is kissing and cuddling a sin

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Hello guys, just recently, i felt very guilty for kissing and cuddling a lady im not married to yet. it was our first kiss. We like each other and plan to start a relationship and hopefully get married.
Although I felt guilty and asked God for forgiveness, I constantly get flash back of the moment and want to do it again...its sooo hard right now to get her out of my mind and control my feelings..
is the bible against this?
 

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I pray that you will be able to expedite your wedding so this will be a moot point. I kind of think you are near the edge of the fence, but if you are serious about the girl etc. I pray you can have the means to marry her and do. Problem solved.
 
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Be careful! This is touchy territory (pardon the pun) that can lead to serious physical stuff. It can lead you into sin if you are not prepared to be married. So be careful. Perhaps you should get married soon or separate yourselves physically as to not give into Lust?
Good Luck and God Bless
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Hello guys, just recently, i felt very guilty for kissing and cuddling a lady im not married to yet. it was our first kiss. We like each other and plan to start a relationship and hopefully get married.
Although I felt guilty and asked God for forgiveness, I constantly get flash back of the moment and want to do it again...its sooo hard right now to get her out of my mind and control my feelings..
is the bible against this?
The feelings you have, God allowed you to have. If you want to be happy, dont look for condemnation in everything you do. No, everything does not always lead to Sin. And No, it is not hard to please God.

"Hast thou faith? have it to thyself before God. Happy is he that condemneth not himself in that thing which he alloweth."
 
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Be careful! This is touchy territory (pardon the pun) that can lead to serious physical stuff. It can lead you into sin if you are not prepared to be married. So be careful. Perhaps you should get married soon or separate yourselves physically as to not give into Lust?
Good Luck and God Bless
Ronit
I agree, it can lead me to sin but is the act of kissing and cuddling sin? (if it doesn't lead to sex)
 
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The feelings you have, God allowed you to have. If you want to be happy, dont look for condemnation in everything you do. No, everything does not always lead to Sin. And No, it is not hard to please God.

"Hast thou faith? have it to thyself before God. Happy is he that condemneth not himself in that thing which he alloweth."
You are right.. I'm often not happy because I set high standards for myself and feel guilty at almost the slightest thing.. It makes me loose confidence to pray
 
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You are right.. I'm often not happy because I set high standards for myself and feel guilty at almost the slightest thing.. It makes me loose confidence to pray

It is easier to please God than it is to please man......even ourselves. Man places standards and heights that you have to reach to be holy and desire to stone you when you fall short. God, when he sees you fall, picks you up and says go and sin no more:

"10 When Jesus had lifted up himself, and saw none but the woman, he said unto her, Woman, where are those thine accusers? hath no man condemned thee?
11 She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more."

Sometimes we do wrong and tell God we are not worthy to be heard, so we wont bother to pray. God obliges, and waits patiently for us to change our minds. Then we start to reason with ourselves....

"How many hired servants of my father's have bread enough and to spare, and I perish with hunger!"

We make our plans to go crawling back to the Father who should be just as upset with us as man is and as we are with ourselves:

"18 I will arise and go to my father, and will say unto him, Father, I have sinned against heaven, and before thee,
19 And am no more worthy to be called thy son: make me as one of thy hired servants."

Just to find that the Good father had only been waiting for us to come back to him to again raise us to the status we had before falling....

"the father said to his servants, Bring forth the best robe, and put it on him; and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on his feet:
23 And bring hither the fatted calf, and kill it; and let us eat, and be merry:
24 For this my son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost, and is found. And they began to be merry."

We serve a Good, Good Father.
 
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It is easier to please God than it is to please man......even ourselves. Man places standards and heights that you have to reach to be holy and desire to stone you when you fall short. God, when he sees you fall, picks you up and says go and sin no more:

"10 When Jesus had lifted up himself, and saw none but the woman, he said unto her, Woman, where are those thine accusers? hath no man condemned thee?
11 She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more."

Sometimes we do wrong and tell God we are not worthy to be heard, so we wont bother to pray. God obliges, and waits patiently for us to change our minds. Then we start to reason with ourselves....

