor is he. I've met people who wanted me all to themselves. Or to put my skills on display for friends. But not outside that context.

The relationship on its own is not enough. I need more. Doing the things God asks of me in conjunction to connecting with a special person is wonderful. But I'm fulfilled by God. I know He wants me to settle. But I couldn't have a companion without the rest. I'd be miserable.

~Bella
 
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Hello Bella,

I know He wants me to settle. But I couldn't have a companion without the rest. I'd be miserable.

I didn't understand that statement (or the first one in particular) - what did you mean by that?
 
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Hello Bella,

I didn't understand that statement (or the first one in particular) - what did you mean by that?

Greetings Olmhinlu,

My apologies if the comment was unclear. :)

The first paragraph of the section is acknowledging the gifts and talents God bestowed aren’t wholly for my companion. That’s one aspect of service. But it isn’t the only task the Lord asks of me.

The portion you quoted is two-fold. I’m not called to singleness. I know it. I’ve been resisting it at times. I accept it nonetheless. But marriage alone is not enough. I know my purpose. It brings me joy. I’m pleasing God through my service. Removing that would cause much pain.

I have no void. I’m not lonely or sad. No ache pierces my heart. I have immense peace and I’m content. He gets all of me right now. Its the sweetest bliss. I don’t long for a man. But I value what it means to serve a worthy one all my days.

~Bella
 
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Greetings Olmhinlu,

My apologies if the comment was unclear. :)

The first paragraph of the section is acknowledging the gifts and talents God bestowed aren’t wholly for my companion. That’s one aspect of service. But it isn’t the only task the Lord asks of me.

The portion you quoted is two-fold. I’m not called to singleness. I know it. I’ve been resisting it at times. I accept it nonetheless. But marriage alone is not enough. I know my purpose. It brings me joy. I’m pleasing God through my service. Removing that would cause much pain.

I have no void. I’m not lonely or sad. No ache pierces my heart. I have immense peace and I’m content. He gets all of me right now. Its the sweetest bliss. I don’t long for a man. But I value what it means to serve a worthy one all my days.

~Bella

I have, in passing, seen you mention your sense of calling a couple of times. It makes me wonder about how that would play out, but that's another discussion. I was just curious about the choice of the word "settle". Did you mean it in the sense of "settling down", or "settling for" something, or something else?
 
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I was raised in an environment where etiquette and elocution were prevalent. If I misspoke they corrected me. I wore hats and gloves on Sunday. I loved being a little lady. It was inevitable I’d feel an affinity with British culture because it mirrored my own.

Stop it LaBella, you're getting me hot under the collar here!. lol ;-)
 
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Greetings Olmhinlu,

My apologies if the comment was unclear. :)

The first paragraph of the section is acknowledging the gifts and talents God bestowed aren’t wholly for my companion. That’s one aspect of service. But it isn’t the only task the Lord asks of me.

The portion you quoted is two-fold. I’m not called to singleness. I know it. I’ve been resisting it at times. I accept it nonetheless. But marriage alone is not enough. I know my purpose. It brings me joy. I’m pleasing God through my service. Removing that would cause much pain.

I have no void. I’m not lonely or sad. No ache pierces my heart. I have immense peace and I’m content. He gets all of me right now. Its the sweetest bliss. I don’t long for a man. But I value what it means to serve a worthy one all my days.

~Bella

I am noticing a HUGE influx of women passed a certain age that don't yearn for men the way men yearn for women. I'm kind of disappointed in that notion. I know a woman like this, she's cool...but she's always having to kind of defend herself against men that are interested in her....when they say, "Nah, you can't say you want to be single FOREVER, right?" "Never say never!"

Of course, she was a divorce' and well, hated the marriage experience...so her rationale is understandable...due to having been burned. But for those who have never been married not to desire marriage...just seems uncharacteristic of a Christian.

Of course, this is coming from men that are interested her...trying to get a date. lol If it's with women, they say the same thing, but without an agenda.

Though it is unusual to find Christians who do not desire a spouse....almost rather uncharacteristic...unless, of course, you're a nun. I think it was God that said "Go forth and multiply!" (paraphrased of course, lol)
 
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I have, in passing, seen you mention your sense of calling a couple of times. It makes me wonder about how that would play out, but that's another discussion. I was just curious about the choice of the word "settle". Did you mean it in the sense of "settling down", or "settling for" something, or something else?

When I returned to faith I had a period of alone time with the Lord. It was necessary for my healing and sloughing away the old. I was already home. He had the span of the day to address much in prayer and study. I didn’t have distractions to contend with. If you spend a few years immersed with God you’ll emerge with a lot of answers. :)

As for my calling, He provided the 10 year blueprint, led me to my mentor, gave me the tools to succeed as an entrepreneur, and the resources I needed in my former career to leave it all behind. I started from scratch.

