I have been reading a lot about overpopulation lately and how it has and is contributing to a lot of our problems such as climate change, poverty, pollution and the depletion of the earth's natural resources. So it got me thinking how could we have avoided this situation. The obvious answer is to not produce so many people. But despite contraception, we have still overpopulated. So the question is did God intend for us to only have sex occasionally to avoid overpopulating the earth or is this inevitable.
A good deal of the children born started off as accidents. Sometimes the parents come to accept and love the child and go on to be good parents. Often, the opposite is true. My experience is that a lot of people don't think carefully about the responsibility that comes with sex It's a fun thing that makes you feel good in the moment; carefully considering the implications of sex and an honest, frank discussion about what both parties want from it tends to be seen as "killing the mood" or somehow taking away from what they see as something that should be passionate rather than rational.
I think it can, and should, be both. When both participants have a clear understanding of what each wants (whether it be kids or not kids) then you can enjoy the interaction even more knowing that you're both on the same page.
Alas, in our monetary-driven society it is more profitable to encourage emotional, reactionary interactions rather than considerate, rational interactions. People who are driven by emotional reactions are easier to manipulate, especially when you convince them that these emotional reactions are what makes them unique and interesting. I talked to a guy who said he was positive he'd found his soulmate because they were able to talk on the phone for 3 hours without getting bored. He didn't know what her life goals were, what he spending habits were like, or what her religious/political view points were; it was all an emotional, feel-good-in-the-moment stuff. This is exactly the kind of thinking that leads people into intimate situations without any thought for the consequences; they're caught up in the moment, unthinking, only feelings.
When the pregnancy comes, it's either an abortion, a begrudging responsibility for an unwanted baby, or perhaps, but less likely, shift of life goals that will genuinely care for the baby despite it's unplanned-for arrival. Out of those, option 3 is usually the rarest, and most hover around option 2 in a gray area between criminal neglect and resigned acceptance.
