I was fine being single until this virus arrived

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I work in the trade show and live entertainment industry. I am always traveling, exploring and engaging with friends who happen to be coworkers for concerts, shows etc. When I lost all of my work starting on March 10th, it has been devastating in areas I didn't think about before. I was always busy (10-15 hour work days), home to sleep with the occasional day off but that was it. Being home 24/7 these days has been rough and different. The lockdown made everything worse. I live in Florida so we were a bit more lax on our guidelines. I got out at least once a day just to see a face, talk (even if it was at a drive thru). I was fine being alone and accepted it due to my health situation among other things but it's gotten rough. Months now of being home. I work from home now that attorneys have gotten used to using zoom for depositions. I record them and make really good money and I don't even leave my house. This is a problem for me... Being introverted, I like it time to time but every day has taken its toll.

Has anyone else had a dramatic change in how they feel about their relationship status due to this situation we are in?
 
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I work in the trade show and live entertainment industry. I am always traveling, exploring and engaging with friends who happen to be coworkers for concerts, shows etc. When I lost all of my work starting on March 10th, it has been devastating in areas I didn't think about before. I was always busy (10-15 hour work days), home to sleep with the occasional day off but that was it. Being home 24/7 these days has been rough and different. The lockdown made everything worse. I live in Florida so we were a bit more lax on our guidelines. I got out at least once a day just to see a face, talk (even if it was at a drive thru). I was fine being alone and accepted it due to my health situation among other things but it's gotten rough. Months now of being home. I work from home now that attorneys have gotten used to using zoom for depositions. I record them and make really good money and I don't even leave my house. This is a problem for me... Being introverted, I like it time to time but every day has taken its toll.

Has anyone else had a dramatic change in how they feel about their relationship status due to this situation we are in?

I'm pretty much a "home body" ... but ... I have experienced frustration of not being able to get things done in a timely manner due to COVID-19 and some of the things that are limited or no longer "allowed" to do. I'm hopeful it will get back to "normal" ... whatever that is these days LOL
 
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I work in the trade show and live entertainment industry.

SR, that sounds like fun! It must be exciting to see familiar faces and meet new people. I love going to conferences and events. :)

Has anyone else had a dramatic change in how they feel about their relationship status due to this situation we are in?

My partner had a hard time with the isolation. He counted the days and it took a toll. He's accustomed to a lot of people contact. Whereas mine is at a distance. It was business as usual for me.

I don't know if it was a factor of us coming together alone. Add in the riots and his concern for my safety and a pandemic and feelings. You get the picture. I was comfortable being single and planned to remain that way until I went away to school.

But I think I need to be settled. So much is happening. I sense this is the time to wrap things up. If I was unattached I'd have the same mindset.

~Bella
 
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I work in the trade show and live entertainment industry. I am always traveling, exploring and engaging with friends who happen to be coworkers for concerts, shows etc. When I lost all of my work starting on March 10th, it has been devastating in areas I didn't think about before. I was always busy (10-15 hour work days), home to sleep with the occasional day off but that was it. Being home 24/7 these days has been rough and different. The lockdown made everything worse. I live in Florida so we were a bit more lax on our guidelines. I got out at least once a day just to see a face, talk (even if it was at a drive thru). I was fine being alone and accepted it due to my health situation among other things but it's gotten rough. Months now of being home. I work from home now that attorneys have gotten used to using zoom for depositions. I record them and make really good money and I don't even leave my house. This is a problem for me... Being introverted, I like it time to time but every day has taken its toll.

Has anyone else had a dramatic change in how they feel about their relationship status due to this situation we are in?
It's been an inconvenience for me, but not much else. I went through a debilitating health issue that the Medical profession said was incurable. I told the Lord I could not handle it. He said to just take oen day at a time. I quit looking at a lifetime problem and just got through the day. I did what Paul said and forgot what had happened that day. All I had to endure was one day. That I could handle. After 6 months or so, the specialist told me there was a fix after all. I've been fine for 4 years. It was a great lesson to learn.
 
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SR, that sounds like fun! It must be exciting to see familiar faces and meet new people. I love going to conferences and events. :)



My partner had a hard time with the isolation. He counted the days and it took a toll. He's accustomed to a lot of people contact. Whereas mine is at a distance. It was business as usual for me.

I don't know if it was a factor of us coming together alone. Add in the riots and his concern for my safety and a pandemic and feelings. You get the picture. I was comfortable being single and planned to remain that way until I went away to school.

But I think I need to be settled. So much is happening. I sense this is the time to wrap things up. If I was unattached I'd have the same mindset.

~Bella

This may sound way out there, not sure how serious both your relationships are, I was wondering since this Covid situation would last a good long while...would this situation drive you to get married to one another just so you could be together. (Yes, I know far fetched, but I've been seeing experiences like this happen...that couples that are currently dating can't stand being apart, some are just moving in together as opposed to marriage) I see this occurring. A UK article said something about finding a "cuddle buddy" with a friend of the opposite sex just to subside the loneliness.

