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As I shared in another thread Jesus has set me free from thinking Negative thoughts about myself! Its so awesome as I was struggling with this issue for yrs! However even so I am still struggling with self esteem issues,as I find myself wondering at times why people like me.
I dont understand why God set me free from one issue of thinking negatively about myself,yet one so similar I cannot seem to get past it. Does this mean im not truly set free yet?
 

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As I shared in another thread Jesus has set me free from thinking Negative thoughts about myself! Its so awesome as I was struggling with this issue for yrs! However even so I am still struggling with self esteem issues,as I find myself wondering at times why people like me.
I dont understand why God set me free from one issue of thinking negatively about myself,yet one so similar I cannot seem to get past it. Does this mean im not truly set free yet?
Self esteem only puts the focus on self. Our goal is to have Christ esteem.

I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me.
(Gal 2:20)
 
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Many times healing comes in stages. Keep believing.

Mark 8:22-25

The Word of God
They came to Bethsaida. Some people brought a blind man to Jesus and begged him to touch him. He took the blind man by the hand and led him out of the village; and when he had put saliva on his eyes and laid his hands on him, he asked him, "Can you see anything?" And the man looked up and said, "I can see people, but they look like trees, walking." Then Jesus laid his hands on his eyes again; and he looked intently and his sight was restored, and he saw everything clearly. Then he sent him away to his home, saying, 'Do not even go into the village.'

Mark 8:22-25
 
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It is true, Jesus is our healer. There are miracles that happen instantly, and there are other miracles that take place but require work. Continue, to pray and fast. Ask the Lord to pull up those thoughts by the roots. It may be a test of your faith. However, never give up. The devil wants to remind us of our past, but with Christ we are free;free indeed!
 
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Many times healing comes in stages. Keep believing.

Mark 8:22-25

The Word of God
They came to Bethsaida. Some people brought a blind man to Jesus and begged him to touch him. He took the blind man by the hand and led him out of the village; and when he had put saliva on his eyes and laid his hands on him, he asked him, "Can you see anything?" And the man looked up and said, "I can see people, but they look like trees, walking." Then Jesus laid his hands on his eyes again; and he looked intently and his sight was restored, and he saw everything clearly. Then he sent him away to his home, saying, 'Do not even go into the village.'

Mark 8:22-25

Thanks so much,I am trusting and believing in the power of Jesus.
 
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It is true, Jesus is our healer. There are miracles that happen instantly, and there are other miracles that take place but require work. Continue, to pray and fast. Ask the Lord to pull up those thoughts by the roots. It may be a test of your faith. However, never give up. The devil wants to remind us of our past, but with Christ we are free;free indeed!

Thanks so much,its not even so much thinking back on my past,its being friends with people and
finding myself wondering why my friends like me,as I dont think im anything special and sometimes do things that annoy my friends also like texting them too much.
 
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As I shared in another thread Jesus has set me free from thinking Negative thoughts about myself! Its so awesome as I was struggling with this issue for yrs! However even so I am still struggling with self esteem issues,as I find myself wondering at times why people like me.
I dont understand why God set me free from one issue of thinking negatively about myself,yet one so similar I cannot seem to get past it. Does this mean im not truly set free yet?
Actually the concept of self-esteem comes from Norman Vincent Peale who was right into the occult, and says that his theory was dictated to him by an occult spirit.

Actually, the Scripture says that we as believers are dead:
"I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me" (Galatians 2:20).

Being crucified in Roman times was the worst punishment for the lowest criminal, and the person hanging on the cross was displayed stark naked in absolute shame. To the Jews, to be crucified was to have the curse of God upon them. That's about the extreme opposite of self-esteem I know of.

So if you are having issues with self-esteem, that is good! Because then you will put your whole trust in God through Christ according to the Scripture:
"Indeed, we felt we were under the sentence of death, in order that we would not trust in ourselves, but in God, who raises the dead" (2 Corinthians 1:9).

Charles Spurgeon said:
"I'm just a poor sinner, and nothing at all;
But Jesus Christ is my all in all."

D Martyn Lloyd Jones said:
"There is no such person as a good Christian. We are just vile people who have been saved by the grace of God."

So, I think the key is to forget about how you feel about yourself, and look to God to make you into the person He wants you to be. He purposely allows you to have a low self-esteem so that you will not be puffed up in pride thinking that you are more than you actually are. The Scripture says:
"For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in
accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you
" (Romans 12:3).

Also:
"But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says: "God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble" (James 4:6).

What you are feeling about yourself is humility. Value it, because it puts you in the position that as you put your faith in Christ, God is right there to give you His abundance of grace.

This enables you to know that any good that you can do in His name comes not from you, but the Holy Spirit through you. You can feel rotten about yourself, but still have love, peace, joy, kindness, gentleness, patience, faithfulness, goodness and self control, and against these things there is no law.
 
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Hi there,

What I have found is that the “enemy of our soul” likes to pick on us and tell us things that cause us to doubt. I am reminded in Ephesians 6:10-18 to put on the full armor of God because the warfare is not carnal; it’s a spiritual battle.

Reading and studying God’s Word really helps me to know who I am and to be secure in who He is. I’m also in a Bible study “The Daniel Prayer” by, Anne Graham-Lotz and in this study, she teaches us how to speak God’s Word back to Him, so that when the enemy comes at us, (and we know he will) we know how to respond. Are you involved in a Bible study? It is a great way to be connected and learn together. Keep trusting and growing in your relationship with the Lord. We know that He is faithful to teach us. I’m sure thinking of you!
 
