Why did God save me from death only so I can suffer?

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Did anyone notice that the writer has Asperger's? My son is on the spectrum and he often has trouble with change. He reacts strongly to situational differences. You can tell the writer to pick himself up by the bootstraps and he may not even know what that means. My son is very literal. Anyway, of course everyone's life has been affected by Covid-19 but it especially is bothersome to those with learning disabilities. Please be kind.
 
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Yes I have Asperger's and I struggle a lot. I like socializing even though I find it difficult with the cues, small talk. I find physical distancing, not going to Church or events very lonely.

I only started to indulge in inappropriate contentography in April after a productive month of exercise and education videos I got tired of the quarantine and an British adult website based in the Netherlands had my exact fetish desires.

I do have a close friend Justin who says the same thing thanks what you have. I do I just hate my Asperger's it is a real pain to want to be with people especially girls but not knowing what to say and appear proper and not sloppy.

That is why in heaven I will be cured of it and be able to live eternal life normal.
 
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So why did God bother to save my life so I can suffer through this antisocial pandemic? At least if I would have died I would have gone to Heaven happy.
perhaps it's because God has something great planned for you. He calls us daily to "take up our cross" deny ourselves and follow him. it is not a call for the light-hearted and trails of many kinds seem to be baked in. Consider Moses, he had a problem with words too, perhaps he had Aspergers himself, and he was called for something great. After 40 years in Egypt then 40 years on the run he was then sent to lead Israel (at 80 years old)... he spent another 40 years wandering the desert and died looking at the place he was promised.
 
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In February after coming home from a Bible study game night I was nearly hit by a car. I was okay and at the time I thanked God for saving my life. Now I wish he would have taken it then.

Life was going fine for me I was socializing and going to Church then mid March everything including Church is shut down due to the pandemic.

The first month was fine catching up on exercise and education videos.

After which April rolls around and I start to indulge in inappropriate contentography.

Then the months drag on no Church just fake virtual Church and Zoom group meetings that grow old fast.

Now when I go out I see people wearing masks and avoiding each other.well should say that. Some creepy guy approached me at the park Saturday. I was afraid but left the park and now I am afraid to go out because of all the negative mask wearing.

Hi,
This pandemic has upset a lot of people and made them anxious.
It has also caused some to think about what they are doing and what is important to them. It's quite easy to carry on doing what you have always done, without questioning it but without really understanding or engaging with it either. It's no bad thing to have to think "where am I going in my life; what's my relationship with God like, why do I do these things and are they really important?"

The first month was fine catching up on exercise and education videos.

After which April rolls around and I start to indulge in inappropriate contentography.

Then the months drag on no Church just fake virtual Church and Zoom group meetings that grow old fast.

Are you saying that you started to indulge in inappropriate contentography because you were bored?
If the only thing that you can, or want, to do is watch videos, couldn't you find some Christian ones - like "The hiding place"; true stories about Christians who faced difficulties and suffering and also found that God was in it with them. There are also Bible studies and Christian messages on YouTube.

It's interesting you talk about "fake church" - did you know that the church is the people, not the building? So every time you meet up with Christians, you are meeting as church - whether that's in your back garden, at McDonald's or in the place where you work. Personally I think it's good that all church buildings closed in March. It meant that we had to think of new ways of reaching out and being church in the community, and there are accounts of how people who would never, and have never, set foot in a church building have listened to an online service and heard about God.

So why did God bother to save my life so I can suffer through this antisocial pandemic? At least if I would have died I would have gone to Heaven happy.

Well maybe it was because he loves you and still has things for you to do on earth.
What do you like doing and how could you do that to serve God? Start a blog or journal? Write a book? Do something to help others who are finding this pandemic even harder than you are?
Do a sponsored event and raise money for a charity?
Maybe spend more time with God and read the Bible more?
 
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Yes I have Asperger's and I struggle a lot. I like socializing even though I find it difficult with the cues, small talk. I find physical distancing, not going to Church or events very lonely.

I only started to indulge in inappropriate contentography in April after a productive month of exercise and education videos I got tired of the quarantine and an British adult website based in the Netherlands had my exact fetish desires.

I do have a close friend Justin who says the same thing thanks what you have. I do I just hate my Asperger's it is a real pain to want to be with people especially girls but not knowing what to say and appear proper and not sloppy.