Yes, I meant settling down. I am conscious of the landmines on the path I’m walking. I don’t want to be anyone’s stumbling block.

~Bella
 
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I am noticing a HUGE influx of women passed a certain age that don't yearn for men the way men yearn for women.

It isn’t an absence of desire. I am referencing the sort that causes pain and discontent. Where you’re miserable because the longing never ceases. It returns when the sun sets. That’s when you feel their absence the most. You look at the empty space beside you and wonder why. I’m not in that place. But I know it.

I'm kind of disappointed in that notion. I know a woman like this, she's cool...but she's always having to kind of defend herself against men that are interested in her.

But you know that isn’t the case where I’m concerned. We haven’t spoken in a bit. So, I’ll bring you up to speed. I have accomplished my mission. My daughter is home for good. She’s pursuing entrepreneurship full-time. Nearly one year ahead of schedule.

We depart next year for a 4 to 5 year stint overseas spanning four countries. Practically speaking, dating in that situation requires two things. Proximity or flexibility. But there’s a caveat. I’m not staying. Who could do it?

Everything isn’t as it appears. Few people have the flexibility or means to travel at will. Relationships require time together. Distance takes a toll after awhile and that’s a long stretch.

As you can see my situation has nothing in common with your example. :)

But for those who have never been married not to desire marriage...just seems uncharacteristic of a Christian.

You aren’t accounting for scarcity nor the possession of qualities valued by others. That changes the landscape.

Most women desire egalitarian relationships. They don’t want headship or the expectation of following his lead and yielding their will to his when required. But that doesn’t bother me. I prefer relationships where service is a mainstay. Which implies:
  • All service must honor God and the dignity of the union.
  • Quid quo pro has no place in service-driven connections.
  • Industry devoid of respect and a pleasing countenance is useless.
I delight in meeting my partner’s needs and providing a welcoming environment that nurtures his spirit and propels him to his proper height.

The Qualities of Exemplary Servants:

Excellence...Industry...Discipline...Humility...Trustworthiness...Respect...Adoration.

This is a snippet from something I’m writing on service-driven relationships. I didn’t glean it from a book or bible study. I’ve lived it.

That is my difference and advantage.

He doesn’t have to twist my arm to secure my allegiance. Or diminish his manliness to compel my respect. Nor worry about power struggles or competition. We’re a team.

Then there’s the practical side. Years of study and training for one aim: giving him the best. Few would undertake the same for one they’d never met. To work intentionally for the promise.

I told you before I’m not the girl next door. :p

~Bella
 
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Maybe you needed a nudge in the right direction. Sometimes the obvious choice is the answer. On other occasions it isn’t. Your spirit knows. Trust it.

Funny you mentioned that. I was mulling over a similar sentiment yesterday. I finally said it aloud. God’s done an amazing work in my connections. The last two years included a lot of pruning. He prepared me for the relationships I’m developing today. In familiar places I was already aware of. But it wasn’t time to move.

God is surely working behind the scene. I really don't think we ever meet anyone by coincidences. I like how David puts it in Psalm 139:16, "You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed."


He’s provided wonderful Christian men and women whose hearts and generosity are second to none. My Christian business network is amazingly supportive. We share our wins and challenges along with strategies to improve our businesses with one another. No one hordes information and we’ve grown a lot because of it.

He knew I craved the company of Christian women who valued their companions, home, and personal development. I wanted the transparency and support I had in a different guise before I returned to Him. It took some time but I got it twice over and then some.

Now I’m surrounded by like-minded people who cheer me on. It isn’t one-sided. We hold each other accountable and celebrate our improvements every week. The atmosphere is positive and we’re prospering a great deal. That’s what I needed.

Glad to hear you have quite a healthy relationship with your church family. It is a blessing for brothers and sisters to dwell in unity. No one is indeed an Island, we all need each other.


Have you considered Toastmasters? The groups are really fun. There’s a lot to do in London and I’m a huge culture buff. I’ll join a ladies group I was involved with in the past. They have lots of events which will be great for networking and meeting people.

No, I haven't. Thanks for the recommendation. I will look more into it later on.

I don’t look for Christians. I enjoying planting seeds of joy and hope in those who don't know the Lord. Or helping them recognize His presence through every day encounters. That fulfills me most. :)

~Bella

I don't look for Christians either but it's always nice to cross path with other Christians in a foreign country especially as we are all family. In a way, I'm reminded of the Pilgrims progress when I cross path with other Christians along this journey home... Cool, do keep up the good work. God bless :)
 
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well ? ?

Of course, I would say . . . we mean a church with people who live God's way.

