I feel so lost

Andrewn · Sep 3, 2020

Welcome to the CF. I do understand what you're going through and appreciate that you're doing your best in studying and praying. A lot of students may not care to do either. It's difficult to decide whether to take the exams agains or to start applying to universities and hope for a miracle.

In either case, I trust that God knows best what route would brings me happiness because He knows me a lot better than I know myself. I wish you the best.

Willing-heart · Sep 3, 2020

First of all, please try and relax, God is in charge. It is important that you know God as a guiding God. We grow as Christians by depending on God more and less on ourselves. God wants us to be dependent on His Grace, but Satan wants us to be dependent on ourselves. You do what you can and leave the rest to God. Before the throne of God above, you have a strong and perfect plea in Christ Jesus.

“We know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” – Romans 8:28

For me, the Sovereignty of God is the most comforting doctrine in the Scripture. I’m pretty sure that your situation hasn't taken God by surprise. God sees the future as a present reality. Although you may be prone to wander and prone to stumble, God is overruling, God is the one who is in charge of all, God is reconciling all things to himself, God is working ceaselessly and purposefully in all areas of your life to weave out a beautiful and magnificent tapestry. To the outside world, life may appear to be out of control, meaningless and purposeless. But for those who love God, who are called by God, even at hard times, they can shout with Jeremiah the promise of God in saying: “I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, they are plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and future.” – Jeremiah 29:11

God sees the future as a present reality. In Jeremiah 1:5, God said, “Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you.” God knows what happen before it happens. So how do you face an uncertain future? By trusting that the same God, the same heavenly Father, who protected you in the past with all of its grieve and pain and joy, the One who took care of you in the past, He is going to take care of the present and the future. The exclamation points and the question marks in our lives are all in God’s hand. All of our times are in His mighty hand.

God bless you. It is well with you. Facing Anxiety

-57 · Sep 3, 2020

Maybe God doesn't want you to be a dentist.

Psalm 27 · Sep 3, 2020

tolani_x said:
Hey everyone,
As you can tell by the title, I feel so lost and hopeless. Ever since I was a young girl I’ve wanted to pursue a career in dentistry, like I can’t see myself doing anything but dentistry. Last year I took some public examinations called GCSES (first level)in which I did not get the grades I hoped for and for some time I felt betrayed by God, I had been getting good grades all year round but when it came to the exam, I was completely disappointed and shocked. I felt so embarrassed because I always went on about God , i would always say “Don’t worry, God has got us” but after the results it felt like he had everybody but me. A couple days later we had to enrol into A Levels (second level) and choose our subjects, in order to choose a subject you need to meet the GCSE grade requirements which I did not for Biology and Chemistry (which is needed for dentistry) but the teacher said she saw potential in me and she let me on the course. Fast forward, last week I had to take my UCAT exam which is highly important when applying for dentistry , I had been revising for it for about two months, I had been praying for it so much, begging God to bless me in that exam because I am already a liability because of my gcse grades so I really needed a good score in that UCAT exam in order to be at least considered for dentistry by universities. I took the exam and got a very below average score , once again I feel a little betrayed. I just feel like a failure because my chances of getting into dental school is literally little to none now. I don’t know what to do, I’m trying to keep my faith in God , I’m trying to trust him but it’s so hard and I feel unmotivated. When I go back to school which is next week, I have important tests and I don’t want to do them because I have a feeling I’m just going to fail them, it’s like I can’t succeed in anything. I feel so unmotivated and lost and I really don’t want to go back to school, I feel so stressed. I can always take a gap year and apply next year but I feel like I would just be behind, people tend to see gap years as a negative thing so I already know people would be looking at me funny if I took one. Sorry for this long message but I just had to let it out because I’m confused and hurt. I love God so much, I obey his commandments, I always try not to sin, I don’t drink I don’t smoke I don’t commit any sexual immoralities. I always pray and read my Bible, I try to talk to him a lot and I’m trying to live a favourable life for God but it seems like he’s not even blessing me. Why? I always try my best in everything I do but it’s clearly
not good enough

You have your whole life ahead of you. I left school with nothing, Started gcse’s At 30, university in my 40’s (and I wasn’t the oldest there!).
One day you will look back and smile...keep going, if at first you don’t succeed...

