How Do You Deal With Anger?

April_Rose said:

The thing is I already know why I'm angry and it's the kind of anger that comes from other people trying to tell me what to do in such a controlling way that it doesn't even seem like just simple advice.

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It sounds maybe like you need to get away from those people or at least set boundaries with them. That can be hard to do and it certainly can cause anger!

April_Rose said:

Just so anybody knows that for the record I repented for thinking thoughts about them that I shouldn't have earlier and losing my temper.

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April_Rose said:

Cause let's just face it anger is a human emotion. Like it or not we all get angry sometimes. Even though it was in a sinless way even Jesus got angry. So what do you do about it? How do you get it under control? After recently getting angry myself (somebody was starting to become really controlling with me) I could really use some advice.

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1. Anger is an emotion and is spontaneous. If it is uncontrollable, check yourself out for pride. It's the root of anger. Deal with the cause, not the symptom
2. You can be angry and yet not sin. Don't go to bed angry. Talk it over with Lord Jesus before you sleep.
3. The fruit of the Spirit includes self control. Walk in the Spirit and anger will not be as much of an issue.

If you have a problem with pride, it's normal and natural - but wrong. Lord Jesus will be your humility if you ask Him. Andrew Murray wrote the book (literally) on humility. It's not what most people think and it is a great blessing.

April_Rose said:

Cause let's just face it anger is a human emotion. Like it or not we all get angry sometimes. Even though it was in a sinless way even Jesus got angry. So what do you do about it? How do you get it under control? After recently getting angry myself (somebody was starting to become really controlling with me) I could really use some advice.

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Make sure your buttons do not work when pressed. If they do, they got you. Anger can cause disease so they get you twice.

xaris said:

As @Gottservant brings out, there is a difference between righteous indignation (which we should all share) and uncontrolled rage (which I referred to early on).
If only more Christians had righteous indignation.

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I’m all for righteous indignation over what passes for it.

RushMAN said:

I don't do good with anger. Truth be told I been angry since march when all the stuff the State governments have been doing. First I got extremely depressed, than angry and I am still there. I use to take kava kava to calm down but got allergic to it. For me te things that help me is playing Super NES on my Raspberry Pi and other games like NES, Playstation, and such.

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Yes, the last 6 months haven't inspired a lot of Trust in the Governments...Oftentimes, what they've been doing doesn't make any sense whatsoever. I'm angry about all of it. They say it's for own good too, the cheek! Anger for the right reasons is OK. I guess you have to be careful how you express it.

April_Rose said:

Cause let's just face it anger is a human emotion. Like it or not we all get angry sometimes. Even though it was in a sinless way even Jesus got angry. So what do you do about it? How do you get it under control? After recently getting angry myself (somebody was starting to become really controlling with me) I could really use some advice.

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Prayer. Asking God to help you.

Psalm 86:15 "But you, O Lord, are a God merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love and faithfulness."

Psalm 37:8 "Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath! Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil."

Proverbs 14:29 : Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly."

Proverbs 15:1 : "A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."

Proverbs 22:24 "Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man."

Ecclesiastes 7:9 "Be not quick in your spirit to become angry, for anger lodges in the heart of fools."

Ecclesiates 10:4 "If the anger of the ruler rises against you, do not leave your place, for calmness will lay great offenses to rest."

Ask and allow the spirit inside of you to receive what God is speaking to us here, by the words of the Elders.

Dear Friend, also talk to someone about it if that will help you too! So you can get it off your chest, remember God is always listening!

I don't think that hiding or bottling up our anger is helpful to us. It has to be dealt with, otherwise it inevitably leads to other problems. Our friendships, relationships and our health will suffer.
I think the best way for us to deal with angry emotions is to talk about them. We can do this in different ways.
If the situation allows it, then it is good to have a chat with the person that offended us to share how we feel, and to try and be reconciled. But doing this requires a lot of discretion and good judgement.
Sometimes it is good to chat things over with a trusted friend, especially someone who knows us well, is trustworthy, can keep a confidence, and who will be honest with us. It helps us to look at the problem in a broader perspective.
Perhaps one of the best ways of dealing with strong feelings and emotions is to talk to someone who does not know us and who is unaffected by the situation. They are usually excellent listeners. We tend to talk more and are less apprehensive about sharing how we truly feel, since they do not know us well and we don't feel threatened as much by what they might think of us. They are less likely to give us their opinion which may aggravate the problem. These kinds of conversations help us to open up that little more. Talking and sharing our feelings helps release some of those emotions, helps dissipate our anger, making us become more rational in our thinking and judgements. Perhaps this is why counselling helplines are often very successful in helping people in a crisis.

Another way of dealing with emotions of anger and sadness is to do something creative. If you are a writer, write. If you are a painter, paint. It's a good and healthy way of expressing our feelings.
My favourite hobby is writing music. When I sit at the piano, I can be there for literally hours and hardly notice the time that has passed. I find it very relaxing. When I finally save and export the work I have done, it makes me feel I have accomplished something.

This is a really good question. I've kind of always had anger issues, I think, growing up in my house (my parents never got along and both had a lot of emotional and personal issues that, most of which, never really got resolved) and dealing with people at school. I was always really sensitive and felt like my voice was never heard or that people would mistake me for someone who was trying to be shady when I was honestly just having an issue, and seeing that personal injustice, and injustice done to other kids and people in the world just made me upset. The treatment got worse as I grew up, with people just using me for the fact that I was the only kid out of all my friends who could drive at 16 and had access to money, because after they got cars and whatnot, I stopped hearing from most of them. Then I entered into a relationship that became severely emotionally abusive and we used to fight constantly and the rage from other life events and workplace mistreatment has sent me into kind of a private rage and I'm trying not to let it consume me, but I can't seem to get it out. I think it might be that I refuse to be happy until the injustice ceases, although I understand it can't happen on this side of Heaven. It just feels so honestly unfair that almost every relationship in my life ends up like this and I have never found people who really care about me, it seems. I think I need to find a way to either escape or put this anger to rest, somehow.

I knit to release anger.

April_Rose said:

Oh you're so evil LOL









I don't think you mean literal disease right? Also the only button that I know I don't have is an off button. (At least when I'm awake lol)

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Health problems with anger
Some of the short and long-term health problems that have been linked to unmanaged anger include: headache digestion problems, such as abdominal pain insomnia increased anxiety depression high blood pressure skin problems, such as eczema heart attack stroke.
https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au...f the short and,as eczema heart attack stroke.

April_Rose said:

Huh??

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Gentle Jesus meek and mild

I’ve been there lol

Psalm 27 said:

Gentle Jesus meek and mild

I’ve been there lol

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He was fulfilling scripture. He does not condone violence.