That is why in heaven I will be cured of it and be able to live eternal life normal.
OK, I understand you have Aspergers and I have spent time with people who have that so have some understanding of it, but dont claim to be an expert. The fact is you have still chosen to follow a sinful path. Its easy for people to blame their circumstances on their health conditions but you still have to take responsibility for yourself. With Aspergers I know you will need some support for that and as you said there is still online services, zoom, phones, etc you can use and you could still arrange to see people as long as you maintained social distancing. So it really is not an excuse.

I have also seen a bit of a catch 22 situation with Aspergers, you are expected to act in a certain way so are brought up to act in that way with everything in life saying this is who you are. I found with some of the people I knew that taking some time to explain the other persons point of view can be very helpful. As an example, one boy who always wanted to play football got very angry if I said no because he couldnt understand why he couldnt do what he wanted to do. If I explained why I said no he was generally happy to accept that answer because he understood why.

So on this premise explaining why certain things are good or bad will probably help you and if youre not sure why ask.

inappropriate content is bad as it is the indulgence of the sinful flesh and is harmful to the soul and spirit. The people involved in it are involved in very depraved activities and living a life of sinful indulgence of the flesh. They are often victims of people trafficing and modern slavery as well. That is the industry you are supporting by watching it.

By willfully indulging in it you are also allowing Satan a pathway into your life. Unrepentant sin takes you away from God and gives Satan a legal right in Gods law to attack you. Your first priority should be to repent of your sin - your watching inappropriate content, your selfishness (I know this is very common in Aspergers but in my experience is often just how people have been taught how they are expected to act) at expecting to have a perfect life, etc. You have not committed the unforgivable sin and repentance is all it requires to bring you back to God. Repentance means turning away from your sin, which also means you choose that you prefer not to do it. People do struggle with sin though and it can be habit forming and addictive. You may find it difficult to give up but need to keep working on it until you do, the most important thing being wanting to do what is right before God.
 
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Hi brother,
Do you know you are called to suffer with Christ and for Christ?

This is what has been written for us:
The Spirit himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God, -Romans 8:16
and if children, then heirs'heirs of God and fellow heirs with Christ, provided we suffer with him in order that we may also be glorified with him. -Romans 8:17

For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us. -Romans 8:18

Wake up,brother.
Heed God’s grace of repentance.
Live your life by the Spirit of God, then you will be able to put the misdeeds of the body.

GBU
 
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Yes I have Asperger's and I struggle a lot. I like socializing even though I find it difficult with the cues, small talk. I find physical distancing, not going to Church or events very lonely.

I only started to indulge in inappropriate contentography in April after a productive month of exercise and education videos I got tired of the quarantine and an British adult website based in the Netherlands had my exact fetish desires.

I do have a close friend Justin who says the same thing thanks what you have. I do I just hate my Asperger's it is a real pain to want to be with people especially girls but not knowing what to say and appear proper and not sloppy.

That is why in heaven I will be cured of it and be able to live eternal life normal.
I keep thinking on how Jesus was alone for 40 days with no human interaction. Maybe just a stray animal here and there.
I have to say im sorry about alot of the people who have responded in very unkind ways. There's a time to be told those things and a time to be dealt with tenderly. I know things are tough right now and the world may seem like it's falling apart around you. But think of what is happening in Ukraine still a civil war torn country where so many people are caught up in it.

If I ever fell like my situation here in the pandemic is bad I think of that situation happening as I write to you. God also works in ways we cannot understand and i believe he does have a great plan for you.

Im sorry to hear that you got sucked into inappropriate contentography during this deal as it was sadly something that at a time like this with being more idle you fell into. And as you said you ran into that situation. But remember we all fall into sin sadly all of us i know that some of us more than others but keep your head high and remember that christ loves you and wants what is best for you. Sin is something that will ruin your life He doesn't tell us not to sin just because He can it is out of love as well! Sin is evil and if you live in it your life will reflect that weather it be in this life or after death you can't outrun sin but you can run and hold on to Jesus! We have a advocate to the Father that umis Jesus but do not use that statement to justify sin. We should never try to justify sin for it is what separated us from God and why Jesus had to die for us on the cross and rise from death 3 days later. or we could never be saved.