hluke · Sep 3, 2020

tolani_x said:
Hey everyone,
As you can tell by the title, I feel so lost and hopeless. Ever since I was a young girl I’ve wanted to pursue a career in dentistry, like I can’t see myself doing anything but dentistry. Last year I took some public examinations called GCSES (first level)in which I did not get the grades I hoped for and for some time I felt betrayed by God, I had been getting good grades all year round but when it came to the exam, I was completely disappointed and shocked. I felt so embarrassed because I always went on about God , i would always say “Don’t worry, God has got us” but after the results it felt like he had everybody but me. A couple days later we had to enrol into A Levels (second level) and choose our subjects, in order to choose a subject you need to meet the GCSE grade requirements which I did not for Biology and Chemistry (which is needed for dentistry) but the teacher said she saw potential in me and she let me on the course. Fast forward, last week I had to take my UCAT exam which is highly important when applying for dentistry , I had been revising for it for about two months, I had been praying for it so much, begging God to bless me in that exam because I am already a liability because of my gcse grades so I really needed a good score in that UCAT exam in order to be at least considered for dentistry by universities. I took the exam and got a very below average score , once again I feel a little betrayed. I just feel like a failure because my chances of getting into dental school is literally little to none now. I don’t know what to do, I’m trying to keep my faith in God , I’m trying to trust him but it’s so hard and I feel unmotivated. When I go back to school which is next week, I have important tests and I don’t want to do them because I have a feeling I’m just going to fail them, it’s like I can’t succeed in anything. I feel so unmotivated and lost and I really don’t want to go back to school, I feel so stressed. I can always take a gap year and apply next year but I feel like I would just be behind, people tend to see gap years as a negative thing so I already know people would be looking at me funny if I took one. Sorry for this long message but I just had to let it out because I’m confused and hurt. I love God so much, I obey his commandments, I always try not to sin, I don’t drink I don’t smoke I don’t commit any sexual immoralities. I always pray and read my Bible, I try to talk to him a lot and I’m trying to live a favourable life for God but it seems like he’s not even blessing me. Why? I always try my best in everything I do but it’s clearly
not good enough

Hello Tolani,
I had a very similar experience in my final exams last year here in Australia. I recieved high marks all year, but I was dissatisfied with my final score. After school finished I lacked meaning and clarity. Since I didn't achieve the score I needed for my chosen uni course, I had doubts about my future. I was also lost and confused like you are now. I was burnt out. To get my life back in track I literally reset everything. Controversially, I cut off my friends and spent time wholeheartedly reading the bible and seeking God. This gave me utter joy, peace and reassurance. In addition, I have read many books this year which has improved my self-concept and intellect exponentially, away from formal studies. Although I no longer have that dream job oppurtunity, I appreciate, (which I didn't at school), that I have a greater inheritance which nothing in this life can match. And with prayer through faith God has blessed me with many new loving friends. This was unimaginable a year ago! I am now nurturing my career as a missionary, and, with much connections, my future looks promising. So I want you to know that no matter what happens this year in your schooling God will never leave you or foresake you, and he undoubtedly holds your future in his hands. I will keep you in my prayers, and God bless!
Rom 5:1-5; Heb 10:36; Eph 2:8-9; Heb 13:5.

SANTOSO · Sep 3, 2020

tolani_x said:
Hey everyone,
As you can tell by the title, I feel so lost and hopeless. Ever since I was a young girl I’ve wanted to pursue a career in dentistry, like I can’t see myself doing anything but dentistry. Last year I took some public examinations called GCSES (first level)in which I did not get the grades I hoped for and for some time I felt betrayed by God, I had been getting good grades all year round but when it came to the exam, I was completely disappointed and shocked. I felt so embarrassed because I always went on about God , i would always say “Don’t worry, God has got us” but after the results it felt like he had everybody but me. A couple days later we had to enrol into A Levels (second level) and choose our subjects, in order to choose a subject you need to meet the GCSE grade requirements which I did not for Biology and Chemistry (which is needed for dentistry) but the teacher said she saw potential in me and she let me on the course. Fast forward, last week I had to take my UCAT exam which is highly important when applying for dentistry , I had been revising for it for about two months, I had been praying for it so much, begging God to bless me in that exam because I am already a liability because of my gcse grades so I really needed a good score in that UCAT exam in order to be at least considered for dentistry by universities. I took the exam and got a very below average score , once again I feel a little betrayed. I just feel like a failure because my chances of getting into dental school is literally little to none now. I don’t know what to do, I’m trying to keep my faith in God , I’m trying to trust him but it’s so hard and I feel unmotivated. When I go back to school which is next week, I have important tests and I don’t want to do them because I have a feeling I’m just going to fail them, it’s like I can’t succeed in anything. I feel so unmotivated and lost and I really don’t want to go back to school, I feel so stressed. I can always take a gap year and apply next year but I feel like I would just be behind, people tend to see gap years as a negative thing so I already know people would be looking at me funny if I took one. Sorry for this long message but I just had to let it out because I’m confused and hurt. I love God so much, I obey his commandments, I always try not to sin, I don’t drink I don’t smoke I don’t commit any sexual immoralities. I always pray and read my Bible, I try to talk to him a lot and I’m trying to live a favourable life for God but it seems like he’s not even blessing me. Why? I always try my best in everything I do but it’s clearly
not good enough

