Should I come clean to my husband?

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I’m sorry but this is so unfeasible I do not see how anyone could believe this. This is not something a married woman could just sneak around and do for a myriad of reasons.

I suspect the OP is phishing for material for a salacious story of some sort.
 
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Okay, I'm new here. But this is ridiculous. Was I supposed to check my brain at the door when I signed on? Between this and the person who got shot in the head by a demon, I just don't know.

I thought this was a forum for intelligent exchanges between people of faith. And I see that in many areas it is. But just because one is a Christian doesn't mean that we should allow people to make fools of us.

The premise of this thread is too absurd to comment on plus I think all options have been covered bu other posters so this is a bit off-topic (forgive me mods).

Your assessment of the forum is correct. Some topics can be very interesting, engaging, educational, and even fun. Some threads are literally a joke, and some people are actually "unorthodox" enough to engage in the behavior the OP describes and worse. The moderators are pretty good at spotting trolls so most times, they don't stay around long.

The sections where I spend the most time are "Discussion and Debate" there is both a Christian only and a universal version. The universal has a much larger number of people posting. Then for fellowship and/or learning, I post in the "Christian Congregations" section (for me it's a Catholic group). I don't spend much time elsewhere except the Homepage where the most active topics are posted. You could end up in any section clicling on those topics so be aware of the Christian only places because we are not allowed to post anything contrary to the "CF Statement of Faith"

Welcome to CF, I hope you find a place here to learn, teach, and connect.

Oh, I forgot, the Theology section is great too!
 
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I always dreamed about having kids and being a mother. To me, being a mom seems like a really rewarding thing in life. Some women don't want kids and prefer to focus on their careers instead. But not me.

I've been married for 6 years now, and during this whole time my husband didn't want to have children. He has anxiety and stress problems, and he feels like it isn't the right time to have a family. But I'm in my early 30s, and having kids at my age is difficult. And it gets even more difficult the more I age. By 40 having a child naturally would be nearly impossible.

I became very impatient with my husband. I kept telling him I wanted a family, but he continually said we should wait longer. I was so tired of being put off that I decided to do something that, although it seemed right at first, has been bothering my conscience.

I clandestinely went to a reproductive clinic and told them I wanted to have children via IVF. I selected a sperm donor who is 6'3" and has blonde hair and blue eyes. I went through the treatments without my husband's knowledge or consent, and now I'm several months pregnant with twins.

My husband believes the unborn twin babies are his. Although he didn't really want a family, he seems mildly happy about my pregnancy. I'm definitely excited about becoming a mom, but part of me is worried that, after the kids are born, my husband will eventually find out they're not his babies, since they probably won't look like him. What if he divorces me? The prospect of that happening is frightening.

Part of me wants to keep it a secret. After all, I didn't commit actual adultery on my husband. I've been faithful to him during our entire marriage. If our children don't share his DNA, is there really any harm? Your parents are always the ones who raise you irrespective of genetic lineage. Again, I've been faithful to him during our entire marriage, so did I really do anything wrong? I think not.

Well I'm really torn over what I should do. Should I come clean and tell him that the twins aren't actually his? Or should I let this little white lie be kept a secret for the good of the family and for the good of my marriage?

You have to BOTH want children. You are living a lie, and I wonder if your "maternal instinct" is a sign of some sort of psycho-pathology.
 
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I always dreamed about having kids and being a mother. To me, being a mom seems like a really rewarding thing in life. Some women don't want kids and prefer to focus on their careers instead. But not me.

I've been married for 6 years now, and during this whole time my husband didn't want to have children. He has anxiety and stress problems, and he feels like it isn't the right time to have a family. But I'm in my early 30s, and having kids at my age is difficult. And it gets even more difficult the more I age. By 40 having a child naturally would be nearly impossible.

I became very impatient with my husband. I kept telling him I wanted a family, but he continually said we should wait longer. I was so tired of being put off that I decided to do something that, although it seemed right at first, has been bothering my conscience.

I clandestinely went to a reproductive clinic and told them I wanted to have children via IVF. I selected a sperm donor who is 6'3" and has blonde hair and blue eyes. I went through the treatments without my husband's knowledge or consent, and now I'm several months pregnant with twins.

My husband believes the unborn twin babies are his. Although he didn't really want a family, he seems mildly happy about my pregnancy. I'm definitely excited about becoming a mom, but part of me is worried that, after the kids are born, my husband will eventually find out they're not his babies, since they probably won't look like him. What if he divorces me? The prospect of that happening is frightening.

Part of me wants to keep it a secret. After all, I didn't commit actual adultery on my husband. I've been faithful to him during our entire marriage. If our children don't share his DNA, is there really any harm? Your parents are always the ones who raise you irrespective of genetic lineage. Again, I've been faithful to him during our entire marriage, so did I really do anything wrong? I think not.

Well I'm really torn over what I should do. Should I come clean and tell him that the twins aren't actually his? Or should I let this little white lie be kept a secret for the good of the family and for the good of my marriage?
I think you probably already know that your going to have to tell your husband the truth. It sounds like something very significant is missing in your marriage. I must assume that you both profess Christ. It’s going to be difficult but prayer works. Without faith we cannot please God. I will pray for you.
 
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Okay, I'm new here. But this is ridiculous. Was I supposed to check my brain at the door when I signed on? Between this and the person who got shot in the head by a demon, I just don't know.

I thought this was a forum for intelligent exchanges between people of faith. And I see that in many areas it is. But just because one is a Christian doesn't mean that we should allow people to make fools of us.

You would be surprised how many Christians become very gullible and trolls love to exploit this. Christians are to trusting here, assuming everything is real.
 
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You would be surprised how many Christians become very gullible and trolls love to exploit this. Christians are to trusting here, assuming everything is real.





It is real I tell you!! *Goes to play with pet unicorn.*
 
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