Please please pray for me and my boyfriend

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I pray that the Holy Spirit leads you in this. Marriage is one of the most significant commitments available to a person. I recommend that you pray ceaselessly about this, dear sister.

Reading articles online can be helpful, but I think it would be wise to call the issuing authority. Don't assume that it is just one way or the other. Explain that you would like to get married and that your future husband does not want to be a financial dependent of his parents anymore. You may end up having to become his financial steward in that case. But truthfully, I don't know how it works. If they are not helpful, I recommend having a consultation with a lawyer who specializes in disability law. Perhaps a trust could be set up for his cash flow.

If it is God's will for you to marry and He's guiding you that way, don't give up. Civil marriage has many benefits that you would not want to sacrifice: financial, legal, medical, etc. Wouldn't you want to be listed as next of kin, the Lord forbid an emergency arise, and have your position respected and able to be asserted? Sadly, civil authorities do not respect a God-sanctioned marriage, so the paperwork is necessary for many benefits.

Many blessings and peace to you. Praying for you!
 
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Amittai

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In a so called "common law marriage" are legal disabilities as to residence, custody, money etc. Don't heap those on yourselves. Whilst marriage is given by God to humanity, the specific shapes given by laws in each country are vital to recognise.

What I don't get in your posts is TIME. Time for both of you to attain a

You & your BF aren't eternal and only God knows how the scenery is going to shift next.

Pray for your BF to pray for his own best happiness also, whether he thinks he knows it yet or not.

And realise that it's futile to try to pin God down to outcomes. The main thing is to continually approach Him. He doesn't want to "make" you feel stupid. How you feel about life is secondary. Don't fear mourning of a change in earthly relationships (we all mourn such if or when these do occur), you will face far bigger trouble later in life, either way.

With the situation around us changing hourly yet likely to continue for months or years, just plan for the next few days' survival because that is what later life is going to be like anyway.
 
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