Pomegranate Problem/Homeschool Dad

HappyHope · Sep 21, 2020

Question 1:
My neighbor up the street in the fancy house has 4 pomegranate trees that are ripe and falling to the ground. Would it be tacky for me to ask to buy some? I can't find any pomegranates in my local grocery stores this year. My teenage daughter and I love them a lot. But I don't want to embarrassment myself or make my neighbor feel awkward.

Question 2:
I want to get a job so my retiring military hubby can rest and heal from his military career while pursuing his education. He is open to becoming the homeschool parent instead of me. Are we weird to have me work and dad stay home and homeschool? He is open to joining a co-op and even leading a homeschool P.E. class or similar. Thoughts?

**Not as insecure as this post might imply--trying to be social--for me.

tturt · Sep 21, 2020

It would be great for him to be the homeschooling parent and the leader in those other areas. Think male influence is missing in so many children's lives, it would benefit him and them. Then it's a way to grow his relationship with his own in different ways.

Maybe they're not interested or unable to pick up the pomegranates. Could you and your teen offer to pick them up and state how you would enjoy keeping a few.

Darkhorse · Sep 21, 2020

I homeschooled our kids while my wife worked. She made more money than I could have, and I was trained and certified as a teacher. It worked fine. Don't worry about people who don't like it.

bèlla · Sep 21, 2020

HH,

You can purchase fruit online through various vendors. But it's expensive. Their willingness to part with the pomegranates will depend on their consumption and promises to others. You've noted they're unavailable in your area which means replenishment would be costly for your neighbor if required.

As for the second question, it may be helpful to encourage him to forge connections with others like himself. There are homeschooling dads and he may appreciate their company during that season.

Yours in His Service,

~Bella

Albion · Sep 21, 2020

There's no reason to hesitate on the homeschooling matter.

The pomegranates could cause embarrassment for either you or the owner unless the neighbor is a fairly close friend. It's not guaranteed to do so, but it could turn out that way.

On the other hand, if you decide to risk it, the fact that some of the fruit is lying on the ground and a lot of people don't care to eat pomegranates under any circumstances, should help.

ISteveB · Sep 21, 2020

HappyHope said:
Question 1:
My neighbor up the street in the fancy house has 4 pomegranate trees that are ripe and falling to the ground. Would it be tacky for me to ask to buy some? I can't find any pomegranates in my local grocery stores this year. My teenage daughter and I love them a lot. But I don't want to embarrassment myself or make my neighbor feel awkward.

tacky to ask to BUY some?
No..... it'd be tacky to take them off the tree without asking.....
but to buy.....
no.
Ask away!

Question 2:
I want to get a job so my retiring military hubby can rest and heal from his military career while pursuing his education. He is open to becoming the homeschool parent instead of me. Are we weird to have me work and dad stay home and homeschool? He is open to joining a co-op and even leading a homeschool P.E. class or similar. Thoughts?

**Not as insecure as this post might imply--trying to be social--for me.

Are you weird for asking?
I suppose if you really NEED to be weird......
I don't think so. I'm a big believer in the validity, indeed, the importance of questions.....
You might however want to ask him to not be quite so military in his teaching style. Although.... perhaps that's what kids need today.... stricter classrooms....
He does however have to bring out the tickle monster every so often, so as to lighten up the mood....

On that note....
please pass along my gratitude for his service, and fighting for our liberty.
Also, for you being willing to let him fight for the liberty of other peoples entrenched in tyranny.
I.e., thank you for letting him come out to play.....

Monksailor · Sep 21, 2020

If they really cared about the pomegranates they would be monitoring them and either be picking them on the tree as they ripened or asap after they fell and not leaving them out there to rot. And leaving them out there to rot draws all kinds of undesirable creatures such as yellow jackets so they apparently have very little concern for their front yard utilization, including the trees. Are the trees ornamental, a colorful or appealing landscape item? That may be the only reason they have them out there or it may have been a previous owner who planted them and now they are stuck with them. In any situation, yes, I would ask as kindly and respectfully as possible to relieve them of the burden these trees are causing them (the mess and unwanted pests) and offer a fair price for them, a consideration for your labor included.

