hi, am deconstructing from toxic religion , looking to find some "nonreligious" christians on here

WrappedUpinHisLove3 said:

My mum married an abusive man. think Dave Pelzer;s mother kind of thing. and she was not allowed to leave him because the church forbids leaving due to mental or physical abuse. i wont marry because if the guy turns abusive acording to Jesus i can never leave. this is wht makes me feel that giving up on God for ever. that an dthe constant guilt and torment of my thoughts for never being holy enough

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pescador said:

And the difference between posted disagreement and debate is what?

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Post 46 for starters. Anyway, its moot. Back to the OP.

~Bella

So again, I think the op has been an unfortunate witness and victim of a perverted ‘type’ of Christianity. Please do not let that turn you away from the genuine thing.

WrappedUpinHisLove3 said:

My mum married an abusive man. think Dave Pelzer;s mother kind of thing. and she was not allowed to leave him because the church forbids leaving due to mental or physical abuse. i wont marry because if the guy turns abusive acording to Jesus i can never leave. this is wht makes me feel that giving up on God for ever. that an dthe constant guilt and torment of my thoughts for never being holy enough

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I wish I could sit down with you and convince you otherwise! My father was abusive toward my mother, my brother, and myself. I never in my entire life believed that any kind of abuse is wrong, and when I left my "family of origin" I learned that my father and people like him were evil.

No woman (or man) needs to suffer any abuse regardless of what a misguided church or person teaches.

You are loved by God and that should be the model for every relationship.

In Genesis Adam said, “This one at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; this one will be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” There was no disconnect or separation. This was followed by his saying, "That is why a man leaves his father and mother and unites with his wife, and they become one family."

That is the proper feeling that a man should have for a woman, especially his wife. Any criticism or judgement of someone because of their gender is contrary to God's will.

I have been married for 51 years to the most wonderful person I have ever known. We still actively love each other each day for more than a half-century. It can happy to you too!

Do not let fear and/or hatred live in your heart. You seem to be a wonderful person; rely on the Holy Spirit to guide you. Galatians 5:22-23 says, "... the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control." That is what God wants for you!

I've been ministering to the OP throughout the day and encouraging her. God knows our hearts. He's the judge. Not man.

~Bella

LaBèlla said:

I've been ministering to the OP throughout the day and encouraging her. God knows our hearts. He's the judge. Not man.

~Bella

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Amen.

LaBèlla said:

I've been ministering to the OP throughout the day and encouraging her. God knows our hearts. He's the judge. Not man.

~Bella

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Why's it got to be a man? Are you saying that all men like to judge. It's not all men you know.