And if I am not God's way, a real lady of Jesus can see this and not be fooled into marrying me. And my ways can get me connected with someone who is not right for marriage.

Yes, my own character with its ways can be the dictator of who I am capable of connecting with.

A dysfunctional woman can make a project of finding a guy . . . then get married and wonder how he could have such issues. The gentle and humble ones could see through her. Softening your voice and talking Jesus is not the same as becoming gentle and humble and doing what Jesus has us doing with "rest for your souls." (in Matthew 1:28-30)

I think I have seen how a person can become a serial divorcer > using the same methods, not getting real character correction, therefore getting the same result, over and over . . . while blaming someone else and maybe blaming mistakes in judgement, but never making sure with God.

Dictating what interests someone has to have is not submitting to what our Father desires > love does not have us marrying someone so we can use a person for what we want and what we even can dictate. We can claim we don't want to have a dictator over us; but this can be so we are the dictator . . . right?

This does not work - - no matter what our methods are, or how we use praying as a gesture. Our character has more to do with it :)

But here is what can happen > you can use the Net or a church or prayer or a pick-up bar while you are about yourself, and get connected with someone else who is about himself or herself. And then both of you can be shocked at how you managed to marry such a foolish person. But if you gave your word to Jesus . . . keep your word; now you are in a perfect situation to discover how to love another impossible person. It is possible with God.

"Good understanding gains favor,
.But the way of the unfaithful is hard."
. . . . . . . . . . . . (Proverbs 13:15)

Or . . . you can share and pray with mature couples and widows and widowers who have lived for Christ and learned how to submit to God and obey how He has us loving. And feed on their example, and grow in Jesus, then discover who He has you connected with. And then help one another to keep discovering how to love, and this in order to feed how God has you loving any and all people, not just certain favorites you want to use for what you want!!

"if you love those who love you, what reward have you?" (in Matthew 5:46)

Marriage, then, in Jesus, is a research laboratory where we can make breakthrough discoveries in how to love another person in a close relationship. And then we can use this for relating with all our other Jesus family people, while offering this to even enemies, in case God has them join us.

Because God's love in marriage is all-loving love . . . not to fall in, but to grow in :)

Thanks for your message. Very insightful and some really good advice in it all...

Roma Downey once said about marriage that “Things are never perfect in a marriage, there will always be snowstorm or missed plane flight or something else to change your plan or dreams. But that’s when you have a choice. To turn on each other or turn to each other and together ask God for his guidance.”

Also, I always keep in mind that the very essence of the Christian marriage is Christ’s relationship with his bride, the Church. One of my prayer is this: "Lord Jesus Christ, please give me the woman after Your own heart. Give me the spouse that You have chosen for me. And together help us to learn what your word says and to obey it"
 
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Hey @LaBèlla & @LadyOfMystery

I've been especially blessed by you two through our conversation on this thread 4 months ago. I did give online dating a try as suggested. I tried several Christian apps, and after much heartache I was about to give up, then a friend told me about "Christian Connect" so I gave it a try. And almost instantly, I met the girl of my dreams through the app. I thank God for leading the way. By God's we plan to be married in Spring time next year..... So I'm just looking back as I wanted to thank you both and for especially recommending online dating. May God grant you both the desires of your hearts :)
 
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Hey @LaBèlla & @LadyOfMystery

I've been especially blessed by you two through our conversation on this thread 4 months ago. I did give online dating a try as suggested. I tried several Christian apps, and after much heartache I was about to give up, then a friend told me about "Christian Connect" so I gave it a try. And almost instantly, I met the girl of my dreams through the app. I thank God for leading the way. By God's we plan to be married in Spring time next year..... So I just wanted to thank you guys for recommending online dating. May God grant you both the desires of your hearts :)

Willing Heart,

Thank you for the kind words. I haven't seen you around in a bit and I'm glad to hear you're doing well and met someone! You'll have to share the details in the Singles forum. I'm sure the others would love to hear your good news and more about the site.

Good bless and keep you both. :)

Yours in His Service,

~Bella
 
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Hey @LaBèlla & @LadyOfMystery

I've been especially blessed by you two through our conversation on this thread 4 months ago. I did give online dating a try as suggested. I tried several Christian apps, and after much heartache I was about to give up, then a friend told me about "Christian Connect" so I gave it a try. And almost instantly, I met the girl of my dreams through the app. I thank God for leading the way. By God's we plan to be married in Spring time next year..... So I'm just looking back as I wanted to thank you both and for especially recommending online dating. May God grant you both the desires of your hearts :)

That's good news!

Although, I have heard Christian dating sites can be just as bad as regular dating sites. A lot of them are under the same Match.com umbrella. The same cooperate umbrella. IE - Christian Mingle. (They even made a movie about that one, lol)
 
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