You are not lost but feeling despondent. You rely on your strength to pursue your career. Do you think Jesus grief when you put so much effort on that and put everything else on second, third, fourth or may be fifth place?
I understand that you are not aware. I just want you to consider if you give your life and love for someone ; will you be offended when he put on not on the first place. What I am trying to say, consider this:

and He died for all, that those who live might no longer live for themselves but for Him who for their sake died and was raised. -2 Corinthians 5:15

You want to pursue this career dentistry for yourself not for the Lord. I understand you pray much but you are not praying in accordance to His will.

The good life you want to lead is dentistry; you are supposed to live a good life with Christ; His love for you matters more!

You are supposed to chase His love not your dream career.

When you purpose to love Him from your heart and rely on His strength to pursue dentistry or others; This will please, the Lord.

What to do then ? Accept your failings, inabilities, and weaknesses. Believe that the Lord has a plan for every area of your life including your weaknesses, inabilities and failures ; His purpose is to strengthen the new self or the new you!

You must understand the Lord cannot bless you to put you far in relationships with Him.
You would not want to do that to those who you love. Repent. Draw near Him. Live a life worthy of Him. Seek His strength!

Tony B · Sep 3, 2020

Many of us have had similar experiences. At your age and schooling level, I wanted to join our airforce and be a fighter pilot. Got brochures and application forms from them, and was raring to go. Had pictures of sabre jets on my bedroom walls and paraphernalia everywhere. I thought I was a shoe in, but my final exams' ratings plus eyesight problems ruled me out.

I wandered across different career paths and eventually fell into IT which became my career.

The reality was, that God equipped me in my mother's womb with a combination of faculties, qualities and talents that weren't consistent with my initial career aims. It wasn't His fault I was looking in the wrong place, it was my ignorance of what I truly comprised and what disciplines were best suited to those. He won't change what He has already imbedded in you, He doesn't get it wrong.

The upside of all this is that your results will be guiding you to the career and service you are best suited too, under God's influence. He will lead you to where you need to be, and doing what will give you the best return and satisfaction for your efforts.

tolani_x · Sep 3, 2020

Andrewn said:
Welcome to the CF. I do understand what you're going through and appreciate that you're doing your best in studying and praying. A lot of students may not care to do either. It's difficult to decide whether to take the exams agains or to start applying to universities and hope for a miracle.

In either case, I trust that God knows best what route would brings me happiness because He knows me a lot better than I know myself. I wish you the best.

Very true, and thank you so much.

tolani_x · Sep 3, 2020

-57 said:
Maybe God doesn't want you to be a dentist.

I always ask God if this is the case but I have no response

paul1149 · Sep 3, 2020

Life has many twists and turns, and many disappointments. I have learned through them not to doubt God. It's hard at first, when your soul is crying out for what you wanted, but life without God is unthinkable. Trust in Him. He has not betrayed you.

Maybe a gap year with some remedial work is in order. Or maybe rethinking your goals is necessary. Maybe there's still a path to dentistry. Whatever the challenges are, face them with God. He wants the best for us, but oftentimes we cannot see clearly what that is or the best way to get there. Think of Joseph and David, for instance.

Michie · Sep 3, 2020

Welcome! You might try the advise forum for your topic as this is only the intro forum.

