How Do You Deal With Anger?

April_Rose said:

Cause let's just face it anger is a human emotion. Like it or not we all get angry sometimes. Even though it was in a sinless way even Jesus got angry. So what do you do about it? How do you get it under control? After recently getting angry myself (somebody was starting to become really controlling with me) I could really use some advice.

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Psalm 27 said:

Gentle Jesus meek and mild

I’ve been there lol

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Anthony2019 said:

I don't think that hiding or bottling up our anger is helpful to us. It has to be dealt with, otherwise it inevitably leads to other problems. Our friendships, relationships and our health will suffer.
I think the best way for us to deal with angry emotions is to talk about them. We can do this in different ways.
If the situation allows it, then it is good to have a chat with the person that offended us to share how we feel, and to try and be reconciled. But doing this requires a lot of discretion and good judgement.
Sometimes it is good to chat things over with a trusted friend, especially someone who knows us well, is trustworthy, can keep a confidence, and who will be honest with us. It helps us to look at the problem in a broader perspective.
Perhaps one of the best ways of dealing with strong feelings and emotions is to talk to someone who does not know us and who is unaffected by the situation. They are usually excellent listeners. We tend to talk more and are less apprehensive about sharing how we truly feel, since they do not know us well and we don't feel threatened as much by what they might think of us. They are less likely to give us their opinion which may aggravate the problem. These kinds of conversations help us to open up that little more. Talking and sharing our feelings helps release some of those emotions, helps dissipate our anger, making us become more rational in our thinking and judgements. Perhaps this is why counselling helplines are often very successful in helping people in a crisis.

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eleos1954 said:

Proverbs 19:11
Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense.

Proverbs 29:11
A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back.

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Dr. Gluckenstein said:

This is a really good question. I've kind of always had anger issues, I think, growing up in my house (my parents never got along and both had a lot of emotional and personal issues that, most of which, never really got resolved) and dealing with people at school. I was always really sensitive and felt like my voice was never heard or that people would mistake me for someone who was trying to be shady when I was honestly just having an issue, and seeing that personal injustice, and injustice done to other kids and people in the world just made me upset. The treatment got worse as I grew up, with people just using me for the fact that I was the only kid out of all my friends who could drive at 16 and had access to money, because after they got cars and whatnot, I stopped hearing from most of them. Then I entered into a relationship that became severely emotionally abusive and we used to fight constantly and the rage from other life events and workplace mistreatment has sent me into kind of a private rage and I'm trying not to let it consume me, but I can't seem to get it out. I think it might be that I refuse to be happy until the injustice ceases, although I understand it can't happen on this side of Heaven. It just feels so honestly unfair that almost every relationship in my life ends up like this and I have never found people who really care about me, it seems. I think I need to find a way to either escape or put this anger to rest, somehow.

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April_Rose said:

Lol, I thought that you were going to say the mailman.

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April_Rose said:

Lol what is it with dogs and the mailman anyways? Leave the poor man or woman alone what did they ever do to you?

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April_Rose said:

Cause let's just face it anger is a human emotion. Like it or not we all get angry sometimes. Even though it was in a sinless way even Jesus got angry. So what do you do about it? How do you get it under control? After recently getting angry myself (somebody was starting to become really controlling with me) I could really use some advice.

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