Retiring, wounded (healing needed) military husband home schooling; I know teachers with a shinny teaching qualification resume who have no business teaching and BA degreed loving, dedicated parents attempting to home school who also have no business trying to teach. Does your hubby have any "issues" locked up in compartments which when triggered could become a problem? Teaching children the three R's, so to speak, is NOT like being their parent. So many parents think it is and end up doing their children and themselves a disservice with home schooling. One MUST dissociate the two positions/roles in order to be able to teach their children appropriately so that they can successfully compete with their peers in the world's job market and be able to function independently w/o enabling from others.

dqhall · Sep 21, 2020

HappyHope said:
Question 1:
My neighbor up the street in the fancy house has 4 pomegranate trees that are ripe and falling to the ground. Would it be tacky for me to ask to buy some? I can't find any pomegranates in my local grocery stores this year. My teenage daughter and I love them a lot. But I don't want to embarrassment myself or make my neighbor feel awkward.

Question 2:
I want to get a job so my retiring military hubby can rest and heal from his military career while pursuing his education. He is open to becoming the homeschool parent instead of me. Are we weird to have me work and dad stay home and homeschool? He is open to joining a co-op and even leading a homeschool P.E. class or similar. Thoughts?

**Not as insecure as this post might imply--trying to be social--for me.

You may check for jobs at Indeed.com. If you want a list of all jobs in your area, type your zip code in the location box, leave the job type text box on the online form blank, start with jobs five miles from your zip code. Click on date to get the most recent job listings.

tturt · Sep 21, 2020

There are many resources on line. Plus some teachers use online sites in the classroom.

mmksparbud · Sep 21, 2020

No harm in asking---all he can say is no, and if he doies---no harm done.

I took care of an elderly couple who had 2 huge avacado trees in his back yard and they were too old to do much about them anymore except pack up a few and send them to family. I cooked with them all the time and even made avacodo bread to try to use them up, but couldn't keep up with them. A man came to the door asking if he could have a few---the old man said no. I felt badly for the man, but they were not mine to give away. All I could say was "Sorry." It was pure selfishness and bigoted. He was hispanic,
the old man said, "if I give him some, he'll bring his whole family next time!" Yes, the man was a little embarrassed, but he wasn't harmed. It could have just as easily gone a different way---and if the old man had not been home, I'd have given him some for the question had not come up until then.

HappyHope · Sep 21, 2020

Monksailor said:
If they really cared about the pomegranates they would be monitoring them and either be picking them on the tree as they ripened or asap after they fell and not leaving them out there to rot. And leaving them out there to rot draws all kinds of undesirable creatures such as yellow jackets so they apparently have very little concern for their front yard utilization, including the trees. Are the trees ornamental, a colorful or appealing landscape item? That may be the only reason they have them out there or it may have been a previous owner who planted them and now they are stuck with them. In any situation, yes, I would ask as kindly and respectfully as possible to relieve them of the burden these trees are causing them (the mess and unwanted pests) and offer a fair price for them, a consideration for your labor included.

Retiring, wounded (healing needed) military husband home schooling; I know teachers with a shinny teaching qualification resume who have no business teaching and BA degreed loving, dedicated parents attempting to home school who also have no business trying to teach. Does your hubby have any "issues" locked up in compartments which when triggered could become a problem? Teaching children the three R's, so to speak, is NOT like being their parent. So many parents think it is and end up doing their children and themselves a disservice with home schooling. One MUST dissociate the two positions/roles in order to be able to teach their children appropriately so that they can successfully compete with their peers in the world's job market and be able to function independently w/o enabling from others.

No, PTSD involved just years of wounds from unhealthy military politics to recover from. And he is great with our kids. They aren’t little anymore so they can both read and write. I think he is more in tune with them now that they are older. I got them when they were littles so I am satisfied. They need their "privacy" now. Stinkers. Good Lord willing I think it could work. :prayer:

HappyHope · Sep 21, 2020

dqhall said:
You may check for jobs at Indeed.com. If you want a list of all jobs in your area, type your zip code in the location box, leave the job type text box on the online form blank, start with jobs five miles from your zip code. Click on date to get the most recent job listings.

Thanks! I'm aiming for a specific job in line with my education. It is a state job people quit a lot but it pays well. I've had 5 interview requests in the last 7 weeks. Just no job yet. I think I'm still being screened. Apparently multiple overseas addresses slow down screenings. Maybe? :sorry:

HappyHope · Sep 21, 2020

tturt said:
There are many resources on line. Plus some teachers use online sites in the classroom.

Thanks we have homeschooled for a long time.

HappyHope · Sep 21, 2020

tturt said:
It would be great for him to be the homeschooling parent and the leader in those other areas. Think male influence is missing in so many children's lives, it would benefit him and them. Then it's a way to grow his relationship with his own in different ways.

Maybe they're not interested or unable to pick up the pomegranates. Could you and your teen offer to pick them up and state how you would enjoy keeping a few.