"How many hired servants of my father's have bread enough and to spare, and I perish with hunger!"

We make our plans to go crawling back to the Father who should be just as upset with us as man is and as we are with ourselves:

"18 I will arise and go to my father, and will say unto him, Father, I have sinned against heaven, and before thee,
19 And am no more worthy to be called thy son: make me as one of thy hired servants."

Just to find that the Good father had only been waiting for us to come back to him to again raise us to the status we had before falling....

"the father said to his servants, Bring forth the best robe, and put it on him; and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on his feet:
23 And bring hither the fatted calf, and kill it; and let us eat, and be merry:
24 For this my son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost, and is found. And they began to be merry."

We serve a Good, Good Father.
i like this!
does it mean I can go ahead kissing and cuddling without feeling guilty?
 
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i like this!
does it mean I can go ahead kissing and cuddling without feeling guilty?
Do that which you do not condemn and renders you guiltless.

"And he that doubteth is damned if he eat, because he eateth not of faith: for whatsoever is not of faith is sin."
 
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Do that which you do not condemn and renders you guiltless.

"And he that doubteth is damned if he eat, because he eateth not of faith: for whatsoever is not of faith is sin."
I'm confused..someone might not condemn themselves for this same act and it doesn't become sin for them.Another will condemn themselves and it becomes sin?
 
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I'm confused..someone might not condemn themselves for this same act and it doesn't become sin for them.Another will condemn themselves and it becomes sin?
That is exactly what the bible teaches. You do not seem to be confused at all.

Romans 14
" I know, and am persuaded by the Lord Jesus, that there is nothing unclean of itself: but to him that esteemeth any thing to be unclean, to him it is unclean."

"For meat destroy not the work of God. All things indeed are pure; but it is evil for that man who eateth with offence."

"22 Hast thou faith? have it to thyself before God. Happy is he that condemneth not himself in that thing which he alloweth.

23 And he that doubteth is damned if he eat, because he eateth not of faith: for whatsoever is not of faith is sin."
 
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That is exactly what the bible teaches. You do not seem to be confused at all.

Romans 14
" I know, and am persuaded by the Lord Jesus, that there is nothing unclean of itself: but to him that esteemeth any thing to be unclean, to him it is unclean."

"For meat destroy not the work of God. All things indeed are pure; but it is evil for that man who eateth with offence."

"22 Hast thou faith? have it to thyself before God. Happy is he that condemneth not himself in that thing which he alloweth.

23 And he that doubteth is damned if he eat, because he eateth not of faith: for whatsoever is not of faith is sin."
You saying sin is subjective.
. Well that won't be fair
 
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No I don't think so. But just remember to temper the flames :)
I mean keep it as cool as possible for both of your sakes. Love is a gift and it's shouldn't be thrown out like yesterdays leftovers, know what I mean?
All the Best to you and yours.
Ronit :)
 
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Hello guys, just recently, i felt very guilty for kissing and cuddling a lady im not married to yet. it was our first kiss. We like each other and plan to start a relationship and hopefully get married.
Although I felt guilty and asked God for forgiveness, I constantly get flash back of the moment and want to do it again...its sooo hard right now to get her out of my mind and control my feelings..
is the bible against this?

I'm a little puzzled by what you said. "We plan to start a relationship and hopefully get married". You aren't even in a relationship yet, how on earth do you know you want to get married?
 
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I'm a little puzzled by what you said. "We plan to start a relationship and hopefully get married". You aren't even in a relationship yet, how on earth do you know you want to get married?
Yeah we have atttration for each other..
 
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I'm a little puzzled by what you said. "We plan to start a relationship and hopefully get married". You aren't even in a relationship yet, how on earth do you know you want to get married?
Let's just say we have atttracttion for each other
 
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Ya, I say take it slow.

As for is kissing and cuddling a sin .. well, its not listed in the Bible as a sin. I agree with Raymond, what ever you do you have to do in faith because what ever isn't not of faith is sin. Secondly, love is the only way to fulfill the law. So I'd say you are in this situation to learn more about love and faith. But don't let people make up rules about what sin is when God didn't make something a sin.
 
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