I used to deal with a major inappropriate contentography addiction ive been free of it now for 7months and its only by the grace of God and the help of Jesus Christ that I beat it. Read your Bible daily and pray often as well reading his word is one of the best things to do with our time period.

The book of psalms is great and so is the new testament from Matthew to revelation but revelation is probably not the book to read right now as it is all about the end times unless you want to read it then i recommend reading all of the new testament before it tho and thats if you really want to read revelation.

I will keep you in my prayers and know that when we fall into sin Jesus is there with His hand to pick us up and help us to continue on our walk with Him. God bless you i hope you have a good day.
 
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In February after coming home from a Bible study game night I was nearly hit by a car. I was okay and at the time I thanked God for saving my life. Now I wish he would have taken it then.

Life was going fine for me I was socializing and going to Church then mid March everything including Church is shut down due to the pandemic.

The first month was fine catching up on exercise and education videos.

After which April rolls around and I start to indulge in inappropriate contentography.

Then the months drag on no Church just fake virtual Church and Zoom group meetings that grow old fast.

Now when I go out I see people wearing masks and avoiding each other.well should say that. Some creepy guy approached me at the park Saturday. I was afraid but left the park and now I am afraid to go out because of all the negative mask wearing.

So why did God bother to save my life so I can suffer through this antisocial pandemic? At least if I would have died I would have gone to Heaven happy.

Ask this woman. ;)

 
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I am told by my family that I have a bad attitude. I can't help it when things go wrong or I always think negative. With my Church friends they say I have a good attitude never snapped at them but they do say I think very negative.

As for socializing I been doing weekly Zoom calls with my Wednesday life group however I might choose a different one on Sunday as I am sick of of all the participants being married. The other one has some single people.

I also meet with a girl from my life group in person as I was depressed in July and we talked for a hour at the park.

Also this was not my first brush with death. I nearly died when I was a baby had a few close encounters during my teens young adult and I keep asking God why could he just taken my life then as a baby and if he wanted me to live he could have made me NT not Aspie. I still am quite ticked off at God for that.
 
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You are still here because it is God's will. God's will, not yours. Be thankful always, in all circumstances. Fourteen years ago my daughter WAS hit by a car. She nearly died. She was in a coma for many months. When she emerged very slowly from the coma, she had to relearn how to do everything. She is a fighter, but she has to live with a traumatic brain injury for the rest of her life. Her struggles are HUGE. I would never say her struggles are bigger than the ones you go through with Asperger's, but I will pray for you to stay in the positive light of God's love!
 
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The social distancing and isolation have taken a great toll on people's mental and emotional health, so you one of many who are struggling with this pandemic. This is one of the casualties of Covid that is rarely mentioned, especially as it affects the young people.

Just sit tight and this too shall pass.
 
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In February after coming home from a Bible study game night I was nearly hit by a car. I was okay and at the time I thanked God for saving my life. Now I wish he would have taken it then.

Life was going fine for me I was socializing and going to Church then mid March everything including Church is shut down due to the pandemic.

The first month was fine catching up on exercise and education videos.

After which April rolls around and I start to indulge in inappropriate contentography.

Then the months drag on no Church just fake virtual Church and Zoom group meetings that grow old fast.

Now when I go out I see people wearing masks and avoiding each other.well should say that. Some creepy guy approached me at the park Saturday. I was afraid but left the park and now I am afraid to go out because of all the negative mask wearing.

So why did God bother to save my life so I can suffer through this antisocial pandemic? At least if I would have died I would have gone to Heaven happy.

Hi Tony.

Every Christian feels your pain. We have all had to sit back, hunker down and live through this pandemic.

Without being too rough on you, I suspect you have taken your eyes off Jesus and are focused on the not so pleasant situations tens of millions of us have to endure. Having aspergers compooound the situation but let me remind you of these truths:

1. The Joy of the Lord is not dependent on good circumstances happening.
2. The peace of the Lord does not need things going our way!
3. Relishing in the love of the Lord is independent of whatever is going on around us!

We all get down and discouragement is always just around the corner ready to to quench the light of Christ we are ! REmember who you are in Christ, and that ALL things (not just the things we like) but ALLthings work for the good.
 
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So why did God bother to save my life so I can suffer through this antisocial pandemic? At least if I would have died I would have gone to Heaven happy.

