The Church has had to take a softer stance [as I have noticed] to try to make it look "more Christian". I live in a town, which is probably 40% Mormon and people have to somewhat get along. You work alongside Mormons, you share the burdens with Mormons and I have not heard of anyone being formally excommunicated for a few years, now. Or if so, it is done somewhat quietly. It really is all about numbers and I would not wager a guess to how many inactive Mormons there are but I imagine those numbers would be quite large.
And, "the Mormon underwear" is still very much around--- to tie into the OP. My older sister was cremated after she died [also in 2012] and my younger sisters dressed her in those, prior to cremation. It is just a symbol, nothing more as there wasn't even a viewing. But, I also got a chance to speak at her funeral-----also because my name was not taken off the rolls--yet.
I guess I will add that on this Forum is not an example of the real world, as it is only about doctrine. I would say that most Mormons on here that I probably could get along with them if we avoided discussing doctrine.