Kissing before marriage?

If it's got to the point where you're spiritually aligned (I'm not talking about silly dating games and nonsense millennial guff), then you sort of NEED to begin getting closer. You need to hold each other, engage in STRONG eye contact, kiss in delicate places (neck and collarbone) and listen to the sounds of each others breathing.

Why? Because it's the small things that go on to make the big difference. Sex actually isn't important at all in the early days. It's probably best to wait for marriage if only to let the tension build. (This goes for NON Christians too!)

If anyone reading is tempted to jump into bed with someone just to 'cut loose' - don't, it's not worth it. Not in the long run. I don't say that to sound judgemental, I really am saying that it's REALLY not worth it. It's not as good as you're expecting it to be.

SeekingGloryOnThisJourney said:

Are you suggesting it’s sexual?

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Kissing works the "lust" muscle. Well I should have said, it can work it.

Is kissing sexual? Not all the time, but there are times when it can be so memorable on it's own.

SeekingGloryOnThisJourney said:

A lot of dating couples I know have no problem doing it.
And I can see there is no sexual tension.
But still, what would God want? The Bible is kind of unclear on this.
I’ve always thought it’s okay unless you make it a sin. (Bad intentions, same as making an image and idol, a friend an enemy, etc...)

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I don't think God has an issue with it, short of the stuff you mentioned. After all, Songs of Solomon is in the Bible, and its pretty conclusive the young lovers in it aren't married.

That being said, local cultures / faith community / tradition forms a lens as to how we read the scriptures. Some faith communities are hyper sexualized to the point that even if God is ok with it in the scriptures, it might be really upsetting to them. Discernment is key in this.

This question is best left between God and the couple dating.

Just like I can have an alcoholic drink and it would not be a big deal Another person may take that very same drink and spiral out of control.

IF one feels they should not kiss while dating, they should be convinced in their own mind and remain true to that. It is far better they not violate their conscience than to go to man to justify the violation of their conscience.

Do I personally believe there is anything wrong or sinful with kissing.... for me personally, I would say no. IF I walked with the Lord every day before I met my wife, maybe I would have felt differently, but I never felt it a violation of conscience to kiss before marriage, that doesnt mean the same applies to everyone

Worry about obeying the charge that is placed before you, not looking to men to tell you that you are right or wrong to abstain.

If the world calls you "weird" just remember that we are to be set apart from the world, to follow the one whose ways are not like the worlds ways..... so there will be times that even "our own" will call us such things. Jesus was called beelzebub.

What matters is that you remain obedient to the command given to you. The Holy Spirit will not tell you to avoid things that are good for you, but will advise you against that which will harm you.

IF you ask "is this okay" then I would have to say, probably not for you. Not because "kissing is of the devil" but because something in you prompted you to ask... meaning something in your conscience is bothered, but your flesh would like to recieve the green light to do so by justification from men.

We can not tell you what to do, but its always advisable to listen to the voice of God, not the voice of men.

SeekingGloryOnThisJourney said:

A lot of dating couples I know have no problem doing it.
And I can see there is no sexual tension.
But still, what would God want? The Bible is kind of unclear on this.
I’ve always thought it’s okay unless you make it a sin. (Bad intentions, same as making an image and idol, a friend an enemy, etc...)

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Kissing fellow believers is encouraged in the Bible. See Rom 16:16, 1 Cor 16.20; 2 Cor 13.12; 1 Thess 5.26; 1 Pet 5.14

It cannot be a sin to do so in and of itself. You just need to do so in moderation and without lusting.

Kissing itself isn't a sin. However it ramps up the urge to want to have sex or commit sexual acts. If you feel you are unsure of what may happen, then avoid it. Better to say you married without accidentally having sex than to say you had sex before marriage. Trust me, I know first hand.