My heart goes out to you in your struggle, and I cannot try to assuage your angst with platitudes or stories about others having similar problems. But what I can do is share my situation, and how I deal with it.

It boils down to remembering the great truths promised you by God, and sometimes leaning on them so hard that your problems can make a telephone pole look like an upside down U.

September 26, 2019 I was diagnosed with a chronic debilitating neuro-muscular disease from which I shall never recover, but die. Thus it is a service connected total and permanent disability. By 2025 or sooner, I expect to see Jesus face to face. My death will come from suffocation while on a ventilator.

Nevertheless, I refuse to let my condition dictate how I feel, nor do I let it make me sad when I an no longer able to do what I once enjoyed

The reason for that is because I understand that my present illness is independent of the attributes of God. He still is a good God, He remains a loving God, and never will He abandon nor forsake me.
Romans 8 teaches me that:

Romans 8:37 No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.
38 For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers,
39 nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.

In those verses, there is great serenity, and if you do not have it, ask God for it. In all things, Christians are more than conquerors
 
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My Christian friends and the pastor of my church says the reason God has not taken me yet is because he has plans for me. To me I don't see any plans just a bleak future. Matter of fact this pandemic might make me lose my new friends just like I lost my last friends after which I backslided for 15 years.
 
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My Christian friends and the pastor of my church says the reason God has not taken me yet is because he has plans for me.

I think that's probably quite true.

To me I don't see any plans just a bleak future.

Well unless you are clinically depressed and totally unable to see any kind of future, the Bible says that we live by faith and not by sight.
I.e when God says that he will lead us in paths of righteousness for his name's sake, we trust that he will do that, even if we don't see how that will happen.

Matter of fact this pandemic might make me lose my new friends just like I lost my last friends after which I backslided for 15 years.

Hopefully, if they are good friends, they will be there for you and support you. If they don't, are they true friends?
You might make new Christian friends; people who will be there fir you in whatever you're going through. God will be there too; he'll never let you go and nothing will ever be able to stop him from loving you, Romans 8:38-39.
 
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Offer up your sufferings to Jesus.

Lay them at His feet my friend. He loves you.

Trust in Jesus. Persevere in prayer. Know that you are not alone.

As you carry your cross in life, remember, that Jesus is indeed carrying you!

God bless and protect you Tony
 
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God will be there too; he'll never let you go and nothing will ever be able to stop him from loving
You should hear the things I said about him when I backslided like you took everything away from me, I don't believe in you anymore to you don't exist.

Only coming back to Church after my sister nearly died making marginal progress then the pandemic hits. I am afraid all of my few friends will move away. It already happened in another life group that I left. Four move away.

Also I been to the parks today and the past few days. I have my music to cheer me up. I been listening to Billy Joel My life on repeat.
 
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My Christian friends and the pastor of my church says the reason God has not taken me yet is because he has plans for me. To me I don't see any plans just a bleak future. Matter of fact this pandemic might make me lose my new friends just like I lost my last friends after which I backslided for 15 years.

I've had so many problems that only seemed to get worse over the years. One day I asked God to just let me die. I thought maybe I'd die in my sleep. I got up the next morning and wondered why God didn't grant my request. I think it was a blessing and a lesson. One reason I'm here is to encourage other Christians! You could start a blog about what it's like to have Asperger's, and to tell others how you and other Aspies want to be treated. You could research Bible verses that encourage and ones that talk about depression.

Have you read a book by Temple Grandin? I can't remenber the title, but it was good.

Welcome to Temple Grandin's Official Autism Website


I remember feeling depressed that we had no car. We walked to the grocery store. They used paper bags. I hoped it wouldn't rain while we were walking home. Then we met a girl from Bangladesh who had never ridden a bike! Thinking back I remembered not learning to ride a bike until I was nine or ten years old. My friends all got bikes for Christmas or birthdays. I never had one! I seldom had nice clothes or shoes until I was old enough to babysit. Sometimes people asked me why I didn't dress up for special programs at school. My parents divorced and afterwards I had two crummy stepfathers. Amazingly all my problems taught me compassion for others.

As for friends --- I have social anxiety. We moved and I went to a different school almost every year. I tried to tell my mother how stessful it was. One time she told me to stop feeling sorry for myself. Another time she said that I was too sensitive.

I thank God for all the times He has helped me endure. It's not easy but we can do it.

Be of good cheer!
 
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