Is what I want what God wants?

jessicabpharmd81 said:

My husband and I have been down a 5 year road of infertility. About a year ago we discovered the source of our infertility was an issue that he had, which he underwent surgery to correct and it was successful. Almost a year of trying and a failed IUI later, here I am still unable to conceive and no fertility specialist can give me a reason why. I keep telling myself that God says it is not time yet. However, a little voice inside of me keeps asking me what if it is not meant for there to be a time for you? What if God has plans for you that doesn't involve a baby?

We have basically decided to halt any fertility treatments and just see what happens naturally, since we have now been told there is no reason we shouldn't be able to conceive the old-fashioned way. I am 37 years old, so time is definitely not on my side, and although we both agree adoption is a wonderful thing, we do not feel that is an option we want to pursue at this time. No matter how hard I try, or how much progress I make at accepting how things are and try to keep pressing on in a positive direction, I can't help but feel the sting of disappointment as each month passes and once again I am still not pregnant.

I started this thread just to share my struggles, request any and all the prayers we can get, and possibly reach out to someone who may be dealing with the same struggles.

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Here ya go:Have your Prayers and questions Answered The Instant You Are Ready?

Sometimes couples try too hard and that sabotages their efforts. I've known couples who eventually adopted and the next thing they knew the wife had become pregnant.

Hi Jessica, you may want to take a look at this.

people said we'd become pregnant in a hopeful tone when we said "we're adopting"
but never saw adoption as a second choice
instead feel God led us towards adoption

never prayed to become pregnant but did pray for a child and God did answer

we both were scared to adopt because of all the unknowns but if one thinks about it, there are a lot of unknowns with pregnancy, also

best to you, Jessica
may God bless you

jessicabpharmd81 said:

My husband and I have been down a 5 year road of infertility. About a year ago we discovered the source of our infertility was an issue that he had, which he underwent surgery to correct and it was successful. Almost a year of trying and a failed IUI later, here I am still unable to conceive and no fertility specialist can give me a reason why. I keep telling myself that God says it is not time yet. However, a little voice inside of me keeps asking me what if it is not meant for there to be a time for you? What if God has plans for you that doesn't involve a baby?

We have basically decided to halt any fertility treatments and just see what happens naturally, since we have now been told there is no reason we shouldn't be able to conceive the old-fashioned way. I am 37 years old, so time is definitely not on my side, and although we both agree adoption is a wonderful thing, we do not feel that is an option we want to pursue at this time. No matter how hard I try, or how much progress I make at accepting how things are and try to keep pressing on in a positive direction, I can't help but feel the sting of disappointment as each month passes and once again I am still not pregnant.

I started this thread just to share my struggles, request any and all the prayers we can get, and possibly reach out to someone who may be dealing with the same struggles.

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Hello Jessica,
I believe it is best that you and your husband remain calm. I understand your nervous about your age. Nothing impossible for God. You desire the fruit of your womb to be blessed. First, you need to draw near God and seek the Lord’s mercy. There may be things that hinder your prayers to be answered.

Secondly, you need to start giving that you be blessed. As you have heard: give and it will be given to you. Give a sum of money to help the orphans. That is what I did when my desired to get pregnant. Find any person whom you know recently who believe in Christ and have a baby ; humble yourself before them and ask them to pray for you ; they have anointing to bless you. Yes, find those kind of people to pray for you and your husband; let them lay their hands on you or your womb. Seek holy man or woman of God in the church whom you respect or know to be respectable; seek their blessings and let them lay their hands on you or your womb.

Then don’t harbor those thoughts and feelings of unbelief in your thoughts of your heart and your husband. When doubts , anxiety and fear come, just pray :
Lord Jesus, Thank you for forgiving my sins. Bless the fruit of my womb. Thank you for your blessings. Amen

Just pray again and again until those disturbing thoughts and feelings disappear.

Tell those around you, how blessed you and your husband that so many people pray to bless the fruit of your womb. Tell them how happy and thankful you both are and that the Lord hears your prayers.

You need to keep an environment of belief; for you are expecting miracle from God.