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As I shared in another thread Jesus has set me free from thinking Negative thoughts about myself! Its so awesome as I was struggling with this issue for yrs! However even so I am still struggling with self esteem issues,as I find myself wondering at times why people like me.
I dont understand why God set me free from one issue of thinking negatively about myself,yet one so similar I cannot seem to get past it. Does this mean im not truly set free yet?
"Self-esteem" is pretty broad.

Are you insecure about a few specific weaknesses that you believe people will be driven away by, or that they will exploit?

Or do you believe that you are not good enough to be loved by God?

Or is it something else?
 
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"Self-esteem" is pretty broad.

Are you insecure about a few specific weaknesses that you believe people will be driven away by, or that they will exploit?

Or do you believe that you are not good enough to be loved by God?

Or is it something else?

I know I am loved by God as he has proven his love to me over and over again,yet find
myself wondering why my friends like me,what it is about me that people find likable. I make friendship mistakes yet my good friends stay by my side and never give up on me,and I wonder why.
 
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Hi there,

What I have found is that the “enemy of our soul” likes to pick on us and tell us things that cause us to doubt. I am reminded in Ephesians 6:10-18 to put on the full armor of God because the warfare is not carnal; it’s a spiritual battle.

Reading and studying God’s Word really helps me to know who I am and to be secure in who He is. I’m also in a Bible study “The Daniel Prayer” by, Anne Graham-Lotz and in this study, she teaches us how to speak God’s Word back to Him, so that when the enemy comes at us, (and we know he will) we know how to respond. Are you involved in a Bible study? It is a great way to be connected and learn together. Keep trusting and growing in your relationship with the Lord. We know that He is faithful to teach us. I’m sure thinking of you!

Thanks so much and Yes I am in a bible study I just came home from actually. Im also
doing an online bible study about getting rid of negative thoughts and feelings.Im on day 2 now and so far really like it.
 
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Sounds to me you don’t see yourself as innately valuable. That’s why you can except God’s ‘unconditional’ love but not from others because of your faults (which we all have).
 
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As I shared in another thread Jesus has set me free from thinking Negative thoughts about myself! Its so awesome as I was struggling with this issue for yrs! However even so I am still struggling with self esteem issues,as I find myself wondering at times why people like me.
I don't understand why God set me free from one issue of thinking negatively about myself,yet one so similar I cannot seem to get past it. Does this mean I'm not truly set free yet?

I don't think a self-esteem problem maybe a matter of being set free but rather how we see ourselves. I found a video that might help here: Authentic Self-Esteem called Authentic Self-Esteem I hope it helps. I will say there seems to be some bad advice give in the forum here to you and you will have to choose which to believe and what to discard as garbage. I will include you in my prayers.

On edit found a youtube link
 
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I know I am loved by God as he has proven his love to me over and over again,yet find
myself wondering why my friends like me,what it is about me that people find likable. I make friendship mistakes yet my good friends stay by my side and never give up on me,and I wonder why.
Do you apologize to your friends when you make mistakes? Do you thank God when they forgive you, and do you thank him for your friendships when there's nothing to forgive and those moments hit you? If so, you are doing well.

An exercise my church did a few years ago is teaching us to build our own identity statements. These statements are to be concise, and Biblical, reminders who who we are in Christ and what he has done for us. They are to focus us, and motivate assurance, thanksgiving, humility, and positivity. It is building up, without sinful pride. Verses that especially hit you because you experienced them as part of your testimony are a good place to start. Song lyrics may be appropriate as a compliment, and mothers and fathers also add in their Biblical roles as well. If you don't have something like this, I'd encourage you to build one for yourself.
 
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Sounds to me you don’t see yourself as innately valuable. That’s why you can except God’s ‘unconditional’ love but not from others because of your faults (which we all have).

This is so true,How can I learn to?
 
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Do you apologize to your friends when you make mistakes? Do you thank God when they forgive you, and do you thank him for your friendships when there's nothing to forgive and those moments hit you? If so, you are doing well.

Yes of course I do and always accept Gods forgiveness too.

An exercise my church did a few years ago is teaching us to build our own identity statements. These statements are to be concise, and Biblical, reminders who who we are in Christ and what he has done for us. They are to focus us, and motivate assurance, thanksgiving, humility, and positivity. It is building up, without sinful pride. Verses that especially hit you because you experienced them as part of your testimony are a good place to start. Song lyrics may be appropriate as a compliment, and mothers and fathers also add in their Biblical roles as well. If you don't have something like this, I'd encourage you to build one for yourself.

I love this idea and really should do this.
 
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I know I am loved by God as he has proven his love to me over and over again,yet find
myself wondering why my friends like me,what it is about me that people find likable. I make friendship mistakes yet my good friends stay by my side and never give up on me,and I wonder why.



Sometimes what you do for others is what you have other do for you. It's possible that your friends like you and stick around because you do the same thing for others too. Their perception of you might be different from the way you perceive yourself, also when you are in Christ you become a new creature, other godly people will see you and like you because of the glory of God working in your life
 
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Sometimes what you do for others is what you have other do for you. It's possible that your friends like you and stick around because you do the same thing for others too. Their perception of you might be different from the way you perceive yourself, also when you are in Christ you become a new creature, other godly people will see you and like you because of the glory of God working in your life

I do the same for all my friends being just as kind to them as they are to me,and that
is so encouraging that people see Gods glory working in me.I pray this to be true each and every day.
 
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