I am Afraid To Respond To Other People's Threads On Here

Introverted1293 said:

Thank you for your 2 cents. Yeah, I try not to do it by texting. I don't always understand the abbreviations. For a long time, I did not know what LOL meant.

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I have to look up abbreviations and/or other terms I've never heard of before a lot. ;o)
but that in itself I learn a lot of new things ;o)

I think there is a difference in saying "I disagree" versus starting debates or constantly arguing, or putting someone down. You don't sound like that type of person.

Introverted1293 said:

Thank you for your 2 cents. Yeah, I try not to do it by texting. I don't always understand the abbreviations. For a long time, I did not know what LOL meant.

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Little Old Lady? (JK= Just Kidding hehe )

I love this Buddhist saying:
If you meet someone who says he is searching for truth, listen to him.

If he says he has found it, run away.

The first will tell you his truth, listen to your truth, evaluate, and decide if he needs to change anything in his understanding.

The second will refuse to listen, refuse to learn, and demand that you believe what they call truth.

Truth is truth. You should be able to question it, research it, throw it in the washer and dryer, and it still come out the same.

You disagreeing isn't pushing any agenda.
I know cf has rules about homosexuality (saying it isn't a sin, or not opposing it equates promoting it, for some reason. Abortion is another topic.)

Other than that, voicing your opinion is only that. Someone insecure with their opinion may feel threatened. And understand, really scary, mean-hearted people exist, just like the Pharisees.

If someone acts like a child, I refuse to respond.

Some people need a "where is that on Scripture?", sometimes to a fault. Let it be. Some are led by the Spirit. Allow them their opinion.

Recently, the Spirit has been weighing things on me to say here, but for me, it is less my opinion or agenda, and more of a message. Take it, leave it, not my business, but I'll give an example:
Recently, the Spirit tells me that if you believe and worship a God of vengence who can't wait to come to Earth and destroy your enemies and send them to hell, you are worshipping a false God, one of your own making. One should ask the HS to reveal the true nature of God to you.

And, I'm like, "seriously, HS? Some of these peeps gots fangs and claws." I don't want people to kill the messenger, and just like the mailman, I'm only responsible in delivering it, not for you to read it, pray about it, nothing.

But yeah, it can get hairy.

Introverted1293 said:

Thank you

I like bluntly honest people who are polite in disagreeing with me. I don't mind being told that I am wrong as long as that person doesn't treat me as though I am stupid.

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Thank YOU! Jesse, you are definitely not stupid!

I found the verses I was planning to post earlier:


Psalm 73 :23 Yet I am always with you; you hold me by my right hand. 24 You guide me with your counsel, and afterward you will take me into glory. 25 Whom have I in heaven but you? And earth has nothing I desire besides you. 26 My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.

God bless you!

Just say what you want to tell people, Jesse, and tell 'em that you are NEVER WRONG!

Say you have a SPECIAL LEADING FROM THE LORD to be infallible on messageboards!

Then you'll be like everybody...

Introverted1293 said:

For some reason, I am afraid to respond to other people's threads on here, even though I want to really bad. When someone makes a thread, and I disagree with them, I want to say I disagree. But then I feel like I am pushing my agenda on people against their will. But I am still afraid to even agree with people on here, for they probably don't care that I agree with them. It is the weirdest thing. What if I said, well I don't agree, and then they tell me, "well who cares what you think?" I have responded to other people's thread on here before, but then I just stopped because I felt that no one cared what I thought.

It's weird. Even in the prayer section, I want to let someone know that I am praying for them, but then I feel, they don't care if I pray for them. I contribute here by being a supporter, but I would like to offer an opinion, even if it is disagreeable with people. I am also afraid that if I disagree with people they are going to block me. When I disagree with people, I am respectful, but people can still get angry.

I have never wanted to force an opinion on people against their will. But I have no problem talking about racial issues and other issues starting my own threads. But I am for some reason am afraid to respond to other threads. I don't know what advice you can give me, or what encouragement you can give me. But anything will do.

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The purpose of public forums is to give and receive feedback, so it might be helpful for you to remind yourself that when you have anxiety about posting

Introverted1293 said:

For some reason, I am afraid to respond to other people's threads on here, even though I want to really bad. When someone makes a thread, and I disagree with them, I want to say I disagree. But then I feel like I am pushing my agenda on people against their will. But I am still afraid to even agree with people on here, for they probably don't care that I agree with them. It is the weirdest thing. What if I said, well I don't agree, and then they tell me, "well who cares what you think?" I have responded to other people's thread on here before, but then I just stopped because I felt that no one cared what I thought.

It's weird. Even in the prayer section, I want to let someone know that I am praying for them, but then I feel, they don't care if I pray for them. I contribute here by being a supporter, but I would like to offer an opinion, even if it is disagreeable with people. I am also afraid that if I disagree with people they are going to block me. When I disagree with people, I am respectful, but people can still get angry.

I have never wanted to force an opinion on people against their will. But I have no problem talking about racial issues and other issues starting my own threads. But I am for some reason am afraid to respond to other threads. I don't know what advice you can give me, or what encouragement you can give me. But anything will do.

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Discourse is important - it helps you to understand your own ideas with greater clarity, and you can help other people in the same way. Putting your opinions out there is just taking part in the conversation, not forcing them on someone.

Introverted1293 said:

For some reason, I am afraid to respond to other people's threads on here, even though I want to really bad. When someone makes a thread, and I disagree with them, I want to say I disagree. But then I feel like I am pushing my agenda on people against their will. But I am still afraid to even agree with people on here, for they probably don't care that I agree with them. It is the weirdest thing. What if I said, well I don't agree, and then they tell me, "well who cares what you think?" I have responded to other people's thread on here before, but then I just stopped because I felt that no one cared what I thought.