Try here- Requests for Christian Advice

Prayers for you in the meantime.

tolani_x · Sep 3, 2020

Willing-heart said:
First of all, please try and relax, God is in charge. It is important that you know God as a guiding God. We grow as Christians by depending on God more and less on ourselves. God wants us to be dependent on His Grace, but Satan wants us to be dependent on ourselves. You do what you can and leave the rest to God. Before the throne of God above, you have a strong and perfect plea in Christ Jesus.

“We know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” – Romans 8:28

For me, the Sovereignty of God is the most comforting doctrine in the Scripture. I’m pretty sure that your situation hasn't taken God by surprise. God sees the future as a present reality. Although you may be prone to wander and prone to stumble, God is overruling, God is the one who is in charge of all, God is reconciling all things to himself, God is working ceaselessly and purposefully in all areas of your life to weave out a beautiful and magnificent tapestry. To the outside world, life may appear to be out of control, meaningless and purposeless. But for those who love God, who are called by God, even at hard times, they can shout with Jeremiah the promise of God in saying: “I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, they are plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and future.” – Jeremiah 29:11

God sees the future as a present reality. In Jeremiah 1:5, God said, “Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you.” God knows what happen before it happens. So how do you face an uncertain future? By trusting that the same God, the same heavenly Father, who protected you in the past with all of its grieve and pain and joy, the One who took care of you in the past, He is going to take care of the present and the future. The exclamation points and the question marks in our lives are all in God’s hand. All of our times are in His mighty hand.

God bless you. It is well with you. Facing Anxiety

I agree, I believe it is all in God’s hands, it’s just hard not to worry about your future when the main focus in school is your choosing your career/path.

tolani_x · Sep 3, 2020

Michie said:
Welcome! You might try the advise forum for your topic as this is only the intro forum.

Try here- Requests for Christian Advice

Prayers for you in the meantime.

How do I move it there?

tolani_x · Sep 3, 2020

paul1149 said:
Life has many twists and turns, and many disappointments. I have learned through them not to doubt God. It's hard at first, when your soul is crying out for what you wanted, but life without God is unthinkable. Trust in Him. He has not betrayed you.

Maybe a gap year with some remedial work is in order. Or maybe rethinking your goals is necessary. Maybe there's still a path to dentistry. Whatever the challenges are, face them with God. He wants the best for us, but oftentimes we cannot see clearly what that is or the best way to get there. Think of Joseph and David, for instance.

Definitely, i so badly want to do dentistry but if it’s not for me, so be it.

Michie · Sep 3, 2020

tolani_x said:
How do I move it there?

Just click on the link and you can rewrite your post there. You are likely to get more feedback there.

tolani_x · Sep 3, 2020

hluke said:
Hello Tolani,
I had a very similar experience in my final exams last year here in Australia. I recieved high marks all year, but I was dissatisfied with my final score. After school finished I lacked meaning and clarity. Since I didn't achieve the score I needed for my chosen uni course, I had doubts about my future. I was also lost and confused like you are now. I was burnt out. To get my life back in track I literally reset everything. Controversially, I cut off my friends and spent time wholeheartedly reading the bible and seeking God. This gave me utter joy, peace and reassurance. In addition, I have read many books this year which has improved my self-concept and intellect exponentially, away from formal studies. Although I no longer have that dream job oppurtunity, I appreciate, (which I didn't at school), that I have a greater inheritance which nothing in this life can match. And with prayer through faith God has blessed me with many new loving friends. This was unimaginable a year ago! I am now nurturing my career as a missionary, and, with much connections, my future looks promising. So I want you to know that no matter what happens this year in your schooling God will never leave you or foresake you, and he undoubtedly holds your future in his hands. I will keep you in my prayers, and God bless!
Rom 5:1-5; Heb 10:36; Eph 2:8-9; Heb 13:5.

Thank you so much, God bless

Deade · Sep 3, 2020

Hello Tolani,
welcome to CF.

I hope you'll enjoy your stay here.

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April_Rose · Sep 3, 2020

-57 said:
Maybe God doesn't want you to be a dentist.

Yeah, that's what I was thinking actually. Just like any other parent God has to say no sometimes.

April_Rose · Sep 3, 2020

Anyways welcome and sure hope that you will find something that makes you happy nonetheless.

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