My argument is that if God makes vessels of wrath prepared for destruction, and nothing can change that, then it’s a lie to tell them that God has a wonderful plan for their life unless glorifying Him in His wrath is wonderful.
1. It would be something only God would know -- by definition.
2. God is the one that gives us the marching orders to take the gospel to everyone
3. It is God that says "For God
so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that
whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life.
Your argument is that "God made them for destruction" but that is not true.
22 What if God, willing to shew his wrath, and to make his power known,
endured with much longsuffering the vessels of wrath fitted to destruction:
They fitted themselves for destruction.. that is "their action"
God's action is that He "
endured with much longsuffering "
With the result that HE could say
Matthew 23 with "
How I WANTED ... but you would not"
Your argument is that God should not say "
He did everything He knew to do" and "
what more was there for me to do" when He sees failure -- Isaiah 5:4
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Romans 9 -- the vessels that fitted themselves for destruction -- are "God's OWN" in Romans 9
29 And as Isaiah said before:
“Unless the Lord of Sabaoth had left us a seed,
We would have become like Sodom,
And we would have been made like Gomorrah.”
30 What shall we say then? That Gentiles, who did not pursue righteousness, have attained to righteousness, even the righteousness of faith; 31
but Israel, pursuing the law of righteousness, has not attained to the law of righteousness.
In John 1 "
He came to HIS OWN and His OWN received Him not"
God says of that situation - - "He
did everything He knew to do" and "
what more was there for me to do" when He sees their failure -- Isaiah 5:4
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by contrast in Calvinism's false narrative -- it is GOD that arbitrarily chooses some and not others - so then in that context - just as you point out - it is not at all righteous/just/right for him to talk about his wonderful gospel when speaking to those HE KNOWS HE has MADE for destruction and then claim that doing so is "So loving THE WORLD" where in a false-advertising kind of way He goes on to claim that "whosoever receives" him has everlasting life... not at all the "WHAT ELSE was I supposed to do"? Not at all the "I have done everything" and nothing remains for me to do that I have not done for them" -- in the case of those He knows he made "FOR destruction"