I thought of that. I didn't want to look desperate though.

bèlla · Sep 21, 2020

Check out The Well-Trained Mind community. They have a wonderful resources for homeschooling for all ages. Including teens.

Yours in His Service,

~Bella

Monksailor · Sep 21, 2020

HappyHope said:
No, PTSD involved just years of wounds from unhealthy military politics to recover from. And he is great with our kids. They aren’t little anymore so they can both read and write. I think he is more in tune with them now that they are older. I got them when they were littles so I am satisfied. They need their "privacy" now. Stinkers. Good Lord willing I think it could work.

Uh, yes, ADOLESCENCE, how wonderful. I was deployed to OIF as our youngest, girl, was entering that phase. Very sad story which I am sure you may be familiar with from sharing with older associate families in the military. The damage she sustained and acted out may never leave her; she is in denial and still holds contempt for me so bad that we are unable to enjoy our 3 granddaughters of hers. I had a superior who also had the same issue w/his 13 yr old daughter going 180 and he went home on emergency leave for several months and had to have her placed in inpatient mental health facility for a month. I was not made aware of the extreme issue going on at home as he was and arrived home to be shocked by who our daughter had become, 180!!! Yes, adolescence it that time they NEED to learn to ascribe toward the mature independence of adulthood; very challenging time of shifting boundaries and "creative" resolutions and compromises; hard on both sides. Love and respect for each other has to be there to make it work out well. If one has hate and contempt for the other which they won't let go.................................................

It sounds like you guys are doing well with yours. Getting through adolescence is a CHALLENGE for all sides of the unavoidable conflict. The love of God in us is the oil that lubes the friction and allows things work out; but that "oil" needs to be in all involved.

Joined2krist · Sep 21, 2020

If those Pomegranates have been there for a while there's a slight chance someone else has asked and was denied

HappyHope · Sep 21, 2020

Joined2krist said:
If those Pomegranates have been there for a while there's a slight chance someone else has asked and was denied

I had not thought of that.

Monksailor · Sep 21, 2020

Or no one wants to create an uneasiness or embarrassment or conflict. Many people do not even know what a Pomegranate looks like of just don't care as one has alluded to here. The taste is VERY strong and bitter, 100% that is, not the watered down and sweetened blends out there. I drink 100% juice of the fruit regularly. Pom Pom or Bolthouse Farms are available at Miejer and one of them at Walmart. It is expensive but it is also VERY healthy to drink. Periodically, if it is around, I mix it half and half with red wine, Red Zin (Preventive magazine's recommendation of all red wines for having the most cholesterol lowering properties.) Both are beneficial for that, not to mention the anti-oxidants and such. It TASTES like medicine with a twang. But once the bitterness is gone there remains a rich and deep flavor. 8 oz of each of the above gives just enough sweetness to erase the bitterness but not ruin it with too much and the depth and width of the red zin compliments and enriches the flavor, for me, anyway. Thinking about it makes me want to run out and get a bottle of wine but red zin is extremely rare and hard to get, so it costs too much for regular consumption, for me. I only get it for medicinal purposes NOT to be sophisticated and discriminating, one who cherishes bragging about how much they had to spend on a bottle of wine.

HappyHope · Sep 21, 2020

Monksailor said:
Or no one wants to create an uneasiness or embarrassment or conflict. Many people do not even know what a Pomegranate looks like of just don't care as one has alluded to here. The taste is VERY strong and bitter, 100% that is, not the watered down and sweetened blends out there. I drink 100% juice of the fruit regularly. Pom Pom or Bolthouse Farms are available at Miejer and one of them at Walmart. It is expensive but it is also VERY healthy to drink. Periodically, if it is around, I mix it half and half with red wine, Red Zin (Preventive magazine's recommendation of all red wines for having the most cholesterol lowering properties.) Both are beneficial for that, not to mention the anti-oxidants and such. It TASTES like medicine with a twang. But once the bitterness is gone there remains a rich and deep flavor. 8 oz of each of the above gives just enough sweetness to erase the bitterness but not ruin it with too much and the depth and width of the red zin compliments and enriches the flavor, for me, anyway. Thinking about it makes me want to run out and get a bottle of wine but red zin is extremely rare and hard to get, so it costs too much for regular consumption, for me. I only get it for medicinal purposes NOT to be sophisticated and discriminating, one who cherishes bragging about how much they had to spend on a bottle of wine.

I did not realize there might be different kinds of pomegranate. My neighbor's all-natural pom trees might not have the kind of pom I enjoyed from Walmart. I do not like 100%pom juices for some reason but the fruit... :cheer:

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