Yeah, I know, sounds crazy... I work as an essential worker, and it's tempting to make a move on a single co-worker at this point since they are the only one's that I'm around. Regardless of the whole "Don't poop where you eat" lol

I'm hearing about how single people are contacting their ex's out of the blue for the sake of being lonely. Getting back together, etc.

Here in Florida, I know of an older retired woman that met a man on Match...and their relationship was rather casual as he lived far away. Casual in a sense that it was more platonic than romantic. She was actually looking for a travel partner (That is a man?)

Then the COVID happened, and they moved in together as a result...and they are with each other 24/7. He lives in apartement an hour away, SHE lives in a lakefront house. I guess he has it made.
 
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I'm single by choice and I am so glad I'm not doing the Covid-19 situation with anyone. I couldn't take another person being in my space. I am actually very content. Although I have debated with myself as to whether or not I should get a "paid" streaming service but that's about it lol...

This may sound way out there, not sure how serious both your relationships are, I was wondering since this Covid situation would last a good long while...would this situation drive you to get married to one another just so you could be together. (Yes, I know far fetched, but I've been seeing experiences like this happen...that couples that are currently dating can't stand being apart, some are just moving in together as opposed to marriage) I see this occurring. A UK article said something about finding a "cuddle buddy" with a friend of the opposite sex just to subside the loneliness.

Yeah, I know, sounds crazy... I work as an essential worker, and it's tempting to make a move on a single co-worker at this point since they are the only one's that I'm around. Regardless of the whole "Don't poop where you eat" lol

I'm hearing about how single people are contacting their ex's out of the blue for the sake of being lonely. Getting back together, etc.

Here in Florida, I know of an older retired woman that met a man on Match...and their relationship was rather casual as he lived far away. Casual in a sense that it was more platonic than romantic. She was actually looking for a travel partner (That is a man?)

Then the COVID happened, and they moved in together as a result...and they are with each other 24/7. He lives in apartement an hour away, SHE lives in a lakefront house. I guess he has it made.

What you described sounds very sad to me. I feel like there are people who don't want to be alone because they don't want to deal with themselves and their "inner stuff" as well as the real state of their relationships. Sometimes people are lonely because they don't have authentic relationships because they themselves haven't been authentic. Some relationships need to be healed and/or strengthened. I know that God gave me a beautiful relationship blessing, that I'm not so sure would have happened if it weren't for the pandemic.

Being busy can be a form of avoidance. I think some are finding out a lot of things, be it good or not so good. It also makes me think about the uptick in domestic violence. People need to be careful. People just grabbing on to people wreaks of desperation to me and there is no shortage when it comes to predators. Whatever happened to the art of conversation? Why are some in such a hurry? I mean where is anybody really going in the middle of a pandemic?
 
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This may sound way out there, not sure how serious both your relationships are, I was wondering since this Covid situation would last a good long while...would this situation drive you to get married to one another just so you could be together.

No. We dated in the past and marriage was on the table then. I've known him for several years.

(Yes, I know far fetched, but I've been seeing experiences like this happen...that couples that are currently dating can't stand being apart, some are just moving in together as opposed to marriage) I see this occurring. A UK article said something about finding a "cuddle buddy" with a friend of the opposite sex just to subside the loneliness.

We don't reside in the same place. Distance is a factor Covid or not.

Here in Florida, I know of an older retired woman that met a man on Match...and their relationship was rather casual as he lived far away. Casual in a sense that it was more platonic than romantic. She was actually looking for a travel partner (That is a man?)

Men can be great travel companions. I wouldn't choose a stranger. But he'd be my go-to if we weren't dating. We get along well and have similar interests. Exploring the world together would be fun.

Then the COVID happened, and they moved in together as a result...and they are with each other 24/7. He lives in apartement an hour away, SHE lives in a lakefront house. I guess he has it made.

I've contemplated going east until I head to school. It isn't off the table. That would bridge the gap. But I want to live there anyway and we need a bigger place.

I wouldn't make life altering decisions with someone I met a few months ago. Or establish a relationship due to a crisis. People respond differently to pressure and it could add more strain to the connection than you'd have otherwise.

~Bella
 
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Well, this covid thing hasn't given me a desire to live with someone. Tho a GF thought I might reconsider that and move in with her. But she is in Canada and the hard part is we can't even visit each other any more.
But I have been playing with the dating app on FB more since Covid.
 
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it hasn't made me want to be with anyone from a living stand point. It's more losing a lot of my contacts and not having that face to face relationship that I had before all of this...
 
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it may be hard being single but it's harder IMHO to NOT be single during corona, especially if you get the virus and have to self-isolate in your home. heck, if you're single, self-isolation in your home is a redundancy.
 
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Ya, I am alone in my home and once I'm home I don't have to worry about the virus. The includes the outside lawn as well. Today as I was walking around the sidewalk on two sides of my home a couple walked down the sidewalk and so I stepped on the my lawn .. that's the most I have to worry about.
 