It's weird. Even in the prayer section, I want to let someone know that I am praying for them, but then I feel, they don't care if I pray for them. I contribute here by being a supporter, but I would like to offer an opinion, even if it is disagreeable with people. I am also afraid that if I disagree with people they are going to block me. When I disagree with people, I am respectful, but people can still get angry.

I have never wanted to force an opinion on people against their will. But I have no problem talking about racial issues and other issues starting my own threads. But I am for some reason am afraid to respond to other threads. I don't know what advice you can give me, or what encouragement you can give me. But anything will do.

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God’s Word Teaches us to be slow to speak, slow to wrath and quick to listen. Years ago I asked God to remove my tongue before I spoke out of turn or incorrectly. If you know absolutely that you have been born again and that Christ is leading you, that is when you should reply. Please pray on this as I must before making comments to posts. Your post seems genuine and I plan to pray for you.

Just go for it @Introverted1293 , and love by the spirit. Our flesh can send us doubts, it can and will even make us take into account what people may think about us, but just remember trust in God, and the spirit of Christ/holy spirit that resides in you.

We can try to seek to please men, however that is not always going to pan out in the long run, so seek to please God with your intentions by the spirit.

The flesh and the spirit fight against each other so we are not able to carry out our good intentions. However the Spirit that indwells us allows us to bring forth fruit of love: Joy, peace, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

Three things will last forever-- faith, hope, and love-- and the greatest of these are love.

Hope the best for you brother.

Scriptures used: Galatians 5:16-26, Galatians 1:10, 1 Corinthians 13:13

Introverted1293 said:

For some reason, I am afraid to respond to other people's threads on here, even though I want to really bad. When someone makes a thread, and I disagree with them, I want to say I disagree. But then I feel like I am pushing my agenda on people against their will. But I am still afraid to even agree with people on here, for they probably don't care that I agree with them. It is the weirdest thing. What if I said, well I don't agree, and then they tell me, "well who cares what you think?" I have responded to other people's thread on here before, but then I just stopped because I felt that no one cared what I thought.

It's weird. Even in the prayer section, I want to let someone know that I am praying for them, but then I feel, they don't care if I pray for them. I contribute here by being a supporter, but I would like to offer an opinion, even if it is disagreeable with people. I am also afraid that if I disagree with people they are going to block me. When I disagree with people, I am respectful, but people can still get angry.

I have never wanted to force an opinion on people against their will. But I have no problem talking about racial issues and other issues starting my own threads. But I am for some reason am afraid to respond to other threads. I don't know what advice you can give me, or what encouragement you can give me. But anything will do.

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My wife feels exactly the same way, she hasn't posted here on CF or visited here in years because of these exact same reasons. Plus, now that my wife became a Calvinist around the same time I did, she's afraid more and more people will judge her for being a Calvinist since being a Calvinist today is highly controversial due to our Theology.

Me? I'm not afraid I'll make a billion posts and try to reply to as many people and make as many threads as possible. I love discussing and debating theology with other Christians. But, even when my wife was posting here and visiting CF everyday she mostly just replied to other people's topics and some people apparently told her she was wrong for saying abortion was wrong and attacked her and she never posted here again.

I cannot offer you any advice since I've been trying to get my wife to post here on CF for years now (It's probably never going to happen) I've prayed for it for years but, I just wanted to let you know, you're not alone in all of this. There are people exactly like you that are afraid to post because of what other people will think and because they are afraid of other people's attacks and opinnions (But yet, she posted on the message board that we met on and she currently posts on a writers forum). I used to think that it was the devil ensnaring her into his grasp to never want to talk to other Christians. But, thanks to you I realize that isn't the case anymore. She just genuinely is afraid of the opinions and wrath of other Christians and other people. Only God can help her at God's own divine time. I guess, that's my advice to you. Not exactly great advice but, yeah.

Introverted1293 said:

For some reason, I am afraid to respond to other people's threads on here, even though I want to really bad. When someone makes a thread, and I disagree with them, I want to say I disagree. But then I feel like I am pushing my agenda on people against their will. But I am still afraid to even agree with people on here, for they probably don't care that I agree with them. It is the weirdest thing. What if I said, well I don't agree, and then they tell me, "well who cares what you think?" I have responded to other people's thread on here before, but then I just stopped because I felt that no one cared what I thought.

It's weird. Even in the prayer section, I want to let someone know that I am praying for them, but then I feel, they don't care if I pray for them. I contribute here by being a supporter, but I would like to offer an opinion, even if it is disagreeable with people. I am also afraid that if I disagree with people they are going to block me. When I disagree with people, I am respectful, but people can still get angry.

I have never wanted to force an opinion on people against their will. But I have no problem talking about racial issues and other issues starting my own threads. But I am for some reason am afraid to respond to other threads. I don't know what advice you can give me, or what encouragement you can give me. But anything will do.

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People put threads up for responses and discussion, and most thread creators are thrilled when their threads are worthy enough to garner responses, whether positive or negative.

Negative responses get discussions going, and that is the entire point of a discussion forum; to discuss with others.

Maybe you just want to make a simple point and let argumentation aside, or you may wish to debate your points to the end, either way doesn't matter, but any reply, positive or negative, is seen as a net positive on a discussion board.

So fear not, and offer up your point of view whenever you like.

To the OP's concerns I'd suggest you just do what you feel like doing. If you have a passion for some type of threads you've got it if not don't worry about it or think you need to change.