- Mar 20, 2020
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Dear friends, members of and visitors to Christianforums.com,
I'm a high-functioning autistic guy who would like to strike up a friendship with a lady with a view to deeper things, but how do I go about it? Here's the situation:
I've been volunteering a couple of times now to hand food out to hungry people. It's been a huge amount of fun and I'd love to do it again if I'm able to, because I'm just about to start a paying job – praise God for a paying job! I love interacting with people and making friends and plan to have a second wife and child one day. I'll be 45 years old in September 2020.
However, something has come up and I need some advice, please. The last and second time I volunteered, I met this (Mexican?) girl Melissa and thought she was kinda cute. “Hmm, I wonder if we could be friends?” I thought to myself. I'm still a brand-new “Green Card” immigrant to America so my Mom is my transport at the moment, so I was chatting her up while my Mom was coming to pick me up; just ordinary “platonic friend conversation”. We seemed to get along. I was lamenting to her that volunteer opportunities with organization X (I want to protect their identity) were either too early in the morning (remember Mom has to lift me), or too far from home. But I got so excited when Melissa said there was a food handout happening this coming Wednesday a stone's throw away from home! So I definitely want to go.
I thought it was incredible when Melissa entrusted her mobile number to me. I think she was the one who volunteered it when I needed to call her for further details on Wednesday's opportunity. She's now in my iPhone contacts, but I haven't dialled her number yet. I want to check with you guys first. I don't yet know if she's a Christian or if she's too young for me, but I just want to see where this goes. I don't want to get overbearing and only use her mobile number to ask her out on dates. Then she'll regret giving me her number. I don't want that to happen. What do you guys think?
When I get my first pay check, probably at the end of August, I was thinking of taking her out, just as a platonic friend, to an outdoor dining restaurant with misters, and practice masks and social distancing. In my opinion, because of COVID-19 it's next to impossible to go from a basic friendship to marriage with somebody using a computer, a webcam and microphone. To befriend people, you have to actually put your mask on and meet them face-to-face. Meeting Melissa while volunteering was a very rare opportunity to make this possible, so that's why I have my eye on Melissa. Lizette was another volunteer that I was watching out of the corner of my eye.
Thanks for the advice and God Bless! Roy.
I'm a high-functioning autistic guy who would like to strike up a friendship with a lady with a view to deeper things, but how do I go about it? Here's the situation:
I've been volunteering a couple of times now to hand food out to hungry people. It's been a huge amount of fun and I'd love to do it again if I'm able to, because I'm just about to start a paying job – praise God for a paying job! I love interacting with people and making friends and plan to have a second wife and child one day. I'll be 45 years old in September 2020.
However, something has come up and I need some advice, please. The last and second time I volunteered, I met this (Mexican?) girl Melissa and thought she was kinda cute. “Hmm, I wonder if we could be friends?” I thought to myself. I'm still a brand-new “Green Card” immigrant to America so my Mom is my transport at the moment, so I was chatting her up while my Mom was coming to pick me up; just ordinary “platonic friend conversation”. We seemed to get along. I was lamenting to her that volunteer opportunities with organization X (I want to protect their identity) were either too early in the morning (remember Mom has to lift me), or too far from home. But I got so excited when Melissa said there was a food handout happening this coming Wednesday a stone's throw away from home! So I definitely want to go.
I thought it was incredible when Melissa entrusted her mobile number to me. I think she was the one who volunteered it when I needed to call her for further details on Wednesday's opportunity. She's now in my iPhone contacts, but I haven't dialled her number yet. I want to check with you guys first. I don't yet know if she's a Christian or if she's too young for me, but I just want to see where this goes. I don't want to get overbearing and only use her mobile number to ask her out on dates. Then she'll regret giving me her number. I don't want that to happen. What do you guys think?
When I get my first pay check, probably at the end of August, I was thinking of taking her out, just as a platonic friend, to an outdoor dining restaurant with misters, and practice masks and social distancing. In my opinion, because of COVID-19 it's next to impossible to go from a basic friendship to marriage with somebody using a computer, a webcam and microphone. To befriend people, you have to actually put your mask on and meet them face-to-face. Meeting Melissa while volunteering was a very rare opportunity to make this possible, so that's why I have my eye on Melissa. Lizette was another volunteer that I was watching out of the corner of my eye.
Thanks for the advice and God Bless! Roy.
