Hi! I’m new here and am hoping to find some encouragement and perhaps advice about a situation with my daughters-in-law. I have 3 grown children (and 7 beautiful grandchildren!). One daughter and two sons. The problem? My daughters-in-law don’t get along.
Polly has been in our family for 10+ years. She is the mother to 5 of our grandchildren. Miranda married our son about a year ago after a few years of dating. They couldn’t be more different and the resentment is palpable. Miranda is independent, well educated, progressive and has a large, supportive family. Polly is a stay at home mom, shares our faith, doesn’t have contact with her family and struggles with some mental health issues. Miranda and Joe’s (my son) relationship is strong and very loving. She makes him incredibly happy and they are enjoying a lot of good times in their life right now. Polly and Ryan’s relationship is constantly up and down with lots of fights.
Polly is jealous of Miranda and has lashed out at her and talked about her behind her back. We know it’s wrong, but that’s just Polly and she’s family. Miranda’s reaction was to cut her off and ignore her. It’s too harsh and unfair. I want Miranda to see that she has so much and she should be patient with Polly, but my son sees it as favortism.
There was a big falling out after Joe’s wedding and he and Miranda had no contact with the family for 6 months. I tried to stick up for Polly and it resulted in Joe yelling at me and telling me to stay out of it. Slowly we have been able to see them a bit more, but it’s clear she is calling the shots. I’m afraid if I say anything, I’ll lose my son!
Polly reaches out once in a while, but Miranda brushes her off. Miranda has said she doesn’t want to be around toxic people and has basically written her off. She’s family!!
When they are together for holidays, they just ignore each other. Polly is resentful because she feels her kids have lost their Uncle Joe. I want everyone to get along and have tried to get Polly and Miranda to sit down to talk, but Joe refuses and said it’s a bad idea since Polly will just twist things and talk bad about Miranda.
Polly has no one so yes, we do “favor” her. I don’t understand why Miranda, who is nice to everyone else and has so many blessings in this world can’t offer her sister-in-law a little grace.
Anyone else in the same boat? we have prayed and prayed about this situation. I just want our family to get together like we used to and enjoy our time!
Polly has been in our family for 10+ years. She is the mother to 5 of our grandchildren. Miranda married our son about a year ago after a few years of dating. They couldn’t be more different and the resentment is palpable. Miranda is independent, well educated, progressive and has a large, supportive family. Polly is a stay at home mom, shares our faith, doesn’t have contact with her family and struggles with some mental health issues. Miranda and Joe’s (my son) relationship is strong and very loving. She makes him incredibly happy and they are enjoying a lot of good times in their life right now. Polly and Ryan’s relationship is constantly up and down with lots of fights.
Polly is jealous of Miranda and has lashed out at her and talked about her behind her back. We know it’s wrong, but that’s just Polly and she’s family. Miranda’s reaction was to cut her off and ignore her. It’s too harsh and unfair. I want Miranda to see that she has so much and she should be patient with Polly, but my son sees it as favortism.
There was a big falling out after Joe’s wedding and he and Miranda had no contact with the family for 6 months. I tried to stick up for Polly and it resulted in Joe yelling at me and telling me to stay out of it. Slowly we have been able to see them a bit more, but it’s clear she is calling the shots. I’m afraid if I say anything, I’ll lose my son!
Polly reaches out once in a while, but Miranda brushes her off. Miranda has said she doesn’t want to be around toxic people and has basically written her off. She’s family!!
When they are together for holidays, they just ignore each other. Polly is resentful because she feels her kids have lost their Uncle Joe. I want everyone to get along and have tried to get Polly and Miranda to sit down to talk, but Joe refuses and said it’s a bad idea since Polly will just twist things and talk bad about Miranda.
Polly has no one so yes, we do “favor” her. I don’t understand why Miranda, who is nice to everyone else and has so many blessings in this world can’t offer her sister-in-law a little grace.
Anyone else in the same boat? we have prayed and prayed about this situation. I just want our family to get together like we used to and enjoy our time!