- Oct 17, 2019
- 7
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- Country
- United States
- Faith
- Christian
- Marital Status
- Married
Whenever my husband and I have disagreements between us or about my boys (which is often), he ends up telling me to leave and that he doesn't want me. He also throws and breaks things in the house. I can't say a word to him when his temper is flaring, then when he's calmed, he always says "well, it's over now, people always say and do stuff they don't mean when they are upset, get over it.' I often think about leaving anyway because he is verbally abusive to me and uses excessive discipline on my children. Our latest argument the other day was over how he disciplined my 12 year old for raising his voice at him and balling his fists in anger towards him. It was because he thought my son called his 6 year old grandson a dumb dumb, and he didn't. He hit my son repeatedly in the head and when my son fell to the ground, my husband placed his size 14 shoe on his face (he is 310 pounds) and left a huge red mark on the left side of my son's face. He was telling him to shut the f' up the entire time and that he was going to kill him. This was in the garage with the door up and neighbors actually were on their step looking. I can't tell you how scared and embarrassed I was. I tried to calm him, but he kept at hit. I told my husband that it wasn't right, then he became angry with me and literally tried to force me out of the house for several hours, cursing at me, and even went so far as to tell me he was going to shut down all electricity and cable, water, etc. to force me and the kids to leave. I truly want to leave him but feel torn over starting over, but something deep in me, something that keeps me up until 3 am in the morning, is telling me I had better leave for my own good. He is constantly telling me to get out and that he doesn't want me anymore. Today I said "I know you don't love me, and he didn't respond". Yesterday my husband threatened to 'mess us all up' if we didn't respect him in the house his good credit bought. I'm 49 years old, make almost 75,000 a year in a profession I've been in for almost 20 years, and have a decent savings. I just feel while I'm not old, I shouldn't have to put up with this from my husband, and I feel its borderline abuse with my kids, if not abuse with the mark on his face. I feel I just need to start making plans for at least a separation.