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I work in the trade show and live entertainment industry. I am always traveling, exploring and engaging with friends who happen to be coworkers for concerts, shows etc. When I lost all of my work starting on March 10th, it has been devastating in areas I didn't think about before. I was always busy (10-15 hour work days), home to sleep with the occasional day off but that was it. Being home 24/7 these days has been rough and different. The lockdown made everything worse. I live in Florida so we were a bit more lax on our guidelines. I got out at least once a day just to see a face, talk (even if it was at a drive thru). I was fine being alone and accepted it due to my health situation among other things but it's gotten rough. Months now of being home. I work from home now that attorneys have gotten used to using zoom for depositions. I record them and make really good money and I don't even leave my house. This is a problem for me... Being introverted, I like it time to time but every day has taken its toll.

Has anyone else had a dramatic change in how they feel about their relationship status due to this situation we are in?
There is a saying,"When life gives you lemons,make lemonade." Well,traveling,especially cruising, is my lemonade.So,instead of feeling sorry for myself,I have kept myself busy by dancing three times a week,performing in my church's Drama Ministry,going to sporting events,and working out at the gym.
Now,due to the Staying in Place Order,I cannot do any of these things. I live in Alameda County in Califonia. In Alameda County,we can have church services only if the church's capacity is 100 or less members.
Well,my church's auditorium holds 1,500 people. Therefore,it will be a long time before we can all meet together again. Now,(July 3,2020) our Governor said that due to the fact that singing causes one to spew out more droplets, that singing is prohibited in places of worship,even if we are wearing a mask. I do wear a mask every time I go outside of my home.
I am now in the high risk group. In,March,I turned 66 years of age.I am a Black male, have blood group "A",have diabetes,and have hypertension.

Therefore,I cannot cruise, travel, go to ball games, dance(because of social distancing),go to the gym, act, and date.
In other words, this GD virus is staring to get on my F......ing nerve!!!
 
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I work in the trade show and live entertainment industry. I am always traveling, exploring and engaging with friends who happen to be coworkers for concerts, shows etc. When I lost all of my work starting on March 10th, it has been devastating in areas I didn't think about before. I was always busy (10-15 hour work days), home to sleep with the occasional day off but that was it. Being home 24/7 these days has been rough and different. The lockdown made everything worse. I live in Florida so we were a bit more lax on our guidelines. I got out at least once a day just to see a face, talk (even if it was at a drive thru). I was fine being alone and accepted it due to my health situation among other things but it's gotten rough. Months now of being home. I work from home now that attorneys have gotten used to using zoom for depositions. I record them and make really good money and I don't even leave my house. This is a problem for me... Being introverted, I like it time to time but every day has taken its toll.

Has anyone else had a dramatic change in how they feel about their relationship status due to this situation we are in?
That tendency happens when I am using other things (work, busyness, spending, etc) to replace God in my heart. When those things are taken away, like with shelter in place, we want to find another thing to fill the hole other than God...e.g. a relationship. When I recognize this, I repent and turn to Christ. I have to do this often.
 
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it hasn't made me want to be with anyone from a living stand point. It's more losing a lot of my contacts and not having that face to face relationship that I had before all of this...
Can't you see how terrible this is?
God Help us
 
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I'm not sure what to make of your comment... Is it sarcasm? Yes, I can see how terrible this is....
Oh no sir I am not being sarcastic. I too am lonely and slightly fearful of the future. Sometimes I don't even want to think about any of it. But I guess when something is staring you in the face, you have to face it head on.
Be Well
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Oh no sir I am not being sarcastic. I too am lonely and slightly fearful of the future. Sometimes I don't even want to think about any of it. But I guess when something is staring you in the face, you have to face it head on.
Be Well
Ronit

gotchya. It's hard to tell on the internet these days.

I try not to look too far ahead for that very reason.
 
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The pandemic hasn't changed how I feel about being single. There are pros and cons. Even before the pandemic, I didn't meet many single women, as there simply aren't many in my social circles. Although I'd like to find someone compatible, I'd still rather be single than in a relationship just to be in a relationship.
 
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I work in the trade show and live entertainment industry. I am always traveling, exploring and engaging with friends who happen to be coworkers for concerts, shows etc. When I lost all of my work starting on March 10th, it has been devastating in areas I didn't think about before. I was always busy (10-15 hour work days), home to sleep with the occasional day off but that was it. Being home 24/7 these days has been rough and different. The lockdown made everything worse. I live in Florida so we were a bit more lax on our guidelines. I got out at least once a day just to see a face, talk (even if it was at a drive thru). I was fine being alone and accepted it due to my health situation among other things but it's gotten rough. Months now of being home. I work from home now that attorneys have gotten used to using zoom for depositions. I record them and make really good money and I don't even leave my house. This is a problem for me... Being introverted, I like it time to time but every day has taken its toll.

Has anyone else had a dramatic change in how they feel about their relationship status due to this situation we are in?
I didn't experience that because I was intentional about reaching out to friends during the pandemic. Doing team chats, Zoom or other creative things like outdoor meetings. Even with my workplace. But I did read about that more people will be looking for long-term relationships with online dating more so now than they did in the past. During the pandemic I guess a lot of folks didn't find much meaning in those short-term hookups. We'll see how long that happens. One well-known site that was known for hookups I have been seeing more Christian profiles now. I'm curious to see if this trend will grow.
 
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