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My husband and I have been going to this church for some 12 years. Honestly I haven’t felt like it’s my home for most of that time. I go only because my husband goes, and I want to be with him. He is change-resistant due to social anxiety and doesn’t like to get used to new people.
Lately I’m thinking that isn’t a good enough reason to stay. Church is for worshipping Jesus Christ, and my husband cannot be more important to me than He is.
One major concern is that we are among the younger members, and we’re in our 50’s. To the rest of the congregation (which was small even before the virus) we are absolute kids, and some of them talk down to us accordingly. Too many of them have a penchant for making hurtful, mean-spirited remarks and passing them off as “jokes.” There is a lot of political discussion that goes on, and they say the nastiest things about politicians they disagree with. And call that having a Christian attitude.
Over the years I’ve watched the most wonderful people move out of state, change churches themselves, or pass away. This is what is left. Young people occasionally trickle in but they don’t stay. There are no children or youth. Hubby agrees with me that the church is dying but says he doesn’t want to hasten its demise by leaving.
Pastor does preach sound doctrine from the pulpit. That’s the only thing the church has going for it. However he does frequently cite urban legends to back up his points, believing they are true stories. That might leave people thinking he doesn’t know what he’s talking about, and aren’t these Christians gullible?
Plus he comes off rushed and distracted when we need him as a pastor. I would talk about the most recent thing, what happened after my husband’s cousin passed away over the weekend, but this post is getting too long. In a nutshell, too distracted by procedure and logistics, and not one “sorry for your loss” from pastor, deacon, or congregation.
So that’s where things are. Again, how do you know when it’s time to leave a church?
Lately I’m thinking that isn’t a good enough reason to stay. Church is for worshipping Jesus Christ, and my husband cannot be more important to me than He is.
One major concern is that we are among the younger members, and we’re in our 50’s. To the rest of the congregation (which was small even before the virus) we are absolute kids, and some of them talk down to us accordingly. Too many of them have a penchant for making hurtful, mean-spirited remarks and passing them off as “jokes.” There is a lot of political discussion that goes on, and they say the nastiest things about politicians they disagree with. And call that having a Christian attitude.
Over the years I’ve watched the most wonderful people move out of state, change churches themselves, or pass away. This is what is left. Young people occasionally trickle in but they don’t stay. There are no children or youth. Hubby agrees with me that the church is dying but says he doesn’t want to hasten its demise by leaving.
Pastor does preach sound doctrine from the pulpit. That’s the only thing the church has going for it. However he does frequently cite urban legends to back up his points, believing they are true stories. That might leave people thinking he doesn’t know what he’s talking about, and aren’t these Christians gullible?
Plus he comes off rushed and distracted when we need him as a pastor. I would talk about the most recent thing, what happened after my husband’s cousin passed away over the weekend, but this post is getting too long. In a nutshell, too distracted by procedure and logistics, and not one “sorry for your loss” from pastor, deacon, or congregation.
So that’s where things are. Again, how do you know when it’s time to leave a church?