Should A Christian Man Marry A Divorced Woman?

ChristServant said:

Should A Christian Man Marry A Divorced Woman?

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No.

ChristServant said:

Is this scripture below saying a Christian man should only marry a divorced woman if her divorce was because of sexual immorality or a Christian man should never marry a divorced woman full stop?
If the man does marry a divorced women would that mean his sins are going to be continuous in adultery as long as he is in that relationship, just as if someone carried on with fornication or any other sin after coming to and accepting Christ. Which would then make his sinning wilful after being saved.

31"Furthermore it has been said,
"Whoever divorces his wife, let him give
her a certificate of divorce.'
32But I say to you that whoever divorces
his wife for any reason except sexual
immorality causes her to commit
adultery; and whoever marries a woman
who is divorced commits adultery.

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People are married for life. Divorce and remarriage are serial polygamies.

ChristServant said:

Is this scripture below saying a Christian man should only marry a divorced woman if her divorce was because of sexual immorality or a Christian man should never marry a divorced woman full stop?

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A Christian man should _not_ marry a divorced woman who had committed adultery.

ChristServant said:

If the man does marry a divorced women would that mean his sins are going to be continuous in adultery as long as he is in that relationship, just as if someone carried on with fornication or any other sin after coming to and accepting Christ. Which would then make his sinning wilful after being saved.

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The married couple may repent and ask God to forgive and bless their marriage.

Andrewn said:

The married couple may repent and ask God to forgive and bless their marriage.

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Do you have some biblical example?

solid_core said:

Do you have some biblical example?

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1 John 1:9 – If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

Psalm 103:10-14 – He has not punished us as we deserve for all our sins, for his mercy toward those who fear and honor him is as great as the height of the heavens above the earth. He has removed our sins as far away from us as the east is from the west. He is like a father to us, tender and sympathetic to those who reverence him. For he knows we are but dust.

Matthew 6:14 For if you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.

Source: 42 Bible verses about God's Forgiveness

Hebrews 8:12 – For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more.

Ephesians 1:7 In Him we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of His grace

Romans 5:8 – But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

1 Timothy 1:15-16 – Here is a trustworthy saying that deserves full acceptance: Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners—of whom I am the worst. But for that very reason I was shown mercy so that in me, the worst of sinners, Christ Jesus might display his immense patience as an example for those who would believe in him and receive eternal life.

Daniel 9:9 To the Lord our God belong compassion and forgiveness, for we have rebelled against Him;

Luke 23:34 – As he hung on the cross – “And Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.”

Mat 12:31 Therefore, I tell you, people will be forgiven every sin and blasphemy, but the blasphemy against the Spirit will not be forgiven.

Andrewn said:

1 John 1:9 – If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

Psalm 103:10-14 – He has not punished us as we deserve for all our sins, for his mercy toward those who fear and honor him is as great as the height of the heavens above the earth. He has removed our sins as far away from us as the east is from the west. He is like a father to us, tender and sympathetic to those who reverence him. For he knows we are but dust.

Hebrews 8:12 – For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more.

Romans 5:8 – But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

1 Timothy 1:15-16 – Here is a trustworthy saying that deserves full acceptance: Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners—of whom I am the worst. But for that very reason I was shown mercy so that in me, the worst of sinners, Christ Jesus might display his immense patience as an example for those who would believe in him and receive eternal life.

Luke 23:34 – As he hung on the cross – “And Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.”

Mat 12:31 Therefore, I tell you, people will be forgiven every sin and blasphemy, but the blasphemy against the Spirit will not be forgiven.

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I mean an example that remarriage was blessed by God, after people repented from doing it, but stayed in it.

solid_core said:

I mean an example that remarriage was blessed by God, after people "repented" for doing it, but stayed in it.

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Joyce Meyer's. Can you think of a more blessed marriage than hers?

Saying that "People are married for life. Divorce and remarriage are serial polygamies" is

1) Untrue bec Jesus' commandments are all about the perfect attitude of God's heart, which we should strive to imitate throughout our lifetime. It cannot be instantly accomplished. And

2) It results in the new generations avoiding marriage altogether and living together. Even the Lord's disciples in the 1st century realized that what He said was impossible to implement as literal law.

Andrewn said:

Joyce Meyer's. Can you think of a more blessed marriage than hers?

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I mean a biblical example, given by God. I have no idea who they are.

Bible is our basis for establishing doctrines.

Andrewn said:

Joyce Meyer's. Can you think of a more blessed marriage than hers?

