- Sep 6, 2020
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Sorry for the long post, but I am looking for some guidance.
My husband and I have been married two years now. We got married in college and have gone through a lot during our time together. Just in the past year; I have lost my dad after a long battle with cancer, a close family member of his was diagnosed with cancer just recently, and we are both looking at making career changes in the near future. Suffice to say, a lot has happened in the past year. We have never been one to really argue with each other, but lately it seems like it's all we do. Half the time I don't know what we're fighting about, or it will be about small things. I don't know if we have built up anger at each other that is manifesting in these small fights or what is going on.
We seem to annoy each other so easily now, and I find myself being upset with him frequently. I love my husband, but I've also been upset with him lately because I feel like he's not leading our family or being a godly head of the household. I've struggled with my faith since losing my dad, and I feel like I've gotten no support from him on this issue. We haven't lived in our town long so I have really leaned on him for this kind of support. This has been the biggest thing that has really upset me which I think adds fuel to the fire for the small fights.
I've tried to get him to read marriage books with me but he doesn't. We go to church, but we aren't involved in a good small group of married couples. We thought we had found one, but they recently changed their format so they don't talk about marriage anymore in the group and we meet with the singles class instead of it just being married couples. I know not having this community has hurt us. I've also been getting frustrated because I feel like he doesn't do the things I need him to do as a husband, and it worries me when I think about having a family with him. For example, today we visited another church since the one we go to has been lacking the community we need. After the service I asked him about talking with someone about a married class and such before we left, he said he didn't want to and hurried to leave. When we got home he finally told me that he just got anxious when he thought about talking to someone about a class and the possibility of leaving our other church. I found this very frustrating, but I also feel bad because I don't know if I should be frustrated with him over all of this. I know this was a long post, but I am at a loss for what to do. We don't have an older married couple we can confide in and I fear for our marriage if we continue like this.
My husband and I have been married two years now. We got married in college and have gone through a lot during our time together. Just in the past year; I have lost my dad after a long battle with cancer, a close family member of his was diagnosed with cancer just recently, and we are both looking at making career changes in the near future. Suffice to say, a lot has happened in the past year. We have never been one to really argue with each other, but lately it seems like it's all we do. Half the time I don't know what we're fighting about, or it will be about small things. I don't know if we have built up anger at each other that is manifesting in these small fights or what is going on.
We seem to annoy each other so easily now, and I find myself being upset with him frequently. I love my husband, but I've also been upset with him lately because I feel like he's not leading our family or being a godly head of the household. I've struggled with my faith since losing my dad, and I feel like I've gotten no support from him on this issue. We haven't lived in our town long so I have really leaned on him for this kind of support. This has been the biggest thing that has really upset me which I think adds fuel to the fire for the small fights.
I've tried to get him to read marriage books with me but he doesn't. We go to church, but we aren't involved in a good small group of married couples. We thought we had found one, but they recently changed their format so they don't talk about marriage anymore in the group and we meet with the singles class instead of it just being married couples. I know not having this community has hurt us. I've also been getting frustrated because I feel like he doesn't do the things I need him to do as a husband, and it worries me when I think about having a family with him. For example, today we visited another church since the one we go to has been lacking the community we need. After the service I asked him about talking with someone about a married class and such before we left, he said he didn't want to and hurried to leave. When we got home he finally told me that he just got anxious when he thought about talking to someone about a class and the possibility of leaving our other church. I found this very frustrating, but I also feel bad because I don't know if I should be frustrated with him over all of this. I know this was a long post, but I am at a loss for what to do. We don't have an older married couple we can confide in and I fear for our marriage if we continue like this.