Saying that "People are married for life. Divorce and remarriage are serial polygamies" is

1) Untrue bec Jesus' commandments are all about the perfect attitude of God's heart, which we should strive to imitate throughout our lifetime. It cannot be instantly accomplished. And

2) It results in the new generations avoiding marriage altogether and living together. Even the Lord's disciples in the 1st century realized that what He said was impossible to implement as literal law.

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But, divorce and remarriage is adultery. And the New Covenant has no provision for believers divorcing instead of forgiving.

solid_core said:

Bible is our basis for establishing doctrines.

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Dave L said:

But, divorce and remarriage is adultery. And the New Covenant has no provision for believers divorcing instead of forgiving.

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If you want to follow Bible doctrine, here it is in Mark 9:

43 “And if your hand causes you to stumble, cut it off! It is better for you to enter into life crippled than, having two hands, to go to Gehenna, into the unquenchable fire.

45 And if your foot causes you to stumble, cut it off! It’s better for you to enter life lame than, having your two feet, to be thrown into Gehenna.

47 If your eye causes you to stumble, tear it out! It is better for you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye than, having two eyes, to be thrown into Gehenna,

If you take the commandments literally, this is what you must do.

Dave L said:

People are married for life. Divorce and remarriage are serial polygamies.

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I see you've changed your way of saying the same thing, which is still wrong.

Andrewn said:

If you want to follow Bible doctrine, here it is in Mark 9:

43 “And if your hand causes you to stumble, cut it off! It is better for you to enter into life crippled than, having two hands, to go to Gehenna, into the unquenchable fire.

45 And if your foot causes you to stumble, cut it off! It’s better for you to enter life lame than, having your two feet, to be thrown into Gehenna.

47 If your eye causes you to stumble, tear it out! It is better for you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye than, having two eyes, to be thrown into Gehenna,

If you take the commandments literally, this is what you must do.

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What are you trying to say, that "who marries a divorced woman commits adultery" is not literal?

If you think its symbolic, can you explain the symbolism there?

As long as churches of today refuse to hold accountable and discipline it members as the 1st century Christians, many led by the Lord's chosen disciples and the apostle Paul themselves, we will struggle with such questions and dilemmas. Marriage is an institution of God, a religious one of which the government should have no jurisdiction for a believer in God.

Andrewn said:

If you want to follow Bible doctrine, here it is in Mark 9:

43 “And if your hand causes you to stumble, cut it off! It is better for you to enter into life crippled than, having two hands, to go to Gehenna, into the unquenchable fire.

45 And if your foot causes you to stumble, cut it off! It’s better for you to enter life lame than, having your two feet, to be thrown into Gehenna.

47 If your eye causes you to stumble, tear it out! It is better for you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye than, having two eyes, to be thrown into Gehenna,

If you take the commandments literally, this is what you must do.

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Why don't you do it? everyone breaks the law.

It seems like sexual immorality is a clause, IMO. It is best not to, but you have to know the situation of the divorce. Adultery, or just not compatible? Were they married to an unbeliever, or both believers? But you can read what Paul wrote below. If there is children involved, this can create a very bad situation.

To be celibate is the best. If you cannot do this, it's better to have a wife or husband, if you read Chapter 6-7.

God forgives us of our sins but there are consequences for them for sure. Divorce is bad any way you turn it.

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Concerning Married Life

1Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” 2But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6I say this as a concession, not as a command. 7I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.

8Now to the unmarried a and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. 9But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.

12To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.

15But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

Running2win said:

It seems like sexual immorality is a clause, IMO. It is best not to, but you have to know the situation of the divorce.

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How exactly will you know all details and causes of the divorce and whose guilt it is?

You will have to do a detective work similar to FBI. Or simply trust what the woman is telling you. Too risky. Only God knows all details and has the complete picture.

solid_core said:

How exactly will you know all details and causes of the divorce and whose guilt it is?

You will have to do a detective work similar to FBI. Or simply trust what the woman is telling you.

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Trust that what you are being told is the truth? After all, trust is an important part of any relationship.

My girlfriend is divorced. She told me that her ex-husband cheated on her many times and told her that he will likely continue. When the relationship started, I trusted her that she was telling the truth. Not long after the relationship started, I received confirmation from the ex-husband's mom.

It won't take long to tell if there is truth to the statement without having to do investigative work.

Isilwen said:

Trust that what you are being told is the truth? After all, trust is an important part of any relationship.

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People never tell all the details, because they, at least, do not remember them or do not think they are important.
Also, one side of the broken relationship will always tell only his/her truth.

Also, can you prove that a divorced woman is free to remarry when she was cheated on?

"whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery." - there is no clause

Let God be the judge. Seek God in prayer.